Astrologer, cf Perez got my attention when she made a statement about inequity in relationships.

She said that when one person in a relationship gave far more than the other, the person who was indebted filled in with anger. I was stunned with this simple observation and I think she’s correct.
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Last night someone told me that what they said didn’t count because they said it when they were mad. I disagreed, feeling a person is responsible for what they say, regardless of your mood. Having Mars (impulsive, angry) conjunct Mercury (speech), I have learned this the hard way. Matter of fact, every single regret I have is over something I said when I was hotted up and angry that I didn’t mean.

Having suffered profoundly over what came tumbling from my mouth when I was younger I have learned to make sure I say what I mean and mean what I say. Having the conjunction in the 9th house, I better believe (9th house) what I say (Mercury) or I am going down.

Continue reading If You Say It When You’re Angry, Does It Count?

This post is a PS to the Bridezillas post where I acknowledged I have various skittish behaviors.

My husband and I were talking over Christmas and one thing that came up was my tendency to get pissed off, (irrationally so) in certain circumstances.   The main scenario that sets me off is when his schedule gets out of whack which throws my schedule out of whack.

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Cap writes on Does Everyone Have A Dark Side?

I definitely have anger. I wouldn’t call it “anger issues” – although, its been a little bit lately due to hormones and sleep deprivation, but I am aware of it. I used to date men who were angry and point fingers at them, until Elsa P came along and said HELLO!

So I wonder how do you “integrate” an angry shadow?

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grrr asks on Contempt in Relationships:

“Elsa would you tell us more about the unconscious Mars bit?! At first I assumed it was unconscious Saturn: feeling less-then in the area that the other person excels at or is perceived as.”

Aggressive People Who Believe Themselves Passive
Venomous Women
Anger, Depression and Expression of your Mars Energy
Fight in Front Of Your Kids? Hey! Might Not Be So Bad…
Run With Women Like This… Never Be Happy With A Man

There you go!

“Marlon Brando and Sophia Loren, they hated each other,” I told the soldier on the phone. “Yeah, they didn’t get along at all and they made a movie together. Apparently it was a disaster because they hated each other and they had no chemistry at all. And they had to hug and stuff.”

He laughed.

“Yeah, so anyway you know how Brando is – he fucks with people to no end so apparently he had her in an embrace and he said in her ear, how come there are black hairs growing out of your nose?” I snorted. “And he groped her too I guess and she was pissed and she never forgave him.”

Continue reading Astrology And Mars In The Horoscope: What Makes You Angry?

I was talking to Scott about his transcendent nature.

“Well, you never write anybody off. Most people can hit their limit. They say that’s it! I’m not going to have any more of that and they mean it.”

“I rarely get that pissed off,” he said. “In fact, the only person I have ever been that mad at is you!”

I laughed. “I know, and then you get over it. That’s my point. You decide I’m not that bad after all and we started talking again. This is what I mean. I don’t think you can write anyone off for any reason, it’s just not in your nature.”

I’m talking to the soldier here. It’s very obvious my Mercury (thoughts) are is conjunct Mars (sex and aggression).

“I realized something,” I said. “I get pretty stupid at times. Like when I am happy and having a lot of sex, I get positively docile. It’s as if I can’t think at all. No need! But just as soon as I feel threatened, you better look out! All the sudden my brain fires up and I become… well, I become freakishly brilliant. All the sudden I can think up, down into the ground, and next thing you know a persons is screwed, blued and tattooed. I have them wrapped up tight and this is all done before it’s even occurred to them I might rise from my slumber. That I might have any ability at all. But until I’m threatened? Nothing. I appear to be some kind of pure fool.”
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Here’s a good bit for Mars (anger) square Venus (love):

At 65 years old, feminist writer and activist, Vivian Gornick writes in an essay titled, “What Independence Has Come to Mean to Me: The Pain of Solitude. The Pleasure of Self-Knowledge”

Continue reading Mars Square Venus… Boldly Wrought by “Vivian Gornick” in “The Bitch In The House”

From the Financial Times: Men bear the brunt of US jobs lost

Sarah O’Connor writes:

“The US recession has opened up the biggest gap between male and female unemployment rates since records began in 1948, as men bear the brunt of the economy’s contraction.

Men have lost almost 80 per cent of the 5.1m jobs that have gone in the US since the recession started, pushing the male unemployment rate to 8.8 per cent. The female jobless rate has hit 7 per cent.”

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