Alma writes on Is Dating The Same Sign Over and Over Healthy Or A Form Of Repetition Compulsion?

“Do you think that we draw people who have the same sort of energy or issues we have. For instance, I’m not completely fulfilled in my job, and I always date men who are still struggling to find themselves career-wise. Will I only attract someone with a particular trait until I possess that trait myself?”

Alma, you hear this all the time and but I am not convinced this is a hard and fast rule. I think it is far more complicated but this whole idea of “attraction” is huge so I wonder what others think.

Submit your own open question…

With Saturn in Libra, many are trying very hard to solve their relationship problems and what kills me about women (and some men) is they just don’t know how to play to their strengths or their strong points when it comes to attraction.

If you want an example of what I am talking about, consider a woman with a lot of Scorpio which is a magnetic sign. She can pull in anything she wants (yin) but instead she puts on galoshes goes out hunting a man which as far as I am concerned is akin to putting your make-up on the back of your head instead of your face.  This is just not how it’s done!

I argue all day about how it got this way but it’s irrelevant. What is important for the woman who wants to fare well with men is she play to her strengths and if she can learn to do this, she will quickly move through the hoards of women who can’t and be successful.

Do you feel you have command of your power to attract what you want? I emphasize the last because if you can attract 7000 men who leave you when you want a man who stays, that doesn’t count does it?

Your thoughts?

CK writes, regarding women hunting women: “I’d say…if you notice it or it happens significantly to you, it’s because it’s a part of you!”

And turns out, this exact thing came up during a conversation with a friend a few days ago…

“I don’t know about that,” I said. “For example, I attract people with problems. Maybe that’s because I know how to fix them. Maybe it’s not any different than a heart surgeon who attracts people with bad hearts. Who else is going to showing up at his office?” I asked. “And what about you? You cut hair. So you’re going to attract people with bad haircuts all the time. But does this mean your hair is bad? Maybe your hair is fine. Your hair actually is fine. I know that for a fact but you still attract a stream of people who need their hair fixed so I’m just not sure this whole thing holds water.”

Who do you attract?

From 2009.

Charlotte writes on How To Attract A Satisfying Love Relationship – Venus!

“I really wish it were that easy.”

Charlotte – I don’t know that it’s simple, but I know if you put your resume out there you’re going to find someone who is looking for a resume. And if you put another person’s resume out there, that’s even worse. It seems to me you have to put your SELF out there, take a chance.

Jerry Riopelle writes:

“Check my hat and cane
Check out the way I dance
But don’t you walk my way,
‘less you’re gonna take a chance…”

You have to take a leap of faith if you are ever to find someone who will love you like a human being. As long as you are trying to craft a persona, create a facade, copy someone else or become an ideal… well this is just not attractive beyond the superficial.

Continue reading Follow Up On “How To Attract A Satisfying Love Relationship” – Is It Simple?

This is from 2007 but absolutely relevant today with Saturn in Libra. It’s all about authenticity and relates to the post coming up…

Do you offer your real self in relationship?

Annalisa has a theory, we all had a “blueprint” around what we were looking for in relationship. Dark eyes, dark hair, or whatever.

“You’re sitting on a plane with whomever, and your type walks by,” she explained. “You look at him, you can’t help it. It’s the guy you are always going to notice, who is going to notice you…”

I know I have a blueprint. I have a very distinct prototype, blatantly obvious to anyone who knows me. For example, my friend Stevie, was looking at my photo albums a some years ago. She has a Scorpio Moon.

Continue reading Who Do You Love? Organic Attraction to a Certain Physical Type? Poll

For the new moon in Scorpio: How comfortable are you when uncomfortable? On being attracted while simultaneously repulsed. (8th house) (from 2008)

From March 2008: Tips on finding your ideal love –

Dina asks on  He’s Not The Into You:

“But, Elsa, what if you’re fat? Or what if you’re unkempt? Primping is so emphasized in our culture, playing the courting game, wearing clothing that flatters and changes you.. “Staying just as you are because someone’s looking for you..” I don’t know.”

Dina, one person’s fat is another person’s desirable and what is unkempt to one is casual and relaxed to another but less you think this answer is a cop out, let me make this very clear:

Continue reading Venus in Astrology: Who Do You Love? Fat, Skinny, Tall, Short, Funny, Serious…

“Why?” I asked.

“Well I’m a man, P. A man who has not been feminized,” he said.

“I know and I like it. And obviously these gay boys like it as well because they sure do chase you. You realize this didn’t just start. You’re just becoming aware of it but I’m sure gay men have been sniffing around you all your life.”

“Now why is that? Why would that be? Why me?”

“Well gay men like men. They lovvvvve men the same way I love men. This is very easy to understand. It is easy for me to see what drives a gay man because it’s the same thing that drives me. We want a man!”

“Yeah but don’t women want a man?”

“No, not so much. Some of them do but most of them don’t, at least this is how it appears to me.”

Continue reading 3 Years Ago On The Elsa Blog – Astrology and Attraction: Men, Women, Sexuality, Mars And Raw Male Energy In Nature – POLL