The Denver Post reports that the divorce rate in Colorado has dropped dramatically since 2009. Prior to the recession home values were soaring here like everywhere else. This allowed a couple to sell their home and use the profit to start their new independent lives. Home values have dropped roughly 30% since. Many people have little or no equity in their homes so couples are choosing (or being forced) to stay together for financial reasons.
Astrologers would point to Saturn (limits) in Libra (money) to explain this. People who are partnered enjoy more stability and financial safety and this raises an interesting debate.
Some would say that money is a horrible reason to stay together but if you think about this on a deeper level, there is potential benefit here. For one thing, people who constantly leave and leave and leave rarely end up in better circumstances 20 years down the road. Also, there is something about depending on another person and having them depend on you that can knit people together and enrich them both.
Working together towards a joint goal is very rewarding and often people who do stick together and weather a storm are glad once it’s passed. There is also something to be said for showing your children that problems can be worked through and the idea you can just churn through people and houses indefinitely was probably not realistic anyway.
We discussed this on vacation and I equated it to being stuck on a job. What if you ARE stuck at a job? Some people may be miserable and make the people around them miserable but others might recognize the reality of the situation they’re in and grow in some way that allows them to feel content. They may learn about transcendence for example, or they may cherish the time they are not at work and enjoy it like never before.
Ideally, no one would ever suffer but in the real world, something happens to everyone. You may get sick or you may get injured. It may be your child or your spouse who gets sick but something eventually happens to everyone. Most people think there are no accidents so why not look for the silver lining?
Do you think there may be an advantage to be financially dependent on your spouse?