I’m in love with a Sagittarian and he once said he loved me. But the problem is he has a girlfriend.
I met him late last year when he joined our music organization and we started getting close February of this year. We started sms-ing everyday, sometimes until the wee hours of the morning. We talked about everything/anything. We went out with friends, to watch gigs etc. In short, we became very close and this is quite unusual for me because I’m normally uncomfortable around guys. I fell in love with him. And I heard from a friend that he has a crush on me.
By the end of March, the trouble started. I began to feel played. He was being very attentive and sweet to me in spite of having a girlfriend. In fact he spends more time with me than he does her. I confronted him, he then told me he does have feelings for me but the problem is he’s committed. Anyway, we then decided to avoid each other to make things right (i.e. to prevent us from getting too close).
By end of April, we made contact again, but in the end decided again to avoid each other because we saw that we still had feelings for each other. Two days later he broke up with his gf, I was the first one he told it to and I comforted him. A week later they were together again. I was deeply hurt. I avoided him until end of May when I decided to move forward and forget my feelings for him. I met him again.
Early June, we were drinking with friends and got carried away. He kissed me and started making out at the backseat of his car. We dated, we went out 2 or 3 times until I told him I felt very guilty knowing that he has a girlfriend. That’s when he told me he loved me and this is the first time he’s had an ‘affair’. (His past relationships lasted long and his current one is on it’s 3rd year) We decided to be just friends again until he settles things.
July’s almost ending, nothing’s been settled, we’ve been just-friends and lovers on and off. We’ve been spending so much time together, almost everyday. He invites me to watch his basketball game, to come to his band practice, etc, that our other friends who know he has a gf are starting to get suspicious of us.
Sorry this is quite long but I just wanted to show you how confusing and emotionally draining the first half of my year has been. I’m confused of what he truly feels for me. And I really need an advice on what to do now, I’d really appreciate the help.
Of course you are being played. You are also playing for Godsakes, so what do you expect? Did you slip on a banana peel and land on this guy’s dick? No. You deliberately mounted him and now you get exactly what anyone with sense would expect. You get to be this guy’s piece on the side and I’ll tell you where you’re losing the plot.
Throughout your mail, you are trying convince that this guy really likes you and is spending time with you over his girlfriend etc. You are simultaneously in nearly complete denial over the fact both of you are of low character and you seem to think this can work out. Well here’s a reality check: it can’t.
His friends are not “suspicious”. I have no doubt they know exactly what he is up to. He is spending a lot of time with you, no doubt because you are screwing his lights out… but why? To acquire him? To get him from the other woman? And if you manage this what do you think you’ll have? I’ll tell you.
You’ll have a boyfriend who cheats on you and flaunts it in front of friends. You know. He’ll bring his other lover to his games and show her off. She’ll dress sexy at them too, wanna bet? His friends will laugh.
Look. You have screwed up. You have played and been played and there is no way to win. All you can do is cut your losses and I am sorry this is harsh. But the fact is, you’ve got a Saturn transit going and this crap just will not fly.
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What happens to people, karmically, if they cheat on their husbands or wives? I know a woman with whom I work with, and she has 2 kids and she cheats on her husband with multiple men and he has no idea. Like, is there anything karmically that comes around to people?
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I’ve been dating a married man for 3 months, and it has become way too serious. For one, I thought it was a mere fling. But now I’m wondering if there is any future with the man? Is it really meant to be?
The problem is I am feeling so guilty to be betraying so many people by cheating with someone’s husband, but I cannot figure out how to end the relationship. Please help me! I am so in trouble.
Is there a future with this man? I don’t know. Do you want a lying, cheatin’ dog for a man? Considering you’re a Scorpio with Venus in Scorpio, I’m guessin’ no. I’m not going to get on your ass about this because you sound like you’ve got some scruples. And this guy is 10 years older than you and I imagine he’s got you a bit confused. I think he’s got you in over your head. Does that piss you off? I hope it does.
I have had a gut feeling my live-in boyfriend is cheating on me. The other day, he was supposed to be shopping with his cousin. Well when I got to my friend’s house, the cousin was there and said he hasn’t talked to my boyfriend for two weeks!! Once I caught him in that lie, I moved out.
When I called my boyfriend, he became outraged at his cousin for saying anything at all to me… and instantly accused me of sleeping with his cousin. I had never met his cousin until this day. He finally told me he was with a girl, but he swore that he’s not sleeping with her.
