She was shocked (but laughed) when I told her that I was sure he was not feeling what she felt! I also said that I was sure that he never would!
I explained that if she continued to look for this imaginary scenario, she would forever come up short. The are endless reasons as to why this is, but you only need to consider one of them, to realize I am right. How about testosterone?
Men don’t feel the way women do. There are physical reasons for this. So if you can let go of some dreamy idea like this, you’ll going to have a lot better chance of finding your real soul mate.
That fact aside, looking, waiting, and pining for someone to feel the way you do takes a lot of time and energy. If you knocked that off, you could spend that time and energy being authentically interested in who the person you are spending your time with really is. Because one thing is for sure. A person is not you, is not you!
It’s hard for me to understand why people lack interest in wanting to get to know people as the individual they are.
As an example, I love being in love. My husband does not enjoy it the least little bit. We both know we’re soulmates!
This is how it works in real life. I am not him and he is not me. This is exactly the way it should be. You’re looking for complement, rather than your mirror image.
Do you get to know a person as an individual, or do you constantly match them to yourself?
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pictured – Rembrandt van Rijn Portrait of an Old Jewish Man