My friend Ben is a Scorpio, but he has Aquarius rising with Uranus in Leo conjunct his descendent, and you just never what he’s going to do. His antics continue to surprise me and I’ve known him for three decades!
He was telling me about a girl in one of his classes, she’s a weirdo. Try not to react to that. Just stay with me on this.
The girl is a weirdo and Ben has other weirdos in some of his classes. This is true now and it’s been true over the course of his 30 year long career in teaching. Let’s face it, some people don’t fit in as well as others. But this particular girl was getting bullied for being a weirdo.
Ben made a point of telling me that these other weirdos were not getting bullied, which makes a person think.
The girl’s parents complained to the school. They placed the blame on for the girl’s problem on Ben. He was called into the office to speak with the parents and the principal about the issue. Here comes the surprise…
“I told then, yes your daughter is bullied. She’s a weirdo.” I gasped and laughed involuntarily. “I was a weirdo when I was her age too,” he said, before I could get any words out my mouth. “I was the weirdest kid in the school at her age. Do you think I was not picked on? I know what it’s like to be bullied.”
Ben is half white, half black and he was an out-of-the-closet gay boy, back when none of this was okay. On top of that, his father weighed roughly 500 pounds at a time where no one weighed 500 pounds.
“I was picked on all the time because I was different. I had two choices. I could either buckle under the pressure…or I was going to have to decide I was going to like myself no matter what anyone said about me. I decided I did like myself and your daughter better learn to like herself and appreciate what she has, otherwise she is going to be bitter all her life. If that happens, it’s not going to be because me! This is up to her. It’s her choice! Is she going to let them take her down? She doesn’t have to do that.
Your daughter is weird and so is everyone else in the class. They just don’t know it yet. But your daughter knows it. She knows she’s weird and she has the chance right now, to learn to like herself, right now, at this age.
If she does this, she’ll be ahead of everyone. These other kids will be trying to figure this out in their 20′s and your daughter will have this squared away. So don’t come here and tell me to fix your daughter’s problem. I can’t fix her problem. If you’re weird, you have to deal with. She’s weird, she has to deal with it, so there you have it. That’s my advice.”
I like myself. In fact, I have thought I was super-great, most of my life and it does help tremendously.
Do you like yourself?