How do I know if this isn’t a lie as well? I love my boyfriend, but I’ve been stomped on so many times with past relationships that I’m going nuts. I’m so overwhelmed I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to make the wrong decision. What should I do?
It sure sounds like he’s cheating to me! Even if he’s not, he’s a liar and if you can’t trust a person, they are pretty much useless in my book. I’m serious.
Look at it this way. Some women have lying jerks for husbands or boyfriends. Do you want to be one of them? I don’t. Consequently – if I were you, I would toss this guy, aiming him so he lands on his head. Then I’d go paint my nails, in preparation to fish another line and find another man. A better man.
This is what I would do just as soon as I knew a man was lying to me, but actually I think your man is far more dangerous. Because look what he did when your confronted him. He denied everything and made counter allegations. That right there is a classic technique, designed to screw with the mind and leave a person confused. Considering this is his first line of defense, I have one word for you: RUN!
One more thing. You’re a Scorpio rising with an 8th house Sun. Always trust your gut because it rules.
I’ve been married to a Taurus for a dozen years now, and we have an 8-year-old boy together. We have a good marriage despite the constant arguments and differences.
Recently, I met a Sagittarius who’s charmed me out of my wits. The attraction is mutual, and I’ve become thoroughly enchanted even though I know ours is a hopeless relationship. He is married with 2 kids. He says he is not going to upset his situation.
I tell myself that I can control this relationship and it will enrich my life without hurting anybody. Am I kidding myself?
You are definitely kidding yourself. I would caution you to believe what he’s telling you. He’s not going to upset his situation. If you want to go a round with him, I imagine you can. Personally, I believe he’s seducing you.
And you? Well, you’re a good girl, but sort of a Persephone figure. Hades takes her down, but she’s not entirely unhappy about this. So this is where you’re at. You’re part of a myth and I don’t know what you’re going to do but I hope you hear him loud and clear: HE IS NOT GOING TO UPSET HIS SITUATION.
For the record, if it were me, I would tell him to get his sexual energy off me, right before I punched his lights out. Because that’s what he’s doing. He’s got copious amounts of Scorpio underneath that Sadge grin and he’s workin’ you.
pictured – Death of the Bride, 1895, oil on canvas, Thomas Cooper Gotch, (b.1854-d.1931)
Astrology in real life
This is the story I reference in this: Red Hand Truck .
I talked to Annalisa about this story today.I thought she was around back then but apparently she came around sometime later after I married the Scorpio who she met and she knew of course. I was very curious what she would think of the story seeing as she is aware of my entire history. And she’s psychic. She was shocked by it.
Outtakes and various other sundries
My upcoming solar return which I know is wicked. I don’t look at it because it’s akin to looking at open heart surgery or something which is not something I’d line up to do having Libra and all. But I am feeling so happy today so I threw the chart up and noticed there was just one trine in a sea of hard aspects on the angles no less. I am not complaining because the sky in general is acute these days and I doubt many of you are much better off.
Astrology in real life
Last week I walked by a snake in the grass. It startled me but not that much because it’s a familiar symbol. A few days later I walked by another and laughed. It’s the season for this, see? I always see snakes in the grass and I don’t mean, slithering.
Continue reading Pluto Transit Through The 12th – Mine: Snakes In The Grass And Various
Saturn in Virgo is sitting on top the raging inferno that is the Moon, Venus, Mars conjunction in Aries.
I met a wonderful Virgo man several months ago while I was on vacation. He lives in another state and our meeting was a surprise – a sweet wonderful surprise. There was a fantastic jolt of electricity that passed through me at the time (it was there for him, too, as he called me not long after the initial meeting) and it was present the next time we saw each other.
We have since had the chance to spend time with together and become intimate. He’s a fantastic lover and a kind man. He’s also rather mysterious and I get the feeling he’s either quite shy and private, or hiding something. I’m fine either way (to an extent), but I want to know how best to deal with his occasional disappearances and reluctance to fully open up to me. Part of his reluctance to open includes his exact birthday, but he did reveal he’s a Virgo.
Deep down, the attraction I have for this man is overwhelming and I am very aware of this. Were it not for geography, I’m afraid I’d be rushing into something. But because of the distance, I feel this is the perfect time to hang back, get to know him, and get a chance to understand what makes the typical Virgo tick. Of course, I don’t believe there’s anything typical about my Virgo paramour, but I have to work in generalizations here given the mysterious nature of this man.
What can you tell this Taurean in Wait?
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I have to tell you to beware!! You realize this man may be married or otherwise committed. In fact, he probably is.
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