Dear In,

No, I don’t think it is your destiny to suffer, I think it’s your destiny to heal and beyond that to help others heal. Who better for that than you? With your vast experience of suffering you are uniquely positioned, don’t you think? I do. But let me address some of these other things.

Your experience is common for survivors of abuse. You finally get yourself to a place where you have a modicum of security and this is when the shit hits the fan. Because prior to this time, you are functioning in some sort of survival mode. Functioning highly too, something you should be proud of. But now it’s time to heal.

Continue reading Astrology-Based Advice: Devastating Young Life – Sexual Abuse, Parents Dead: Sun Conjunct Saturn In Scorpio

Dear Homeless,

You are asking the wrong person because I live just like you. And I just knew when I was plugging in your data I was going to see a Jupiter Moon contact and sure enough, there it is! I’ve got the same and I can tell you exactly what is going on. We only feel at home when we are moving! “Papa was a rolling stone… wherever he laid his hat was his home…”
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Dear Beleaguered,

I feel very bad for you because it seems you are surrounded by the enemy. Just who is on your side here? No one I can identify.

Now I am very sorry but I don’t think your situation is likely to work out and your husband is the reason why. He is not really married to you, is he? He is married to his mother, to his mother’s mother, to his friends and to his motherland. And if you will accept all this, then fine. He’ll be married to you too and if not? Well then apparently you can kiss his ass.

Now to his credit (and yours for being honest about this), it does not seem he misrepresented himself. So what you got here is exactly what you bargained for, which was a really crappy bargain.

Because it sounds like you do everything. Except maybe plow the back forty and rub down the cows and as you can see… none of this matters. You are not only not appreciated, you are completely discardable to these people – and preferably as soon as possible.

So you see the situation here. I believe you’ve made a mistake. And I agree with the grandma, you should get out before you have a child – but not for his sake, for yours!!

Because it’s obvious you are not cut out to live in a family compound and believe me, these pricks are going to keep up the pressure until they win and they will win. Why? Because you are one. And they are many, and they are mean.

I say, run! Run for your life. This is not a family you want to be part of. As if they’d let you.

And if you leave, brace yourself. Because this family is going to blame you for everything while they coddle him. So you get the picture. Stay or go, you aren’t going to win.

I’m sorry.

Good luck.

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Dear Confused,

I am sorry this man’s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get “closure” because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he’s not capable of giving it to you.

He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn’t like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn’t), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:

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To a Capricorn client who would like to reject a man before he rejects her:

“There is a hook in your mouth that belongs to this man. You can’t just swim off or he’s still got you. You’ve got to either sit there and dig that hook out OR decide that you want to leave the hook there because you want to be connected to him. There is no easing away while ignoring the hook as it is deeply embedded in the side of your cheek…”

Does someone have you hooked?

To a client who is hurt and pissed off… but loves the man:

“He cares for you. He’s apologized (taken responsibility) and wants to talk to you without you taking his head off. I’d let him. You don’t meet this much Capricorn when there is nothing there for you to learn. Set aside your rigid standards of behavior and let the man tell you what is going on. He could use a friend right now and so could you.”

He says he wants to talk when she is not as angry…
Continue reading Advice Of The Day – Containing Rage And Pain (Capricorn)

Remember the woman with the man she can’t dominate?. She’s trying to graduate old patterns. I’m trying. She has Aquarius (progressive) and Aries which like to be first. She’s also “fly”, lol.

“Consider trying some innovative stuff. For example when he complains about you (and you don’t like it), resolve to NOT complain about him (return fire) and see what this gets you over a few weeks time. Experiment. I think the window is cracked open and you can get out. You’ve worked very hard to open this window, so why would you not go through it, hmm?

These things are investments in yourself. It’s the new “Fly”, see? The new “Fly” is deeper than the old Fly. You know you want to be first so scramble through that window. Just do it (Leave Pathology Land) and once you do, don’t look back. Pathology Land is for younger, dumber women…”

Is there a way you relate to others that you know you should leave behind?

To a client:

“…My idea then, is that you are a seeker (Sadge) who wants a challenge (Aries) and quite a bit of freedom (Aquarius), along with status and success (Cap and 10th house). I am not sure if reading that is such stark form is upsetting to you but if it is, that’s a great sign. I think it’s inarguable by your chart and if you’re not aware of this, it means the nut is cracked, the pieces exposed and you can now use your skills to fashion the pieces into something workable. You’ve got to be conscious of all this, see? These are the pieces of the quilt. Now how can the be put together to make something unique and interesting that you can live with?”

Continue reading Advice Of The Day: Consciously Pulling Yourself (Your Chart) Together

To a client…

“You’re right! You’re right about this guy’s pathology, but so what?  Just because you correctly identify a pattern in someone’s behavior, this does not mean they are going to change it to meet a standard that you set.  They’re far more likely to do exactly what they do. It’s like saying, hey! You have blonde hair!  Well so I do, they say!  Even if they’re surprised at what you’ve plucked out and shown to them, they’re still very likely to just go off and live with their blonde hair as it is.  A person is not going to just  start making adjustments to fall into line with what you think is proper. Why would they?  It’s hard to be something you’re not or to change your way of being.  Very few are going to do that, there’s no motivation to make that kind of effort…”

Do you really, really understand that you’re not running the other person’s life?

Sent to a client:

“The main thing I can say about this is DON’T DO IT.

Don’t run synastry between your man and your friends and don’t bait your man by asking him which of your friends he likes. You’re far better off telling both sides, they better not like each other – or else!

Take this from an old Italian lady. You don’t want to have to scalp anyone.”

Do you beg for trouble? Why?