Astrology in real life.

Astrology in real life.

Dear Elsa,

I’m in love with a Sagittarian and he once said he loved me. But the problem is he has a girlfriend.

I met him late last year when he joined our music organization and we started getting close February of this year. We started sms-ing everyday, sometimes until the wee hours of the morning. We talked about everything/anything. We went out with friends, to watch gigs etc. In short, we became very close and this is quite unusual for me because I’m normally uncomfortable around guys. I fell in love with him. And I heard from a friend that he has a crush on me.

By the end of March, the trouble started. I began to feel played. He was being very attentive and sweet to me in spite of having a girlfriend. In fact he spends more time with me than he does her. I confronted him, he then told me he does have feelings for me but the problem is he’s committed. Anyway, we then decided to avoid each other to make things right (i.e. to prevent us from getting too close).

By end of April, we made contact again, but in the end decided again to avoid each other because we saw that we still had feelings for each other. Two days later he broke up with his gf, I was the first one he told it to and I comforted him. A week later they were together again. I was deeply hurt. I avoided him until end of May when I decided to move forward and forget my feelings for him. I met him again.

Early June, we were drinking with friends and got carried away. He kissed me and started making out at the backseat of his car. We dated, we went out 2 or 3 times until I told him I felt very guilty knowing that he has a girlfriend. That’s when he told me he loved me and this is the first time he’s had an ‘affair’. (His past relationships lasted long and his current one is on it’s 3rd year) We decided to be just friends again until he settles things.

July’s almost ending, nothing’s been settled, we’ve been just-friends and lovers on and off. We’ve been spending so much time together, almost everyday. He invites me to watch his basketball game, to come to his band practice, etc, that our other friends who know he has a gf are starting to get suspicious of us.

Sorry this is quite long but I just wanted to show you how confusing and emotionally draining the first half of my year has been. I’m confused of what he truly feels for me. And I really need an advice on what to do now, I’d really appreciate the help.

Unsettled
Philippines

Elsa,

I feel like I’m in the midst of yet another transition or maybe still transitioning, having not yet found my place in the world, not yet found my love/life partner in this world, not yet found my livelihood in this world and desperate for all (and secretly wishing they are all intertwined with each other). It’s not for lack of opportunity or interested companions -I’ve had & have numerous wonderful men profess their love & desire to be married or build a life together. Ok, so maybe I’m a commitment-phobe aka having to have everything right & perfect before I can completely trust and commit.

Where is this ridiculous fear coming from? I know… it’s coming from me. I suppose the real question is, how do I bust it?…will I bust it?…so I might fully engage in life like I know is possible!!

Many thanks Elsa for your insight!!

Looking For My Captain’s Hat

Hello Elsa.

I am a Pisces who grew up with a very strong, almost abusive Scorpio mom. I’m not sure if my anger and resentment towards Scorpios comes from that – all I know is that it is there. Well, I have had a few scorps as friends, a little weird, but we got along all and all. A couple of months ago I realized hat Scorpios are nearly heartless and decided I would no longer associate with them, or try my hardest to avoid them.

Well, right after I said that, I met about 5 Scorpios within 1 month. I started to date one and he just about used me for a good 3 months and left me for his ex-girlfriend. Again, I swore them off again… not even 2 weeks later I fall for another guy that happens to be Scorpio.

Now, it is definitely NOT me going after them, they come after me. Also, as soon as I start liking them back, they stop calling. What am I doing wrong with these Scorpio guys? Is it because they feel I am interested and lose interest? Also, why am I attracting Scorpio people all of a sudden?

Is a Scorpio man capable of being faithful because I have yet to meet one who can. Also, this Scorpio that I like now called me everyday for about a week and stopped calling me, when I called him – he didn’t answer my calls or call back. What now??

Confused

Astrology in real life

Dear Elsa,

I’m in love with a male Pisces. He hasn’t professed his love for me but he says he likes me a lot. All of the personality traits of Pisces say we are a good match. We have not been intimate.

I can’t explain why I feel so strongly for him. It’s been 4 months. What should I do? I want to show him how I feel for him sexually. He avoids it, but from time to time talks about it. I want to let go but can’t. I don’t understand him… what exactly should I do???

Stellium in Cancer
United States

Hi, Elsa

I have goals, interests, friends, I’m young, attractive… I’d say it’s a life I feel is very blessed.

With exception to one aspect. Guys. I can’t seem to get really interested in any of them. It’s rare. I get cold feet even before it starts – even when I think I *may* have an interest… usually as soon as the interest is confirmed mutual, my own evaporates… leading to nothing.

When I DO develop a lasting liking on someone it’s more of an abnormal fixation with someone I don’t really know. I get so fixated I develop a bad shyness problem and run away from the person instead of approaching the situation calmly and rationally. It’s like running away from an electric shock.

I have one of those fixations now. It’s serious to the point where I’m really not even looking for different possibilities. I want this or I want nothing.

I don’t run into this person and we’re not yet acquainted (though we swim in the same circles) and this has been going on for 6 months now. Me just waiting, thinking something will happen here because it’s sort of… meant to. My friends are completely frustrated by my reluctance to do something active about it. But I just say that this is ‘my way’.

I promise I’m usually more reasonable than this. What’s going on here?

Help!!
Frustrated by Fixations

Dear Elsa,

I know it takes a lot of courage for a Pisces man to break up with someone. Even though he told me that he still cares a lot about me, I know it’s just to make it seem less difficult – or maybe he’s trying to make himself feel better.

Either way, he just told me he has all these fantasies about love and how it would be filled with “butterflies.” I understand that Pisces are about the imaginative things but butterflies?

I believe that we can get anything/anyone we want in life with the right approach. How do I get him to come back?

Faithful Aquarius
Thailand