How to not cause problems. How to let the universe solve the problems you do have…

“I love all my kids the same.” Most mothers say that perhaps it’s true though from a certain angle. But from other angles it hard to substantiate and in some cases it’s flat out obvious a mother prefers one child over the other.

As for the way I titled this post, I think it is possible for a mother to love a child but just not like them all that much and reasons are endless.

There may be a personality conflict. The kid just may rub the mother the wrong way. The mother may need a scapegoat or someone to carry her shadow. The kid may look (or act) like the father who the mother has come to loathe, etc.

Continue reading Pluto In Capricorn: Shadow Side Of Parenting – Just Because She’s Your Mother, It Doesn’t Mean She Likes You

I glanced at the planets today and with Mars in Cancer opposing Pluto and squaring the Moon and Uranus, it seems a good day to write about something acute. I have been thinking about people who poison others, particularly children, at the root. I touched on this in 2009 and it was a popular topic, A Personal Story Of Poisoning. Today I want to take a broader look at this topic.

Continue reading Undermining Children, Poisoning Them At The Root

This is another post on parenting. It may be provocative, I don’t know. It may be asinine for all I know but to me it’s a mind-bender so I thought I would throw it out here.

You may or may not know that satori is an expert on narcissism. I am not. But I listen carefully when she talks about this and some years ago she mentioned a game that people play, “How little will you take?”

Continue reading Pluto In Capricorn: Collapse Of Ambition, Death Of The Backbone, Etc.

I know this is a really common problem.  It’s laughably common but not at all funny.  Your kid rages… or whatever it is they do. They hit the school system and you have problems, they have problems, their teacher has problems and you get a reality check.

You get a reality check that should immediately be passed on to the 6 year old who is heading into their first Saturn square.

This is for a client…

Continue reading Parenting A Six Or Seven-Year-Old Hell-Raiser

Last night I was talking reality with my son.  I explained that fuel costs were rising as was the cost of food.

“Say you have $100 and you spend $50 of it to fill your car with gas so that you can get to work.  That leaves you $50 to buy food. But what if now cost $75 to fill the tank of your car?  Now you’ve only got $25 for food and then you get to the grocery store and see the price of the food is higher than what you are used to paying.  Can you see how that would create a problem?”

He could understand.

I recently worked very hard to make him understand that his grades at school really did matter.  He gets this now but had I not really impressed this upon him, I don’t think he would.  He went to school to spread the word – that your failing in 8th grade is going to create a problem in 9th and 10th, 11th and 12th and life in general but no one believes him.  The kids simply don’t think that anything bad can happen.  This makes my son a “doomsayer” of course. How Saturnian!

Continue reading Teaching Kids About Harsh Realities

I wonder what people teach their children about money and how they do it, if they do it. Do you set an example? Do you specifically teach some kind of philosophy?

My son has his Sun in Taurus conjunct Saturn and I have no doubt he is going to be able to manage money. Matter of fact, his Sun, Moon and Ascendant are all in Venus-ruled signs with Venus elevated so I’d not be surprised if he were to become known for his money but in whatever case, he is going on 12 years old and I’ve just come up with the new money rules.
Continue reading What Do You Teach Your Children About Money?

Caroline started a thread on the boards, Men and Their Relationships With Their Mothers

I responded:

“I wouldn’t go near a man who dogged his mother. Even if she is a first rate nut job, he still better show some deference and respect otherwise – out the door!

That said, a man enmeshed with his mother is out the door even faster.

Best is a man who accepts him mom with her faults, which he can see.  I was told many years ago,  they’ll treat you exactly as they do their mother and I’ve found this to be very true.”

Continue reading Love, Parents And The Saturn Return

This is another one of those taboo topics in regards to parenting that I am so fond of.  With Pluto in Capricorn, I get to talk about stuff like this and I won’t bother to hide my glee.

Most parents say they want their child to have a better life than they did and I think most of them mean it. How much they actually invest in this goal may vary but I think parents who want their kids to suffer beyond what they’ve endured are part of a small minority.

Some specify they want their kids to have a better opportunity then they did so they work hard and save so they can pay for their child’s college education which might have been something they either didn’t get or had to struggle to pay for. You get the idea.  And this all goes well except for when it doesn’t.

Continue reading Children Who Do Not / Cannot Surpass The Accomplishments Of Their Parents

I was talking to my husband the other day about the success (or lack of success) we have had as parents. It’s not the easiest thing to ask yourself but it’s interesting to ponder anyway. It’s definitely a subject one can spin.

I don’t particularly consider myself a successful parent but in carefully evaluating this, I do think I’ve managed to hit the note most important to me. My kids know about love. They know how love and relationship can enrich your life. They have seen it demonstrated (in spades) and this was a core desire of mine.

Continue reading What Is The Number One Thing You’d Like To Pass On Or Model For Your Children?