What would you do if you noticed a friend had pulled away? Would you question them? Try to pull them back in? Or would you let them be, maintaining the friendship within the new frame they’d established?

Where is your Venus and how is it aspected?

This is from 2008. I made the video because someone asked me about minor aspects. I ignore them due the 80/20 rule which applied to astrology would state that 80% of a person’s problems are caused by 20% of the aspects in their chart.

I am pulling this up now because I want to expand on this theory…use astrology efficiently!

satori featured this question on her blog in 2007:

“If your house was burning down and you only had time to save one thing, what would it be?”

(Assuming all children and animals were safe)

Having Libra, I would not be able to decide what to take so I would leave it all. With Venus mashed with Neptune it’s the nebulous I value anyway. Also, being wiped out is acceptable to my packed 8th house.
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What would you save? Can you see the “why” in your chart?

joana writes:

“…Scorpios are definitely overrated, just as Virgos are underrated.”

I agree that Virgo is underrated as is Capricorn. Pisces is rarely valued outside of being a sex toy for Scorpio so I would call them underrated as well. I can’t see that any of the signs are overrated. You?

Is there are sign you feel is given more credit than they deserve? How about a sign that is undervalued?

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Sagittarians are focused on the “truth” and are known to be candid. They are bawdy and confident and there is an innate interest in religion, spirituality and philosophy. They are the travelers and storytellers of the zodiac, always on a quest to expand their horizons. Some feel with the Sun in Sagittarius, the ego is expanded. Sagittarius rules outdoor sports.

I’m one of those people you hate because of genetics. It is the truth.
Brad Pitt

I’m not really religious but very spiritual. I give money to this company that manufactures hearing aids on a regular basis. More people should really hear me sing. I have a gift from God.
Christina Aguilera

Continue reading Astrology Quotes: Sagittarius In Their Own Words

Having a fairly strong Libra / 7th house signature in my chart I have always been uncomfortable with the crusade against co-dependence that began in the 80′s. How can Libra (codependent) be all wrong and Aries (independent) be all right?

Masaru Emoto (the water crystal guy) writes in his new book, The Shape of Love: Discovering Who We Are, Where We Came From, and Where We’re Going :

“… Dependence requires getting closer to someone, and this requires courage. I am positive that you can find someone you feel natural and comfortable with to build such a relationship. Once you become comfortable depending on someone else, you will be able to let others depend on you.”

I like that he has married the opposition between Aries in Libra here by asserting it takes courage (Aries) to relate to the other (Libra). Do you agree?

Is it more courageous to stand alone, or alongside another?

From 2007 – This weekend I drove 16 hours round trip to spend 10 hours with the soldier (we’re married now) during which time we had to sleep. I admit this is weird but it suits me and I was especially aware of this driving home.

I like to move. I like going places. I like to be alone too, for that matter and driving to meet him affords this. Guess what? You can’t bother me I’m in the car! I think I’m a knife. I think I am Snoopy on his doghouse having an adventure and I don’t have a complaint in the world.

Continue reading Are You Well Suited To Unconventional Relationship?

I have a friend who is cautious because whenever he tries to shirk anything, he’s typically caught and the consequences are generally severe.

I, on the other hand, get away with almost everything.  When I am caught the consequences are what would be expected some of the time,  but frequently they are light and even more frequently they are waived all together.

Continue reading Karma and Consequences Mild and Severe: Saturn in the Natal Chart?

Dear Unsettled,

Of course you are being played. You are also playing for Godsakes, so what do you expect? Did you slip on a banana peel and land on this guy’s dick? No. You deliberately mounted him and now you get exactly what anyone with sense would expect. You get to be this guy’s piece on the side and I’ll tell you where you’re losing the plot.

Throughout your mail, you are trying convince that this guy really likes you and is spending time with you over his girlfriend etc. You are simultaneously in nearly complete denial over the fact both of you are of low character and you seem to think this can work out. Well here’s a reality check: it can’t.

His friends are not “suspicious”. I have no doubt they know exactly what he is up to. He is spending a lot of time with you, no doubt because you are screwing his lights out… but why? To acquire him? To get him from the other woman? And if you manage this what do you think you’ll have? I’ll tell you.

You’ll have a boyfriend who cheats on you and flaunts it in front of friends. You know. He’ll bring his other lover to his games and show her off. She’ll dress sexy at them too, wanna bet? His friends will laugh.

Look. You have screwed up. You have played and been played and there is no way to win. All you can do is cut your losses and I am sorry this is harsh. But the fact is, you’ve got a Saturn transit going and this crap just will not fly.

Good Luck.

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I was talking to pal about her difficulty finding a partner.

“You haven’t had the greatest role model as far as being in a happy relationship with a man goes,” I said. “Look at your mother. Her priority is to have, and preferably to have more than other people. A man is irrelevant to her for the most part.”

“He is.”

“I know. She doesn’t even care if she likes the guy. Her focus is on having more all the time. She wants as much as possible and being happy is not even in the equation.”

Continue reading Your Inheritance Around Forming A Loving Intimate Relationship: Bountiful Or Bust?