Towards the end of last year, I realized I had to change the conversation in my life. That was the phrase that came to me at that time. I felt stymied in most all my communication back then, and I felt an overwhelming impulse to alter on my life in this regard. I didn’t put this together with the fact that Uranus (change) and Pluto (deep) were transiting my natal Mercury (conversation) at the time, but it sure does fit.
Because I pay attention to the sparks in my life, I acted on the impulse. I stopped talking to some people and started talking to others. I quit talking about some things and I started talking about others. This was on the surface.
Deeper down, I made an effort (Pluto in Capricorn) to revolutionize (Uranus) my thought process (Mercury). I continue to work (Capricorn) with my own demons (Pluto) to liberate (Uranus) myself, particularly when it comes to conversations (Mercury) I might have, that are destructive rather than healing (Pluto) to myself or others (Mercury in Libra).
I am focused on making a fundamental, permanent change in my life. You may have noticed changes on the blog. I really don’t know, because I am working with the root rather than the flower. But I can tell you, I feel good right now. I feel I did the right thing.
Can you relate to this?
28 Responses to “Changing The Conversation In My Life”
Sorta-kinda.
It hit me the other night that I used to prize myself on my forthrightness and I let that slide, in favor of politeness and keeping out of it / not wanting to argue.
Well, I still don’t want to argue *grins* but I’m pretty damned sure that constantly striving to be polite is what’s holding me back from connecting to others and making me feel miserable. I’m hiding my light under a bushel, man. It ain’t right!
I’ve resolved to change this, if I haven’t slipped too far down the rabbit hole yet. 
Yes, I have noticed the shift, E.
I did learn the give-n-take of communication during Saturn/Libra, but I can relate to SaD-it seems like I’ve had to use my BIG voice to be heard, at all, in all but some cases.
I am resolved to keep my polite, but maybe turn the volume up, and keep my words and tone direct.
Calm Assertive, as Cesar Milan says.
As Saturn Squares My Mars/Merc I’ve stopped talking about some things,(I was boring myself and possibly others) and also become stronger and more relaxed about what I do say.
Well, I can tell you this much. I watched (read what you published about) you struggle with the issues of Saturn to your Mercury and noted to myself that the transits of Pluto/Uranus were probably happening too. And, I paid very careful attention. Why? Because this is incoming for me (Mercury inolved in the current sky’s big player plantes) And, because (from the evaluation of the evolving refining product) I think you set a wonderful example of how one can step up (?) –not sure if that’s the right word– come through (?) the process more refined and masterful of it.
Anyway. I’m glad to have bore witness to what I did notice. Because, now, I feel better prepared and more able to handle (both knowing it is possible to make it through the hard times coming out on the other end..and possible to use the energy to it’s full advantage) my own upcoming path through this.
..lol, if that makes any sense at all
Yes I can relate to this. Saturn/Uranus/Mercury in a T-square, with Saturn/8th the apex. Saturn in Scorpio is transiting my Uranus, so activating it, as well.
I am working hard to change my communication methods, yet again. This is something I work at as a matter of routine (Merc square Saturn is no joke) but in the past few months I realized how much time I’d wasted communicating via certain channels. I have definitely set myself up to be hurt, having the wrong conversations with the wrong people.
I share a lot but there is much more that I don’t share. It’s just easier this way. People close to me know that I’m not looking to be coddled or “helped” when I’m talking but I realized that many more people mistake my desire to communicate as a cue for them to start acting like my parent/therapist.
Well, that’s my responsibility, then. I’m careful who I talk to because I am done with wasting energy, all around.
I can definitely relate Elsa.
In addition to becoming more aware (and discerning) of the kind of conversations I have on the outside, I’ve also been working on the conversations I have going on in my monkey mind.
Mercury in Pisces opposite Pluto natally… I’ve always been deeply aware of the power of words.
Excellent post, Elsa. Can definitely relate. I am struggling with the notion that it is a choice to be unhappy, balancing that with knowing what relationships, patterns no longer fit me.
It takes a lot of awareness to make a conscious change at a very deep level like that. But it’s really empowering to know it’s possible.
In my case I always know what I need to do — I just tend to not do it because I’m codependent or afraid. But Scorping is sometimes the only possible solution and it has never not worked like a charm for me whenever I gather up the guts to do it. My Libra hates it when my Scorpio gets emotionally austere.
Elsa, I totally relate and have been thinking along very similar lines. I don’t have the aspect to Mercury but I have transiting Pluo in the third house, which seems to have a similar effect.
I can relate.
Same as CArRiE — Mercury opp Pluto … I have come to this recent conclusion AT work. Careful with what I share and express. People want to figure me out (Scorpio Moon) — put me in a box. Keeping enemies close is my usual method 7h Sun. Not sure at this point it’s worth the energy.
I’m getting crunchier as I age.
Changes here noted and appreciated, Elsa: redirecting the flow.
@Eva “My Libra hates it when my Scorpio gets emotionally austere.” that’s what happens to my natal Neptune Libra:/
I am on a very similar path to Elsa’s. Last year I was terminating old destructive relationships and abandoning old patterns. Along with new friends and new interests came a revival of long dormant spiritual interests. I realized that I needed to commit to a deep and painful structural overhaul including the way I have been using language. These changes began two years ago but seem to be culminating now.
