Saturn in Libra: Judging Your Relationships, and Cannibalism ::wink:: By satori
“What at first seemed sexy and progressive now struck him as vulgar and insecure.”
–John Irving, Last Night in Twisted River
Much has been said
about Saturn’s move into Libra and solidifying one’s relationships. I’m starting to look at the people in my life and decide whether or not they’re worth it. Is that harsh? It is, but it feels necessary. I sure don’t have unlimited resources, financial or emotional, and I’m feeling the crunch. I’m circling the wagons, figuring out who to keep in my lifeboat.
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1 Minute Astrology: Jupiter Conjunct Uranus in Pisces / Aries In 2010
More on how these planets combine – tag – Jupiter Uranus
It’s fast and I mean F-A-S-T.
How prone are you at act on your intuition?
See what is coming up – Transit Watch
Regarding The Chat Now – Live Feature On This Blog
Behind the scenes @ ElsaElsa
A few days ago we launched Chat Now – Live and jo asks:
“elsa- i have a question… i’ve never seen the chat module on the sidebar, and i’m on here pretty often. im using google chrome… is it only compatible with certain browsers, or.. am i just always on when you’re not?”
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Transits and Aspects: Lemons and Lemon Products by satori
“We are standing on a whale fishing for minnows.”
–Joseph Campbell
My teenaged son’s best friend was hit by a car yesterday. Again. It was the fourth time. He’s relatively fine and the driver had insurance which will cover his hospital bill. Four times really is amazing, though. This last time happened near the entrance to the grocery store, the same grocery store where he was recently mugged. My son told me he was right there when some guy punched his friend and took the friend’s gallon of milk.
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Starts In 2 Days: Dealer’s Choice, An Astrology Class Zombie Jamboree Free-For-All
Come on, come all!
The next session in the Colosseum which will start in 2 day. I asked what topics people wanted to cover and got such a wide variety of interesting ideas, I decided to take them all on.
- Parenting
- Attraction
- Thriving in 2010
- Projection
- The Moon
- Mars
- The kitchen sink
You name it, this time we’re going to have a free for all. This class will be called, “Dealer’s Choice”.
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Love and Money: Venus in the 8th House – Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I have been dating a man for four years now. He has been very supportive of me emotionally at a time when I especially needed someone to make me feel loved and accepted. He is very focused on me, watching me all the time and telling me he wants to take care of me. He sometimes complains that my mood is not what is called for; i.e., I am not romantic enough or focused enough on him. His ultimate ambition is a successful relationship with his woman.
I’ve had the experience of a long-term relationship with a man who was emotionally distant and I was miserable, so I know the value of finding a man who wants to be emotionally close. The problem is finances. He has a good job, but he never has really aspired to anything more than just a job. He also has a lot of debt from his first marriage. I’ve worked hard to gain a post-graduate degree and have taken some risks that have enabled me to make more money.
One of my priorities in a marriage is that we be able to attain an above average standard of living. I fear that I would be settling for something less than that if I were to marry this man. And yet, I know that money does not make happiness.
We are both in our forties and he is a Libra. What do you think?
Unsure
Dear Unsure,
I think I can make this very simple for you, so I’m going to do that first and then I’m going to make this hard. Here is the simple solution: Leave him! Could you do it? I’m guessin’ you’d be cryin’ for this guy within a week and crying even harder six months down the road.
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Neptune / Pisces Pining Over a Lost Lover – Does It Fuel Art? POLL
Ask the collective…
With the stellium in Pisces, I thought this deserved a 2nd run. From 2007…
I had a question yesterday I couldn’t use for the blog because rather than “advice” the gal wanted a specific opinion. She explained her situation and then asked:
“Should I pine or move on?”
Although her question didn’t fit the format of the blog, I did email her back my opinion which is this: I don’t believe in pining! If I want more, I go back and get it and if I’ve had enough I move on. I would equate pining with purgatory. But then I got to thinking about it.
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Two Timing Boyfriend Marrying The Other Woman He Hid For 18 Months: Astrology Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I have been dating someone for the past year and half, only to find out through a mutual friend that this person has been in a relationship with someone else for the same amount of time. He has actually been living with her for the past year and half and will be marrying her this coming September. Of course I cannot describe the pain and disappointment, especially since I was totally open with him about everything and he made me a promise that he was honest as well. I was devastated to find out he didn’t even have the guts to tell me that he was getting married but that he would continue to see me while he was making plans to get married.
What I cannot seem to get over is why. Why would someone want to hurt someone else who showed them nothing but love and respect? Why play with other people’s feelings and why think its ok to do such a thing? How do Ii move on from the “why”? It’s not even that he is getting married, I have come to terms with that. It is the “why” that I cannot get over. Thanks.
Betrayed
Eritrea
Dear Betrayed,
With your Moon in Sagittarius conjunct Jupiter, you value truth and look for meaning in your experiences. Your Sun in Taurus indicates your self esteem would be intact even after suffering something of this magnitude, so you are acting in complete accord with your chart… which is always a good sign.
As to the “why” he did this, there are probably an endless number of reasons or explanations but I will give you mine and it’s very simple: people are individuals.
