Jung said, “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” Each of us is our own, singular concoction, chemically complex. When two people meet in relationship, of any kind, romantic, business, friendship, they have their own unique impact, on each other and as a discrete happening. I’m sure you’ve heard people talk about how someone brings out “the best” or “the worst” in them. And it’s really true. That’s what people do.
So here’s the thing. Everyone mixes together differently and astrology can tell you a LOT about the nature of that mixture. But what it cannot tell you is how you will LIKE it. It’s likely a person can tell what one is LIKELY to like, but still, personal preferences are SO exquisitely unique that it’s hard to peg for someone else.
You can look at the synastry (the comparison) of the charts of two people and see the ways in which they will chemically intermingle. There are definite 1+1=2 kinds of explanations for these energies. But just like mixing pink grapefruit juice and tequila, no one can FOR SURE tell you if you’re going to like it. In fact, while you can see what people like in the charts, you can’t see the complex nature of tastes evolving over time. Some people love arrogance. Some people love scars. Some people just can’t get by without a little emotional beating here and there, and they’re unlikely to let on about it.
Some of the classically worst pairings (according to astrology) can result in a highly permanent relationship. Some of the best pairings just fizzle out. “There’s no accounting for taste.” I don’t know who said that, but it surely is true. One thing I’ve learned is that there is no combination so foul-tasting that it cannot be someone’s favorite. And thank Maude for that, cos I think I’m tequila with pink grapefruit (with a Swedish Fish garnish) shaken over ice in an antique Mason jar.
Tastes also mature with age. I used to think mint juleps were nasty. Now they seem just right. But metaphors aside, your best bet, after looking at the synastry to keep yourself rational, is to ask yourself a few key questions. What does this person bring out in me? What do I bring out in them. Do I like myself when we’re together? Do I like the unique concoction that is “us”?
Do you like a conventional mix or one with some odd ingredients?