Dear Elsa,

I am wondering about relationships where there a lot of Pluto aspects at work, deep intense crazy connections, that seem to be rearranging your inner organs, can they last?

What I mean is, if Pluto is transforming and obsessive, and related to death and rebirth, is it the kind of thing a relationship can have a lot of and survive? Is there sort of a built in time frame, a transformational process that naturally ends, or does it just keep working on you endlessly?

Curious
United States

Continue reading Can Intense Relationships With Scorpio Or Pluto Types Last Or Do They Die By Their Nature?

miatopia watched this old video, People Who Marry You When They Don’t Even Like You and started a thread to discuss the qualities of Venus/Neptune people on the boards. I have Venus in aspect to Neptune. I have written a lot about it over the years. I’ve written about the sensitivity to music and the deception which is perpetrated by the Venus Neptune person as often as they are preyed upon, though they’re usually more comfortable in the victim role then they are with owning their side of things, assuming they can see their side which often they can’t.

I’m posting because one things has never come up on this blog.  It’s the way relationships (Venus) can drain (Neptune) a person who has this in their chart.  People can really wipe you out and you pray to escape them.
Continue reading Love And Relating To Others With Venus In Aspect To Neptune

With Saturn in Libra, many are trying very hard to solve their relationship problems and what kills me about women (and some men) is they just don’t know how to play to their strengths or their strong points when it comes to attraction.

If you want an example of what I am talking about, consider a woman with a lot of Scorpio which is a magnetic sign. She can pull in anything she wants (yin) but instead she puts on galoshes goes out hunting a man which as far as I am concerned is akin to putting your make-up on the back of your head instead of your face.  This is just not how it’s done!

I argue all day about how it got this way but it’s irrelevant. What is important for the woman who wants to fare well with men is she play to her strengths and if she can learn to do this, she will quickly move through the hoards of women who can’t and be successful.

Do you feel you have command of your power to attract what you want? I emphasize the last because if you can attract 7000 men who leave you when you want a man who stays, that doesn’t count does it?

Your thoughts?

Regarding that picture when I was 9, my sister wrote:

“That dress you are wearing came in this package someone gave us for rodeo week. We had to dress rodeo for school so someone gave us three dresses, that was one. The other two were gingham and ugly. (I decided.)

I had a thing for velvet and that dress had some velvet so I was considering it very carefully, so were you.

I decided I couldn’t wear western. I decided I hated western wear on that day and you ended up putting on the dress. Everyone thought you looked cute so Henry took your picture in it, remember?”
Continue reading Budding Astrologers… With Capricorn Risings

Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people  care to admit. The cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied but what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone.  I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40′s: Now What? Astrology-Based Advice

There are some things you are better off not fighting over, namely a person’s nature…

Is there something about your partner that you really ought to just accept?

Dear Stellium,

In my experience men like to have sex… with someone. And if you are someone they want to have sex with, they most definitely do not “avoid” it. Since this is what he is doing, the odds are overwhelming that despite your passion, this man has no sexual interest in you.

The other clue is he says he “likes” you  That’s decidedly lukewarm when compared to your professing your love for him so I think what you’ve got here is a fantasy. And there is nothing wrong with that.

Fantasy serves a purpose in that it is an escape from reality. But I do think if you move on this guy, he’s going to reject you which will be no fun for either party. Rather than something you can actually have, you might consider this situation akin to reading a romance novel. It is what it is, but nothing more.

I’m sorry and good luck.

One thing you hear all the time is that relationships are hard. I can see this but I also know that relationships are extremely simple when you boil them down because this is something I do for people on a daily basis. Mars in Libra can cut to the chase when it comes to love and it’s shocking how things simplify once a knot is untied or the fog lifted or the light gets turned on. In some cases it takes all 3 functions but so? Bam, bam, bam and all the sudden – clarity.

With their head clear, some people turn their situations around on a dime. Others begin a journey but if you think along these lines, that love is hard, you might look around because if you do you’re bound to see people whose relationships are not at all “hard”. You’ll find people whose relationships are satisfying, rewarding and fulfilling. People who will tell you that their relationship is the most important thing in their life and when you hear this from someone, the old rule that says that love is hard becomes unreliable because it’s been refuted.

Continue reading Relationships Are Hard But Love Is Easy – Huh?

Yes, Libra, you’re nice. Now learn to say no!