Welcome, Oramasis. That sounds really good and so similar. Thanks for posting. You give me company!
When t. Pluto was on my Merc in Sag in the 10th house, I went deep into therapy and for fun I started to learn astro. Talk about two disciplines changing the convo’s in your head . . .
***I am becoming more concious of the verbal exchanges I am having***
This post comes at a time when I am in the thickest part of the thick of it. I have no choice but to change my verbal exchanges. I am either going to do it ….or it is going to do me in. And, its a good test. I need it. I hate it but I needed it. Saturn has forced his/her hand on me…. good god my Mercury…
I am being forced to THINK before I speak. Think about the words coming out of my mouth and what they may sound like if I were on the receiving end of them.
Think about the types of conversations I have been in and what I want to or will be willing to talk about in the furture. Think before I have some crazy outburst of verbal diarrhea or show my hand ….
Think before I fall into some trap where gossip is the core of the conversation….you see that is real easy to fall into….before you notice you are allowing some bizzybod to talk you into a conversation about some poor soul that isn’t present to defend themselves……
I am not only having to manage my mouth but my thoughts …. by working on my thoughts I am better able to manage what will fly out of my mouth….
Well, the Uranus/PLuto square is battering my Libra Sun, and forcing me to put my foot down. Stop being so accomodating (Libra) to others all the time and start fighting for what I want. It’s my life too–I have a right to exist.
I relate to this. I am trying to listen more and not jump in with advice as I tend to do. I am trying to be more sensitive and compassionate, less judgemental. Am finding it to be a healing process, for myself especially.
I can. Saturn’s in my 3rd house and like CArRiE and sunnyP, natally Mercury (also in Pisces) opposes Pluto. More than usual, like others mentioned, I’ve been very…strategic…with my words over the last few months. It’s also about the energies involved in such and the management thereof.
On a sort of “technical” note, Elsa I love it when you put the sign/planet in parentheses next to phrases. As someone who’s still learning how things “show up” in astrology, I find it verrrry helpful.
I am noticing a shift in communication patterns in my life too. I feel less of a need to rant and rave about the same old things. And in turn, I’m having better dialogues with people around me. I am choosing my words more carefully as well.
I’ve noticed that my progressed Moon is usually the same sign as the transiting Saturn…Maybe that’s why I tend to feel strongly a Saturn transit.
I have given up on talking to most people…they just don`t go deep enough.
(I have Natal Mercury in Scorpio and have always felt that most people are just superficial bull shiters )
elsa elsa i really enjoyed this post.
i can relate to this in trying to change the surface
level actual content
of the converstion and digging a bit deeper: trying
to crack the pattern of the flow of thought leading
to the words. it is a daily struggle.
i actually think that breaking negative thought
patterns based on expierence is damn near
impossible- it takes a boat load of positivity and
a dash of intentional stupidity.
I have Mercury conjunct the south node in Aries at 12 degrees. I’m also finishing up a transiting Pluto comjunct Saturn at 7 Capricorn in the 6th. There’s been a lot of stinging BS flying around work. I will try your approach on my upcoming Uranus transit to my mercury. Two more weeks to go and I retire from 32 years of Gov service! I’m so ready for a new me, I’ve been stuffed in that Saturn in Capricorn box way too long!
When Pluto was still in Scorpio (my 2H) I was pretty much forced to change the way I think, from a bitter voice in my head to a positive thought-track. This changed everything for me (deep healing/regeneration/awakening).
Now that he’s in my Cappy 3rd, I had to tunnel in to think about the way I converse and make the necessary adjustments. Most often it’s okay, but certain red buttons remain. It’s a process.
On the plus side, having Pluto in 3rd has made me a better teacher I think – has hardly been a day when I felt like I ‘phoned it in,’ nearly every day it’s been as real as it gets. I give away tons of energy and am almost never tapped out.
Having Saturn cross my Asc. also brought change: I can see/hear myself a lot better now. Floatin’ around in the 12th, I didn’t have a clear view of what I was swimming in: got hung up in the seaweed for a little bit there but I just withdrew my energy instead of the usual panicky flailing, and it’s okay now That felt great!
Loved this post, Elsa, and the other one about doing a quantum leap when all planets go direct! I feel like I’m getting a new lease on life.
Thank you!
Hmmm…well…I felt I should GO over the top and speak up when I saw something that wasn’t right, but one small growl from a colleague sent me scuttling back to my mercury square asc burrow!
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NoWhen Saturn moved into Scorpio, a lot of people dropped out of my life. I have very, very few people now to talk to. In my efforts to meet new people and broaden my social circle and horizons, I am becoming more concious of the verbal exchanges I am having. Not all of the people in my life previously were healthy to be around, so I am paying attention to cues from others that might be unhealthy and if I sense them, I move on. I am making an effort on my part too, to change the tones of conversations to something more positive/forward thinking, so as to attract those similar to me. I’m taking a machete to character traits I had never given thought to before but I now realize are ugly and hurt my character, and the tone of my conversations, and who I choose to talk to, is getting the same treatment. I am trying to speak a new me into existence. Definitely relate.