You’re in a relationship and you no longer want to be. You may be married and someone else has caught your eye. It may be that you’re dating someone and you want out but you don’t want to face your partner honestly and own your feelings. So what do you do?
It’s common that people in this circumstance start to degrade their partner. They start to find fault with them, and begin to shut them out. They offer vague complaints that are impossible for their partner to address. In some cases they gaslight (tag – gaslighting) the person by pulling away and insisting they are not, or something similar. They avoid or refuse sex.
Some people take a more overt approach. They start accusing the partner of various things, like cheating, when they know damned well this has not occurred.
Have you ever used tactics like this, or had them used on you? What is the proper the way to leave your lover? What aspect in a chart incline a person to do this or have it been done to them?