Changing Your Mind

Some years ago, I thought it would be cool to work as an astrologer in one the hotels downtown that had a spa. I have Jupiter strong in my chart, and the idea of working with a mixture of locals and tourists was really appealing. I thought this might be good option for everyone, once I got my kids into school, but when I got to that point, my life took a horrible turn that made this idea irrelevant.

I haven’t thought about this for a long time. When I did think of it, I realized the idea is not as appealing as it once was. I’ve changed my mind!

Is there something you used to want but no longer do? Have you changed your mind about what is attractive?  How do think this happens?

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  1. Yes. When I was young I wanted to own a lot of property. I don’t feel like that anymore. In reality it is a huge responsibility and what I currently own is more than enough.

  2. I have a very strong Jupiter signature in my chart (plus Venus in Libra in the 9th) so there have been numerous things that once attracted me but that I then moved on from. I’ve lost count of how many places I’ve moved to in this country and abroad, how many jobs, relationships etc. The difficulty for me has been putting down solid roots (maybe due Saturn in Capricorn opposing Moon in Cancer). I’m currently managing a community centre, which integrates lots of my previous and current interests, and attracts lots of foreign volunteers and/or customers. Hard work and lots of overtime, hopefully my Saturn is happy as well as my Jupiter!

  3. So how does the change (of mind) happen? I’m thinking partly Venus transits/aspects (what’s attractive) and partly Saturn (timing) and partly Jupiter (amplifying the other two). Maybe Mercury too as its change (Uranus/Pluto) of mind (Mercury)?
    I’m Mercury ruled, and have Mars and Mercury in a T square so I’m frequently impatient for change.

  4. I work in a spa at 5 star hotel and that’s the one part of the job i love. Meeting people from all over the world all the time. I have 9th house Sun and Merc in my chart, and Jupiter in the 7th. I surveyed the other workers there, and there’s a lot of Saggys that work there. Taurus too, but mostly Sag.

  5. For the last 7 years I REALLY wanted to have another baby. I was obsessive about it. I love raising my daughter, who is now 10. I loved carrying her in my belly, breast feeding, setting guidelines for her to grow safely, keeping a healthy schedule, observing her learn about what this life is about, everything. But, I have not met a partner to do this with. I considered artificial ensimination. I even did a bunch of research on the cost and possibilities. But, I didn’t like that I wouldn’t be able to smell the man. I read that liking a man’s smell has to do with genetic compatibility.
    Unfortunately, this was so much at the forefront for me, that as I met any man, that was what I would ‘evaluate’ him for: whether or not he would help me accomplish my goal of another baby. Not the best way to get to know somebody…
    In the fall of 2011, I met a man that I thought would be perfect. He is fit, meditates, cute, good natured, keeps a job, and he smells good. So, I seduced him. And by the following spring, I was carrying his child.
    Then Uranus moved into my 8th house and aspected my Scorpio stellium. And I woke up to the reality that I was pregnant and completely unsupported. I was on the brink of buying my parent’s house from them: plunging me deeper into debt on top of my huge student loan. I was about to be responsible for that mortgage, running a property, my business, my daughter, a new baby, a new man and there was nobody actually looking out for me- creating a nurturing supportive environment so that I could carry that baby and give him/ her all the love and attention I was able to give my daughter. My new man had flipped out and pulled the rug out from under me and my plan. My parents didn’t know the first thing about how to nurture and support. They just work all the time!
    So, I changed my mind. I said no. I dropped everything, packed up myself, my daughter and my business and moved 2000 miles away.
    I am not sure about having another child now. I would if the right situation presented itself. My obsession is gone. Which is a relief because my daughter needs some extra attention right now as Saturn conjuncts her natal Venus and Mars and her adolescence begins. ❤ She, too, is waking up to energy she has inherited, but unfortunately, it’s the compulsion for self harm that her paternal grandfather lost his life to.

  6. Context. Everything is about context.

    I believe in this quantum idea of your life – that the trajectory of your life could split off into a million different paths at any moment, but of course you’re only living one of your many possible incarnations. You follow the path, and you plan based on where you think it’s going, but it always fractures off in a million different ways you never expected.

    I’ve got a libra and sag stellium in my chart. Luckily grounded by saturn and pluto influences, otherwise I’d probably never stick with anything. I find it very hard. But I am dedicated to living the most interesting life possible. And this requires revision at many points.

