Uranus and Pluto are transiting my husband’s natal T-square, tight. He’s continuing his training in Phoenix today and I can’t see the whirlwind he is in letting up anytime soon.

My son has Uranus and Pluto on his angles, aspecting his Moon, Mercury and Jupiter. He unrecognizable from a year ago.

I have the transits as well but I am too close to the situation to really have a handle on what is going on, other than everything around me is happening quickly and there is a finality to it.  For example, my son is hitting puberty and from here we go to the future, not the past.
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You’ve just got to stand back and let your boy become a man…

Got any words of wisdom?

How to not cause problems. How to let the universe solve the problems you do have…

“I love all my kids the same.” Most mothers say that perhaps it’s true though from a certain angle. But from other angles it hard to substantiate and in some cases it’s flat out obvious a mother prefers one child over the other.

As for the way I titled this post, I think it is possible for a mother to love a child but just not like them all that much and reasons are endless.

There may be a personality conflict. The kid just may rub the mother the wrong way. The mother may need a scapegoat or someone to carry her shadow. The kid may look (or act) like the father who the mother has come to loathe, etc.

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I glanced at the planets today and with Mars in Cancer opposing Pluto and squaring the Moon and Uranus, it seems a good day to write about something acute. I have been thinking about people who poison others, particularly children, at the root. I touched on this in 2009 and it was a popular topic, A Personal Story Of Poisoning. Today I want to take a broader look at this topic.

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This is another post on parenting. It may be provocative, I don’t know. It may be asinine for all I know but to me it’s a mind-bender so I thought I would throw it out here.

You may or may not know that satori is an expert on narcissism. I am not. But I listen carefully when she talks about this and some years ago she mentioned a game that people play, “How little will you take?”

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I know this is a really common problem.  It’s laughably common but not at all funny.  Your kid rages… or whatever it is they do. They hit the school system and you have problems, they have problems, their teacher has problems and you get a reality check.

You get a reality check that should immediately be passed on to the 6 year old who is heading into their first Saturn square.

This is for a client…

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Last night I was talking reality with my son.  I explained that fuel costs were rising as was the cost of food.

“Say you have $100 and you spend $50 of it to fill your car with gas so that you can get to work.  That leaves you $50 to buy food. But what if now cost $75 to fill the tank of your car?  Now you’ve only got $25 for food and then you get to the grocery store and see the price of the food is higher than what you are used to paying.  Can you see how that would create a problem?”

He could understand.

I recently worked very hard to make him understand that his grades at school really did matter.  He gets this now but had I not really impressed this upon him, I don’t think he would.  He went to school to spread the word – that your failing in 8th grade is going to create a problem in 9th and 10th, 11th and 12th and life in general but no one believes him.  The kids simply don’t think that anything bad can happen.  This makes my son a “doomsayer” of course. How Saturnian!

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I wonder what people teach their children about money and how they do it, if they do it. Do you set an example? Do you specifically teach some kind of philosophy?

My son has his Sun in Taurus conjunct Saturn and I have no doubt he is going to be able to manage money. Matter of fact, his Sun, Moon and Ascendant are all in Venus-ruled signs with Venus elevated so I’d not be surprised if he were to become known for his money but in whatever case, he is going on 12 years old and I’ve just come up with the new money rules.
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Caroline started a thread on the boards, Men and Their Relationships With Their Mothers

I responded:

“I wouldn’t go near a man who dogged his mother. Even if she is a first rate nut job, he still better show some deference and respect otherwise – out the door!

That said, a man enmeshed with his mother is out the door even faster.

Best is a man who accepts him mom with her faults, which he can see.  I was told many years ago,  they’ll treat you exactly as they do their mother and I’ve found this to be very true.”

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