Many lament the state of the education these days. Working as an astrology consultant, that’s outside my realm for the most part. But what I do see is that young men and women are taught very little about how to manage their personal (romantic) lives. Matter of fact, I think many are taught things that are ultimately detrimental to happiness in partnership.
“Free your mind and your body will follow.”
–The Freeway Sign in “L.A. Story”
Friday evening the Leo Moon sextiles Venus. Desires are enflamed and it’s entirely possible to get what you want, provided, of course, that what you want is available. If not, find something else to want as this is a beautifully dramatic influence. I find cheeseburgers and ice cream to be fantastic stand-ins for whatever is just out of my reach as they’re rarely further away than a ten minute drive. But then all my pants have at least 1% lycra, so your mileage may vary. I hear some people enjoy healthy things like kale and hiking… whatever floats your boat.
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I don’t enjoy breaking hearts, but I’m ruthlessly efficient at it. I’m a self-proclaimed commitment phobic and I’m not entirely sure that I’m fed up of being one just yet. But if I were fed up with being one, is it possible for me not to be one any more?
I’m in the process of breaking up (again!) with a wonderful man, who would give the world to me – if I let him. He’s aware of my phobia and has spent hours upon hours doing research and trying to figure a way to help me get over this. I don’t believe I can change even if I wanted to. Am I wrong?
I don’t believe you don’t enjoy breaking hearts. I think you love breaking hearts and get some kind of ego boost off it. Can you stop? Of course! But I don’t imagine you will anytime soon.
I see the T-Square in your chart. And I believe you seduce these men for the sole purpose of cutting their throats in some misguided show of your prowess… and eventually this will backfire. It’s as if you are a massive alcoholic who has just started drinking. He/she thinks she can go on like this forever, but this is an illusion. Eventually you will wake up and find yourself bereft. If you’re lucky that will be soon but I’m not holding my breath.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic Heart Breaker – Can She Change?
Astrology-Based Advice: Devastating Young Life – Sexual Abuse, Parents Dead: Sun Conjunct Saturn In Scorpio
I have had problems in my life since as long as I can remember. My parents died when I was young, I was sexually abused as a child, I never lived in a place for more than 2 years, and I ran away at 16. However I remained a fairly happy child through all this.
Now as an adult, I’m constantly fighting fits of depression or incredible anger. One moment I’m fine, the next I’m blowing up at my husband because he pronounced a word wrong (or something else small like that). I feel like I’m never truly happy and I don’t know how it that is, now that I have everything I’ve wanted for so long (a family and security).
I also have a tendency to pretty much live in the past. I just can’t let it go. Is there something wrong with me or is it part of my destiny to suffer?
No, I don’t think it is your destiny to suffer, I think it’s your destiny to heal and beyond that to help others heal. Who better for that than you? With your vast experience of suffering you are uniquely positioned, don’t you think? I do. But let me address some of these other things.
Your experience is common for survivors of abuse. You finally get yourself to a place where you have a modicum of security and this is when the shit hits the fan. Because prior to this time, you are functioning in some sort of survival mode. Functioning highly too, something you should be proud of. But now it’s time to heal.
I grew up in a family of 6 kids, big house, great holidays, etc. My situation is this: as an adult, I have never had a pulled-together house. I am in my 40′s and this has held true through 2 marriages and my current stint as a single parent. It isn’t simply varying periods of disorganization or disinterest in decorating, but having the bare minimum of both furniture (some castoffs) and functional objects. Money is not the problem.
Every house I’ve lived in looks like I just moved in. I can truly say that I don’t know anyone who is like this; some newlyweds and college kids are better off! I’m almost afraid of having a house that is too “established” and settled. None of the places I’ve lived since leaving home felt like a place I wanted to put down roots, although I’ve lived in the same city for the past 18 years!
Am I very kooky? How can I pull my house together so I can have people over and dinner parties and all the rest? What is going on with this?
You are asking the wrong person because I live just like you. And I just knew when I was plugging in your data I was going to see a Jupiter Moon contact and sure enough, there it is! I’ve got the same and I can tell you exactly what is going on. We only feel at home when we are moving! “Papa was a rolling stone… wherever he laid his hat was his home…”
Continue reading 40 Years Old And Never Bothered To Decorate Her House: Astrology-Based Advice
I have been married for a little over a year. When I was dating, I knew my husband would never live anywhere other than his family’s land, and I told him I would try to live there once we were married. It is beautiful where we live – however we are about 40 miles from any town to work in. It is getting redundant driving so far every day, when we could move closer. Also, I am about to finish my Masters degree and when I do, I would like to be closer to a good employer; I do not want to drive 1.5 hours to work daily.
