This is some guy’s Craigslist ad:

“Oh Hay Chronic Craigslist Readers,

Just looking for a nice girl to watch bad comedies with, drink wine and pass out together.

Deal breakers: no Virgos. My psychic told me to avoid them”

Is there a sign you absolutely will not date? (And what do you want to bet this guy gets responses from Virgos??

With Saturn in Libra, many are trying very hard to solve their relationship problems and what kills me about women (and some men) is they just don’t know how to play to their strengths or their strong points when it comes to attraction.

If you want an example of what I am talking about, consider a woman with a lot of Scorpio which is a magnetic sign. She can pull in anything she wants (yin) but instead she puts on galoshes goes out hunting a man which as far as I am concerned is akin to putting your make-up on the back of your head instead of your face.  This is just not how it’s done!

I argue all day about how it got this way but it’s irrelevant. What is important for the woman who wants to fare well with men is she play to her strengths and if she can learn to do this, she will quickly move through the hoards of women who can’t and be successful.

Do you feel you have command of your power to attract what you want? I emphasize the last because if you can attract 7000 men who leave you when you want a man who stays, that doesn’t count does it?

Your thoughts?

One time, I went on a date with a double Cancer man. Cancer = home, family, roots, food.

He took me to dinner at a restaurant that was somebody’s converted home. All during dinner he told me about the family that had lived there. He told me their names, and detailed histories with dates of various happenings. He outlined the whole family tree.
Continue reading My Dinner Date With A Cancer Man

For a client who has recently graduated to a new way of relating…

“When I look at these charts, the phrase that comes to mind is “balance of power”. This is a very masculine man you’ve got here which is very good. You’re not going to be able to dominate this guy which may be hard to take or accept at times but is actually a great fortune in the scheme of things. Congratulations on getting yourself involved in such a complex, adult, interaction…”

How do you feel when partnered with someone you can’t control?

pictured – House of Lucretius Fronto – Marriage of Venus and Mars fresco

Stephanie writes on Two Fixed T-Squares:

“Yeah, just went on a date with a guy Sunday who made me dinner at his house, talked all about how he doesn’t want to be single at midlife, wants to partner and have someone live with him in his big lonely house up in the hills. Super duper wooing mode. Then he calls me last night and announces that he’s actually been in an open relationship for two years and wants to see me too! WTF?!

Saturn please get off my moon! F—!”
Continue reading Guerrilla Tactics In Love…And The Hall Of Mirrors

Dear Elsa,

HELP! I am divorced from a Scorpio and now I’m in love with another Scorpio (Sun and Ascendant) who is getting ready to propose! What is wrong with me that I cannot get away from men of this sign?

Can a person have a successful relationship with someone in the same sign of a past failed relationship? Won’t I ALWAYS look for/see signs of my ex in my current love?

Libra in Love
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Continue reading Astrology And Psychology – Is Dating The Same Sign Over and Over Healthy Or A Form Of Repetition Compulsion?

So what are some common examples of Neptune affected love relationships? The number one way to obscure reality so that fantasy can thrive is to access to the beloved be denied in some way. The keyword or key concept for Venus Neptune is “divine discontent” so if you want to get some of this fine pain going, it’s easily done in a number of ways. Here are the top 6 Venus Neptune picks:

Continue reading Venus Square Neptune – Delusion In Love – Part Two

Recently I wrote about rejection from a personal perspective – Capricorn And Rejection. A lot of people weighed in around how they handled being rejected but with Saturn turning direct in Libra, rejection is very topical and I wanted discuss some other things.

People with Venus in Capricorn or Venus in aspect to Saturn have a tendency to reject people before they can be rejected themselves. They are so sure the sky is going to fall it’s easier to fall the sky themselves than live with the threat which is often times imagined.
Continue reading Reject Them Before They Reject You

Posting this as a follow up to the post – Women Chasing Men – Good Idea Or No?

Judging from the comments, many people are on the dating sites.  I have spent my life studying mating and there are a number of different predators out there. These are people (men or women) who would never identify themselves as predators but it is exactly what they are.
Continue reading Dating Predators: People Who Want You To Want Them But Who Never Really Want Anyone Themselves

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