Dear Confused,

I am sorry this man’s mixed signals set you on a path to confusion, but at this point his signals are abundantly clear. He is not interested. And further, you are not going to get “closure” because he is not going to give it to you. The reason being that he’s not capable of giving it to you.

He is also not capable of telling you that he doesn’t like you, that he likes someone else better, that he changed his mind or whatever else his reason for pulling away may be. And if you have even a modicum of class (he doesn’t), then you will respect his shortcomings and relent with contacting him and/or professing your love. And beyond that you can learn from this. Because these are facts:

Continue reading Virgo Man Pulls Away From Pisces Woman – She Wants Closure

To a Capricorn client who would like to reject a man before he rejects her:

“There is a hook in your mouth that belongs to this man. You can’t just swim off or he’s still got you. You’ve got to either sit there and dig that hook out OR decide that you want to leave the hook there because you want to be connected to him. There is no easing away while ignoring the hook as it is deeply embedded in the side of your cheek…”

Does someone have you hooked?

To a client who is hurt and pissed off… but loves the man:

“He cares for you. He’s apologized (taken responsibility) and wants to talk to you without you taking his head off. I’d let him. You don’t meet this much Capricorn when there is nothing there for you to learn. Set aside your rigid standards of behavior and let the man tell you what is going on. He could use a friend right now and so could you.”

He says he wants to talk when she is not as angry…
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Remember the woman with the man she can’t dominate?. She’s trying to graduate old patterns. I’m trying. She has Aquarius (progressive) and Aries which like to be first. She’s also “fly”, lol.

“Consider trying some innovative stuff. For example when he complains about you (and you don’t like it), resolve to NOT complain about him (return fire) and see what this gets you over a few weeks time. Experiment. I think the window is cracked open and you can get out. You’ve worked very hard to open this window, so why would you not go through it, hmm?

These things are investments in yourself. It’s the new “Fly”, see? The new “Fly” is deeper than the old Fly. You know you want to be first so scramble through that window. Just do it (Leave Pathology Land) and once you do, don’t look back. Pathology Land is for younger, dumber women…”

Is there a way you relate to others that you know you should leave behind?

To a client:

“…My idea then, is that you are a seeker (Sadge) who wants a challenge (Aries) and quite a bit of freedom (Aquarius), along with status and success (Cap and 10th house). I am not sure if reading that is such stark form is upsetting to you but if it is, that’s a great sign. I think it’s inarguable by your chart and if you’re not aware of this, it means the nut is cracked, the pieces exposed and you can now use your skills to fashion the pieces into something workable. You’ve got to be conscious of all this, see? These are the pieces of the quilt. Now how can the be put together to make something unique and interesting that you can live with?”

Continue reading Advice Of The Day: Consciously Pulling Yourself (Your Chart) Together

To a client…

“You’re right! You’re right about this guy’s pathology, but so what?  Just because you correctly identify a pattern in someone’s behavior, this does not mean they are going to change it to meet a standard that you set.  They’re far more likely to do exactly what they do. It’s like saying, hey! You have blonde hair!  Well so I do, they say!  Even if they’re surprised at what you’ve plucked out and shown to them, they’re still very likely to just go off and live with their blonde hair as it is.  A person is not going to just  start making adjustments to fall into line with what you think is proper. Why would they?  It’s hard to be something you’re not or to change your way of being.  Very few are going to do that, there’s no motivation to make that kind of effort…”

Do you really, really understand that you’re not running the other person’s life?

Sent to a client:

“The main thing I can say about this is DON’T DO IT.

Don’t run synastry between your man and your friends and don’t bait your man by asking him which of your friends he likes. You’re far better off telling both sides, they better not like each other – or else!

Take this from an old Italian lady. You don’t want to have to scalp anyone.”

Do you beg for trouble? Why?

To a client:

“I don’t think you are this guy’s imprint. You’re functioning as his therapist and that’s fine. You’re drawn to his intensity and I understand that but I think when/if he ever wants to actually partner with someone, he is going to go for someone else.  You want a partnership. You’re a Libra!  You see that you’re both ambitious, successful and attractive and think, great!  We’re peers.  But I don’t know that he wants a peer.  I think he wants an imbalance of power. I think that is what he likes so when he is ready to partner, he’s going to go for that. I would be happy to be wrong about this but check it out okay?  I don’t want you to listen to this guy’s angst for all these months and then someone shows up on the periphery who is his imprint and POOF!”

Sound familiar, anyone?

From a consultation:

“To run around frantically during a Saturn transit is going to be counterproductive. This is a long distance run and you have to pace yourself. Think about climbing a challenging mountain. You do not want to waste energy running around in a circle…”

Do realize there are times when the best way to progress is to slow down?

Dear Unsettled,

Of course you are being played. You are also playing for Godsakes, so what do you expect? Did you slip on a banana peel and land on this guy’s dick? No. You deliberately mounted him and now you get exactly what anyone with sense would expect. You get to be this guy’s piece on the side and I’ll tell you where you’re losing the plot.

Throughout your mail, you are trying convince that this guy really likes you and is spending time with you over his girlfriend etc. You are simultaneously in nearly complete denial over the fact both of you are of low character and you seem to think this can work out. Well here’s a reality check: it can’t.

His friends are not “suspicious”. I have no doubt they know exactly what he is up to. He is spending a lot of time with you, no doubt because you are screwing his lights out… but why? To acquire him? To get him from the other woman? And if you manage this what do you think you’ll have? I’ll tell you.

You’ll have a boyfriend who cheats on you and flaunts it in front of friends. You know. He’ll bring his other lover to his games and show her off. She’ll dress sexy at them too, wanna bet? His friends will laugh.

Look. You have screwed up. You have played and been played and there is no way to win. All you can do is cut your losses and I am sorry this is harsh. But the fact is, you’ve got a Saturn transit going and this crap just will not fly.

Good Luck.

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