From January 2008, I project my 7th house and guess what? So do you!

There were a lot of questions in the comments, I have started to address them here: Astrology Q&A – What if there is nothing in my 7th house?

From 2007 – This weekend I drove 16 hours round trip to spend 10 hours with the soldier (we’re married now) during which time we had to sleep. I admit this is weird but it suits me and I was especially aware of this driving home.

I like to move. I like going places. I like to be alone too, for that matter and driving to meet him affords this. Guess what? You can’t bother me I’m in the car! I think I’m a knife. I think I am Snoopy on his doghouse having an adventure and I don’t have a complaint in the world.

Continue reading Are You Well Suited To Unconventional Relationship?

I am learning about how people relate and I didn’t mean to, but I came across the name, John Gottman who is a psychologist who wrote among other things, The Mathematics of Marriage: Dynamic Nonlinear Models.

This guy studied relationship in an effort to be able to predict who would divorce and who would not with very limited data and he came up with a super effective formula. He claims that if he can can listen to a couple talk about *anything, for an hour, he can predict with 95% accuracy if they will be married or divorced within 15 years. If he listens for just 15 minutes, he can still predict this with 90% accuracy.

Continue reading Saturn In Libra / Saturn Transit The 7th House: Mathematics Of Marriage and Composite Charts – Predicting Divorce

On the drive to New Mexico, I was thinking about Kate (Kate Mulvey Can’t Get A Date And It’s Because Of You!) and trying to fathom her and people like her. People who project their shadow onto others, that is. How do they get that way? Better yet, how do they stay that way?

Continue reading 3 Years Ago On The Elsa Blog: Astrology and Psychology: Projecting Your Shadow And Various Other Sundries…

There are parts of the personality which a person will tend to ignore, project or simply be unaware of. Planets in the 12th house give reliable information as do planets in the 7th.

Planets touched by Neptune or placed in Libra give clues.

Anyone else got ideas about this?

This is from January, 2008. My friend, Ben, a progressive Aquarius rising with Uranus on the descendant opposing finds out what he has projected, integrates it and becomes even more liberated.

Update… this stuff will come front and center with Saturn in Libra. It costs you when you give your qualities to the other. Also, I mention in here that my life was in tatters at the time of the recording and it was. You can see I have something beyond a mere poker face. Jeez.

mudlikesubstance wrote on Facts Of My Life:

“…As for the lesson of assuming that others are like us. That strikes me as a very important lesson here. I make that assumption and it turns around and bites me. I am learning. slowly that not everyone means well, is nice and is trying hard…”

I think it’s critical and perhaps now I can try to convey something hard to convey, at least to the regulars here. I think over these recent days, if you’ve been tracking in particular the Domesticating Elsa posts you may be realizing (or remembering) that I don’t come from anywhere normal. I really and truly do not and I am telling you that you can’t undo this stuff.
Continue reading Do People Always Seem To Disappoint You? Why Is That? (People Are Individuals Redux)

Dear Sagittarian,

Yes, I have suggestions but I don’t think you’ll like them. But you asked, so here they come:

First, I am suspect of anyone who suggests their partner ‘will not grow up” when they report they have displayed the exact same behavior their partner has.

Second, I suspect anyone who claims to love someone BUT. You love him if only he will conform to your dictates, which of course is not love at all. You don’t want anyone else, however he is not okay the way he is.

Now I am sorry but with this kind of attitude not only is this relationship going to fail but so will the next, the next and the next and the next. And I am not trying to say this guy is innocent. Thing is, you asked how you could get past your mistakes and the fact is you can only get by your own mistakes. And based on what you’ve written your boyfriend is on the fence as to whether he wants to salvage the relationship at all which is another problem for you to face.

You cannot control him. You want to get by your mistakes; he wants someone he can trust. He does not trust you and he does not know if he ever will and if you respected him and if you were mature yourself ,you would give him the time and space to figure this out. As it is, you sound like a General… albeit a nice one with velvet gloves.

But control is control and control is not love, is it?

If you want the man back, look in the mirror. You have a seventh house packed with Libra and you would be well advised to take your energy off him completely and work on your own issues around being a good partner. Frankly, anything less and I don’t think you have much hope.

Good luck.

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There were all kinds of questions on the 1 Minute Video: Astrology – Psychology, The 7th House And Projection In Relationship where I talked about the phenomena of how the 7th house gets projected in love relationships. I am going to answer some of them so here goes:

jamie asks:

“What if you don’t have any in the 7th, Elsa? Aries is on my Desc. (I married an Aries Moon.)“

If you don’t have anything in the seventh house you consider the sign on the cusp. Aries on the cusp of the seventh is akin to have Mars in the seventh house… PERIOD.

If you want more information you can look to the condition of Mars in your chart and so on but to keep this very simple, Aries on the cusp of the seventh = Mars in the seventh. Once you can understand and assimilate that, then go looking for more.

As an example as a Capricorn rising I have Cancer on the seventh. This is akin to having the Moon in the seventh. My partner is emotional, needy, dependent. That’s not me or anything…

What sign is on the cusp of your 7th house? Can you see how you project these qualities onto the other?

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