Dear Elsa,

I’m in love with a Sagittarian and he once said he loved me. But the problem is he has a girlfriend.

I met him late last year when he joined our music organization and we started getting close February of this year. We started sms-ing everyday, sometimes until the wee hours of the morning. We talked about everything/anything. We went out with friends, to watch gigs etc. In short, we became very close and this is quite unusual for me because I’m normally uncomfortable around guys. I fell in love with him. And I heard from a friend that he has a crush on me.

By the end of March, the trouble started. I began to feel played. He was being very attentive and sweet to me in spite of having a girlfriend. In fact he spends more time with me than he does her. I confronted him, he then told me he does have feelings for me but the problem is he’s committed. Anyway, we then decided to avoid each other to make things right (i.e. to prevent us from getting too close).

By end of April, we made contact again, but in the end decided again to avoid each other because we saw that we still had feelings for each other. Two days later he broke up with his gf, I was the first one he told it to and I comforted him. A week later they were together again. I was deeply hurt. I avoided him until end of May when I decided to move forward and forget my feelings for him. I met him again.

Early June, we were drinking with friends and got carried away. He kissed me and started making out at the backseat of his car. We dated, we went out 2 or 3 times until I told him I felt very guilty knowing that he has a girlfriend. That’s when he told me he loved me and this is the first time he’s had an ‘affair’. (His past relationships lasted long and his current one is on it’s 3rd year) We decided to be just friends again until he settles things.

July’s almost ending, nothing’s been settled, we’ve been just-friends and lovers on and off. We’ve been spending so much time together, almost everyday. He invites me to watch his basketball game, to come to his band practice, etc, that our other friends who know he has a gf are starting to get suspicious of us.

Sorry this is quite long but I just wanted to show you how confusing and emotionally draining the first half of my year has been. I’m confused of what he truly feels for me. And I really need an advice on what to do now, I’d really appreciate the help.

Unsettled
Philippines

Ask the collective

Dear Elsa,

I’ve been dating a married man for 3 months, and it has become way too serious. For one, I thought it was a mere fling. But now I’m wondering if there is any future with the man? Is it really meant to be?

The problem is I am feeling so guilty to be betraying so many people by cheating with someone’s husband, but I cannot figure out how to end the relationship. Please help me! I am so in trouble.

Young Woman

Hi Elsa,

I have had a gut feeling my live-in boyfriend is cheating on me. The other day, he was supposed to be shopping with his cousin. Well when I got to my friend’s house, the cousin was there and said he hasn’t talked to my boyfriend for two weeks!! Once I caught him in that lie, I moved out.

When I called my boyfriend, he became outraged at his cousin for saying anything at all to me… and instantly accused me of sleeping with his cousin. I had never met his cousin until this day. He finally told me he was with a girl, but he swore that he’s not sleeping with her.

How do I know if this isn’t a lie as well? I love my boyfriend, but I’ve been stomped on so many times with past relationships that I’m going nuts. I’m so overwhelmed I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to make the wrong decision. What should I do?

Feeling Betrayed

Hi Elsa,

I’ve been married to a Taurus for a dozen years now, and we have an 8-year-old boy together. We have a good marriage despite the constant arguments and differences.

Recently, I met a Sagittarius who’s charmed me out of my wits. The attraction is mutual, and I’ve become thoroughly enchanted even though I know ours is a hopeless relationship. He is married with 2 kids. He says he is not going to upset his situation.

I tell myself that I can control this relationship and it will enrich my life without hurting anybody. Am I kidding myself?

Curious,
Roving Eye

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My eye on the sky

Dear Elsa,

I met a wonderful Virgo man several months ago while I was on vacation. He lives in another state and our meeting was a surprise – a sweet wonderful surprise. There was a fantastic jolt of electricity that passed through me at the time (it was there for him, too, as he called me not long after the initial meeting) and it was present the next time we saw each other.

We have since had the chance to spend time with together and become intimate. He’s a fantastic lover and a kind man. He’s also rather mysterious and I get the feeling he’s either quite shy and private, or hiding something. I’m fine either way (to an extent), but I want to know how best to deal with his occasional disappearances and reluctance to fully open up to me. Part of his reluctance to open includes his exact birthday, but he did reveal he’s a Virgo.

Deep down, the attraction I have for this man is overwhelming and I am very aware of this. Were it not for geography, I’m afraid I’d be rushing into something. But because of the distance, I feel this is the perfect time to hang back, get to know him, and get a chance to understand what makes the typical Virgo tick. Of course, I don’t believe there’s anything typical about my Virgo paramour, but I have to work in generalizations here given the mysterious nature of this man.

What can you tell this Taurean in Wait?

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