    When projecting thoughts about a possible future – if you’re capable and know yourself, you’re aware of a great multitude of things which you can do. Which one you ultimately choose depends as much upon external factors as it does upon yourself. I don’t believe in predestination, but I do believe in astrology: sometimes, you want to sail your boat directly some place, but the wind tells you otherwise – you’ve got to tack your way there.

  7. Context. Everything is about context.

    I believe in this quantum idea of your life – that the trajectory of your life could split off into a million different paths at any moment, but of course you’re only living one of your many possible incarnations. You follow the path, and you plan based on where you think it’s going, but it always fractures off in a million different ways you never expected.

    I’ve got a libra and sag stellium in my chart. Luckily grounded by saturn and pluto influences, otherwise I’d probably never stick with anything. I find it very hard. But I am dedicated to living the most interesting life possible. And this requires revision at many points.

    When projecting thoughts about a possible future – if you’re capable and know yourself, you’re aware of a great multitude of things that you can do well. Which one you ultimately choose depends as much upon external factors as it does upon yourself. I don’t believe in predestination, but I do believe in astrology: there are forces out there or energy that is good for this at this time, or that, or that is just good for making you stop and reconsider and knocking you on your ass for a bit if that’s what you need. Sometimes, you want to sail your boat directly some place, but the wind tells you otherwise – you’ve got to adjust, decide to change course, or if you insist, you may have to tack your way there.

  8. I worked in a local hospital in high school and into my early 20’s and was going to finish nursing school. It was my plan …my dream. I had my first child and found I couldn’t work full time raise a child and go to nursing school because my child would get nothing from me. I swore I would go to school as soon as he was in school all day. But, when he was, I had my second child.

    Fast forward… both kids in school all day, time to head to nursing school. I got divorced instead…and was back to work full-time raising two kids alone.

    It all worked out in the end. But that 15 year dream never did come to me. Today I just figure it was never meant to be. I am not sad about it. And have no interest in it now….

    Dreams change. Sometimes things turn out better than the original plan you had :)

  9. I would be going insane in that hotel at this point. WTH was I thinking? Why would I want to drive downtown, fight to park, have to look a certain way…

    It’s amazing how things change. They just change and that’s all there is to it.

  10. Wow. Great topic. Amazing comments.
    It’s weird. Some of the things that were minor interests in my twenties have become quite relevant while I have no interest in the career obsession from that time. I didn’t know myself and was trying to be or become someone else which was taking me further away from who I’m supposed to be. I’m thankful it didn’t work out!
    I had a business consultation yesterday and the person was honest. That’s the best. It wasn’t pretty, but it was good. The consultant looked at my website, professional statement and resume. Only my resume was up to snuff. I was a bit put out, but am thanking the stars today. Now I’ve got clean up work and writing to do. Change is good!
    Thank you for the post, Elsa.

  11. Am feeling Neptune must be involved too, as the change is mysterious & hard to pin down in some sense. And can involve loss, or illusion/delusion, or a stripping away, or just a subtle change that’s about a collective soul and very hard to understand on an individual level. It’s an intricate machine with a million changes every second. Things are possible and then no longer possible or desirable in quite the same way; one would be forcing the river.

  12. Usually it is not so much that what ~I~ want changes but that the context and circumstances (factors EXTERNAL to me over which I have NO control) change, rendering the thing I want either impossible or a fight beyond the reasonable or healthy.

  13. I changed my mind about relationships; I used to think I needed one, now I’m aware being alone and working on myself feels more righteous and empowering. It’s a big deal for a Libran.
    I’m also questioning my plan to move abroad next year, now that I have involved a couple of local musicians in my band. If I will have to give it up for the sake of the most important thing in my life then so be it. But maybe this will be subjected to change as well.

  14. I changed my mind about working full time for someone else. Now, I am going out on my own… My Aries Sun and Cap Moon are finally working together.

  15. I used to want to be a rock star was in bands but now I think the people in the industry are so cocky , wasteful , discontented, and egotistical for the worse part of if I don’t want to get entrenched. Not to mention the boys who do it for getting laid and the women who want to get their cake and eat it too. Fuck it all, I am going to be a music teacher.

  16. I have a very strong Mars, but also strong Venus, Neptune, and Uranus. I have a tendency to do things intensively, then lose interest and take up something new.

  17. I thought astrology was a complete waste of time. An astrologer lived me for a while and was very excited about my chart… she kept trying to show me, tell me about it. My reply: “No way, not interested!”

    What am I doing now(35 years later)?

    Astrology. Ha!!

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