Dear Confused,

I am sorry this man’s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get “closure” because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he’s not capable of giving it to you.

He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn’t like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn’t), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:

Continue reading Virgo Man Pulls Away From Pisces Woman – She Wants Closure

This question has come up several times in the last week or so.  A man or a woman has made this statement and I have been asked (and asked others) what it means.  The responses have been varied.

Some think that when someone says this to you, they will never marry you.

Continue reading “I’m Not Ready To Get Married…” What Does This Mean?

Dear Elsa,

I am wondering about relationships where there a lot of Pluto aspects at work, deep intense crazy connections, that seem to be rearranging your inner organs, can they last?

What I mean is, if Pluto is transforming and obsessive, and related to death and rebirth, is it the kind of thing a relationship can have a lot of and survive? Is there sort of a built in time frame, a transformational process that naturally ends, or does it just keep working on you endlessly?

Curious
United States

Continue reading Can Intense Relationships With Scorpio Or Pluto Types Last Or Do They Die By Their Nature?

Regarding that picture when I was 9, my sister wrote:

“That dress you are wearing came in this package someone gave us for rodeo week. We had to dress rodeo for school so someone gave us three dresses, that was one. The other two were gingham and ugly. (I decided.)

I had a thing for velvet and that dress had some velvet so I was considering it very carefully, so were you.

I decided I couldn’t wear western. I decided I hated western wear on that day and you ended up putting on the dress. Everyone thought you looked cute so Henry took your picture in it, remember?”
Continue reading Budding Astrologers… With Capricorn Risings

To a client…

“You’re right! You’re right about this guy’s pathology, but so what?  Just because you correctly identify a pattern in someone’s behavior, this does not mean they are going to change it to meet a standard that you set.  They’re far more likely to do exactly what they do. It’s like saying, hey! You have blonde hair!  Well so I do, they say!  Even if they’re surprised at what you’ve plucked out and shown to them, they’re still very likely to just go off and live with their blonde hair as it is.  A person is not going to just  start making adjustments to fall into line with what you think is proper. Why would they?  It’s hard to be something you’re not or to change your way of being.  Very few are going to do that, there’s no motivation to make that kind of effort…”

Do you really, really understand that you’re not running the other person’s life?

I was thinking about this which is what led me to pull up the video about breaking your psychological patters in relationships.  Have you ever seen anyone who does nothing but run into the same issue, every day, in every way?  Let’s say it’s a woman who does not trust men.  All she seems to do is run into men she can’t trust!

Or how about men who meet needy women over and over and over and over?  Or maybe it’s rejecting women they can’t seem to dodge.
Continue reading Everywhere You Go, There’s Your Pathology!

Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people  care to admit. The cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied but what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone.  I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40′s: Now What? Astrology-Based Advice

Dear Confused,

Scorpios can be faithful when they choose to be and are in fact well recognized as one of the most loyal signs in the zodiac. Matter of fact, I would be more apt to trust Scorpio than any of the other signs by far, so I don’t think this has to do with some shortcoming universal to Scorpio at all. It’s more a personal problem you’re having and all through your post I was thinking about Mixed Nuts.

Continue reading Pisces Woman Inundated With Heartless Cheating Scorpio Men

I wrote How To Learn Astrology: Books For Beginners Instructions How To Use Them, a concise how-to on how to settle in and learn to read a chart. I recommended you read through interpretations of the transits to your chart from one of two books in order to get a handle on things. Someone asked where to get such a listing and you can get that here, not only a list but a short interpretation.

Here is a sample:

Continue reading Beginners Studying Astrology? Get A List Of The Transits To Your Chart For A Year – $10!

Dear Frustrated,

You are a beautiful dreamer and I’ll tell you exactly what is going on. The divine love you can conceive of in your imagination just doesn’t exist on this plane. Because this is Earth, which falls way short of “heaven”.

I have similar tendency in relationships, though nowhere near your prowess, and I’ll tell you a story to illustrate. Back when I was young, nineteen, I stopped into a bar one night and saw, “Rueben”. Rueben was this Mexican guy playing guitar and I don’t know. He just made me slobber all over the place. I called him, “Rue-ooh-ooh-ben!”, and I started showing up at this bar, couple nights a week to pine over him.

Continue reading Fantasy Love – Pining Over A Musician – Venus Square Neptune