I have tried like I promised, but I hate it here! He also has all his friends and family near, who are constantly at our home. His friends and family think I am different since I am from the city, and we have really clashed. They also feel that if I do not like the area, that I should just leave. As a matter of fact my Mother-in-Law asked me to leave, and her mother said I needed to leave before we had a child and he “gets stuck with me forever”.
Sadly my husband is too nice to say anything to them for comments like this. Needless to say, I am miserable. I cry myself to sleep, I am losing weight, and I desperately need my husband to see my point of view! I don’t want a divorce, and he says he doesn’t either; however, he also says he cannot move from here, and that it would be to hard on him.
I am a hard worker. I take care of the bills, the yard, the cooking, and cleaning. I also work two jobs while pursuing my Masters degree. Do you think I am being unfair in needing to be closer to my employer and civilization? I am on the verge of running away! Please help!
I feel very bad for you because it seems you are surrounded by the enemy. Just who is on your side here? No one I can identify.
Now I am very sorry but I don’t think your situation is likely to work out and your husband is the reason why. He is not really married to you, is he? He is married to his mother, to his mother’s mother, to his friends and to his motherland. And if you will accept all this, then fine. He’ll be married to you too and if not? Well then apparently you can kiss his ass.
Now to his credit (and yours for being honest about this), it does not seem he misrepresented himself. So what you got here is exactly what you bargained for, which was a really crappy bargain.
Because it sounds like you do everything. Except maybe plow the back forty and rub down the cows and as you can see… none of this matters. You are not only not appreciated, you are completely discardable to these people – and preferably as soon as possible.
So you see the situation here. I believe you’ve made a mistake. And I agree with the grandma, you should get out before you have a child – but not for his sake, for yours!!
Because it’s obvious you are not cut out to live in a family compound and believe me, these pricks are going to keep up the pressure until they win and they will win. Why? Because you are one. And they are many, and they are mean.
I say, run! Run for your life. This is not a family you want to be part of. As if they’d let you.
And if you leave, brace yourself. Because this family is going to blame you for everything while they coddle him. So you get the picture. Stay or go, you aren’t going to win.
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Back in October, I met a Virgo man. We got along wonderfully and I could tell we really liked each other; we talked everyday. As the time passed he called less frequently and backed away and when I questioned him, he said it was because he liked me.
When I like a person I want to talk to them more not less, and I got upset and told him that. After that, things were not the same. Two months ago I told him I thought I was falling in love with him and have not heard from him since. I have tried calling him and he has completely ignored everything.
I am trying to find out what happened and get closure. Did I scare him off? Or is he thinking about it and will he come back? He never officially broke off the relationship.
I am sorry this man’s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get “closure” because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he’s not capable of giving it to you.
He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn’t like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn’t), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:
To a Capricorn client who would like to reject a man before he rejects her:
“There is a hook in your mouth that belongs to this man. You can’t just swim off or he’s still got you. You’ve got to either sit there and dig that hook out OR decide that you want to leave the hook there because you want to be connected to him. There is no easing away while ignoring the hook as it is deeply embedded in the side of your cheek…”
Does someone have you hooked?
“He cares for you. He’s apologized (taken responsibility) and wants to talk to you without you taking his head off. I’d let him. You don’t meet this much Capricorn when there is nothing there for you to learn. Set aside your rigid standards of behavior and let the man tell you what is going on. He could use a friend right now and so could you.”
He says he wants to talk when she is not as angry…
Continue reading Advice Of The Day – Containing Rage And Pain (Capricorn)
Remember the woman with the man she can’t dominate?. She’s trying to graduate old patterns. I’m trying. She has Aquarius (progressive) and Aries which like to be first. She’s also “fly”, lol.
“Consider trying some innovative stuff. For example when he complains about you (and you don’t like it), resolve to NOT complain about him (return fire) and see what this gets you over a few weeks time. Experiment. I think the window is cracked open and you can get out. You’ve worked very hard to open this window, so why would you not go through it, hmm?
These things are investments in yourself. It’s the new “Fly”, see? The new “Fly” is deeper than the old Fly. You know you want to be first so scramble through that window. Just do it (Leave Pathology Land) and once you do, don’t look back. Pathology Land is for younger, dumber women…”
Is there a way you relate to others that you know you should leave behind?
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