People set their own standards for their behavior and if they put their mind to it they can justify anything. A person like you can get lost trying to understand or comprehend how a person might act in such a low-minded way. But when you do this, you are actually being very narrow-minded yourself and if you open your mind (a Sagittarius forte), I think you can resolve this pretty readily.
For example, there are sociopaths in society. Sociopaths have no feelings, they have no remorse and you will be waiting a long time (until hell freezes over) waiting for a change of heart when there is no heart. It is really is this simple, especially for someone like you… a natural storyteller. Just tell yourself a new (true) story:
“I feel in with a sociopath and got my ass handed to me. Egads, what an experience. Pity the other woman – Thank God I got out of that alive – Whew!”
Good luck.
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Aquarian Musician Has Talent But Can’t Quite Make First Chair: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
One of my occupations is performing the flute. It seems as if I’m always placed second chair when I feel I can do better. Then, on those rare occasions when I do get to play first, circumstances are such that prevent me from doing my best, and it makes me want to shoot myself in front of the director because now he thinks I’m not a good player.
Other instrumentalists see my worthiness for first chair, but when I actually get the spot, something always goes wrong. For instance, a few months ago I had a beautiful solo as first chair, but that time was extremely stressful for me at my other job (teaching), and I had a nasty cold and a massive abscess in my nose that was spewing mucus and giving me the biggest headache. Needless to say, I messed up because I was in physical pain and found it so hard to focus.
Then, a few weeks ago I was assigned first flute for another gig, but my music didn’t arrive until 2 days before the rehearsal! I had only 48 hours to learn 15 pieces, whereas everyone else in the group got their music on time and had plenty of time to practice. Needless to say, I messed up.
This seems to be a recurrent trend since age 13, where I feel slighted out of first flute position. I’m starting to feel as if this is my destiny… to always be in the second spot, and if I am in the limelight, something’s gonna go wrong. Is there something in my chart that indicates that I’m meant to suck whenever I’m in the limelight? Or is this a 14 year long transit of some sort, astrology’s cruel joke on my performance career?
Or do I really suck, and my chart indicates that I have major ego issues or an unrealistic picture of my abilities? I’m usually not someone who asks for help, but on this topic, I am at the end of the straw! I would greatly appreciate some insight from you. Thanks!
Aquarian
United States
Dear Aquarian,
No you don’t suck but I think your problem is complex and beyond what can be resolved in this format. But I can give you a few tips to which others may relate.
Regardless of its nature, when you have a pattern this well established it’s a safe bet you are going to have to work very hard to change it. It’s as if you have cut a path and you can be sure to fall right into it every time… if a struggle for consciousness is not made. As to the specifics of what is driving all this, I can see a couple components right off the bat.
First you have Venus in Capricorn, which gives an innate feeling of unworthiness as well as both a fear of failure AND success. This is probably subconscious to a degree but you can see it play out in that you make sure one way or the other that you do not hold that top position.
Now you also have Mars in aspect to Neptune, which tends to dissolve the drive when a person does not act consciously. For example, your music did not arrive on schedule, but why not go hunt it down?
If you can focus on and resolve just these two things, you would be well on your way to solving your problem and I can also tell you that that victim position will never, ever, ever work. In other words, your “close but no cigar” pattern is not due an oppressive force outside yourself.
I hope this does not strike you as harsh or critical because it is not meant that way. Personally, I would like to see you in the first chair and I am pretty sure this is the path to take to get there.
Good luck.
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Capricorn Woman In Love With Younger Man With Girlfriend: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I am in love with a guy who is 16 years younger than me, I have not told him this, although since we are really good friends I have told him I love him in the way friends can. He is with another girl, and I would never do anything to break it up, but I long for him with everything in me.
Since I do genuinely love him I won’t do anything that might interfere with his life, but I cannot figure out how to stop this longing, and the pain I feel when he is with his girlfriend.
Can you advise me how to get over him or what to do? I am not immature, although in fact this is the first time in my life I have been in love. I was married for 23 years, had seven children, and loved my husband, but was never in love with him.
I do not want to accidentally make a fool of myself in front of him, or embarrass him by saying something inappropriate, but unless I get over these feelings I fear slipping up.
Five Planets in Capricorn
Ireland
Dear Capricorn,
It is common to see age difference in couples who have strong Cancer or Capricorn in their chart. Same thing when there are a lot of planets in the fourth and/or tenth houses as these signs and house represent the parental axis and people with a focus there have parent/child themes in their relationships across the board. So I would talk this relationship serious if only it were an actual relationship – but it’s not.
This man is partnered with somebody else… period. There is no indication he had any romantic interest in you whatsoever so I have to conclude you are having a pure fantasy here which is also shown in your chart as you are a Virgo rising which means delusion… er, Pisces rules the seventh – the partner.
Now I am sorry if this is harsh but there are other things that pop out in your note. For example you say he is with another girl but you are not a girl. You are almost 50 years old and this is not a “girl” in my book.
I am glad you wrote, glad you are concerned about embarrassing yourself and I would urge you to let go of the notion you “love” this man unless of course you would like to pine. But yeah. Think hard before you say anything to him because if you do he is liable to be embarrassed, somewhat creeped out and he will almost definitely run for the hills.
I say recognize this as a fantasy and start looking for a new situation.
Good luck.
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