First, a disclaimer. This is not about anyone I have spoken with recently. It is about a certain kind of person that calls me now and then with a question that may as well be, “Can I be Peter Pan?”
It be a man or it may be a woman. In either case, the person has some kind of fantasy. They want to know if this fantasy can be sustained or manifested in the real world or what.
Sometimes they want to be paid (well) to do something there is no market for. Others imagine themselves as the lover or close associate of some famous person with whom they have no relationship. Some believe time and aging does not apply to them, or that a lotto win is right around the corner.
Can you relate to this at all? I think we’re all like this to some degree, even if it’s slight.
Is there part of you that does not want to grow up? Do you think this is possible? How does your belief affect your life?
32 Responses to “Can I Be Peter Pan?”
Even Peter Pan had to beware of Hook…
The thing is though, anything is possible. Some things of course are far far out of reach, but it’s hard to say that no one, for example, will ever win the lottery.
If someone’s goal is truly ridiculous, like marrying a famous person who is already married when you just have no chance in hell, it’s an example of misdirected energy. This person is trying not to live their own life for some reason.
I’m not going to win the lottery because I don’t play, but some people spend a tremendous amount of time trying to write mathematical equations and studying statistics and learning how to play smart instead of playing hard. Maybe they’ll succeed. Who’s to say?
LOL, yes. I have a 5H Aries Moon and part of me does not want to grow up. It’s certainly slowed me down, but I have Saturn too, so delay is also written in my chart.
My first thought is about several men I know, my hubby included, who have Pan Syndrome. They just have this “come fly with me!!” effect. Most people can’t hang for long. It’s an art, to not let it turn into a fantasy or complete avoidance of one’s responsibilities, which of course winds up being the flip side of “Pan Syndrome.”
I know a woman who is madly in love with the lead singer of Phish. She goes to all of his shows when he is in the area, sends him expensive birthday gifts, has a shrine to him in her bedroom and believes he sings to her directly at shows and watches her dancing in the crowd for him. She would often talk with me, flabbergasted as to why he hadn’t retrieved her and swept her away or at the very least allowed her to collaborate with the band. My immediate response to her was always, “Isn’t he married, with children?” She would view the wife as some sort of obstacle, as if she was with HER man or something. The whole thing was quite comical and sad. Her delusions were thick.
When I retired from the military , I was exactly like this.
I thought my experience was going to get me a great job that paid well (equal to or greater than my old salary).
Imagine my shock and dismay when it became obvious that not only was I nieve , but the employers had already devised a system to twart my delusions.
Screw it….. I’m gonna take my ball and seal myself in a cave. The whole word can destroy itself.
Yeah, at times then the skeptic in me whips me into shape and gets me back on track!
My significant other believes he will never age and that anything he wants to do can be done at any age. He also tells me that I am wishing bad things on him when I disagree. As a man he has options to do things at a later age that won’t be possible for me, such as having children.
But I guess I must have my own peter pan fantasies because I won’t give up the hope that he will understand that in order for us to have a family we need to get started now.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqOm78Vvg3w
I’m still searching for the right blend of responsibility and “grown-upness” which doesn’t have to squash all of my dreams and ideals. The whole job/career/work area is something I’ve really been struggling with as of late.
I’m adamant that anything is possible, and a pet peeve is people being utterly resigned about something. I know at any given moment something can happen to turn your world upside down; it happens every day to someone.
This topic reminded me of author Louise Hay who was badly sexually abused at a young age, and has gone on to lead an inspiring, happy life. In a video near her 80th bday, she said how her life kept getting more and more rewarding, and she vowed to make the next decade the best one yet. If she didn’t have at least a little Peter Pan in her, she wouldn’t be able to make that declaration.
This post makes me chuckle. My asc is on the Gemini/Cancer cusp. I have read somewhere that this cusp is called the “cusp of magic”. Like Caracadabra has said, I am aware that I have a “come fly with me!!” effect.” When looking at my chart Elsa, you even said that I can imagine my life and there is a very big chance that my imaginings will become reality.
With Gemini Rising, I know I can be a bit of a pixie. But because I have Saturn and Pluto, I do well in grounding that whimisical Gemini,Sag,Pisces energy most of the time.
But yes………………I wouldn’t say I was Peter Pan because I do not avoid respeonsibility and as a matter fact I actively take them on…….but I will say that I took Mr. Roger’s call to “imagine” very seriously. lol
And boy do I back my “imaginings” with a boat load of energy, so maybe that’s why my musings have come into manifestations for the most part.
I told my mother that I will retire on some carribean island in the jungle with a pet goat. lol. Keep in mind that I know no one that currently lives in the Carribean. She looked at me with that look that she gives me. It says “my child….what’s wrong with her? smh” lol But hey, something tells me this is exactly what will happen. A premonition popped into my head in 2006 of me as an old woman and I lived in a small house. On the outside of the house was a lot of foilage and there was a goat in the front yard. And I could see the silhouette of my future partner quietly and quickly cleaning the house while there was a pot of something boiling on the stove. This is how I know I will end up with a person that has heavy Virgo energy…lol.
My Capricorn is quietly saving for this venture as we speak. Thank God for saturn : )
Yes, there is a part of me that is Peter Pan. And, with the heavy Saturn influence throughout my chart, I feel blessed with the lightness of Jupiter in the 11th House wild hair conjunct Venus and Uranus in 6th House Gemini making room for Peter and his crew to come out in me and play.
The heaviness of Saturn grounds me even when I am doing odd things. When life continues, even when all odds are against it, it’s my Peter Pan gene that helps me see the fantastic world of “Never say never” – try it this way, go that way, use some other words (Uranus in Gemini).
@BB: I have also been blessed with a partner with lots of Virgo and a Cancer sun. He keeps the books and is my Muse as well. At 65, my Capricorn moon is more often happy(how long can a Cappy Moon be happy?)with tiny houses, trees and ducks for company and a fairy tale production in the making. A real Peter and Wendy version is happening in my world today, and all the planets, angles and sparks of inspiration contribute to that production.
I believe there is room for fantasy and imagination.
@Eva … really, who’s to say.
I know a lot of Peter Pans. “One day I’ll find a man who will take care of me.” “I don’t earn enough money to live independently, but I’m special and deserve to be able to afford the most expensive clothes, gyms, cars, etc.” And so on and so forth.
Places like Boulder, Portland, Austin are very inviting to Peter Pan types. I’ve lived in a couple of these places;)
5th house sun here too! I will always be kid-like.
It’s crazy that this is your topic, because I had a dream about the differences between growing up as a kid in America and other “developed” countries (Japan, Canada, etc), versus places in Africa, S. America and the like. This then led to the character and personality comparisons and contrasts that exist.
No major responsibilities, nap time, recess/gym, snacks, getting letters (and not text messages), video game marathons? Versus domestic duties, jobs, living on a schedule, being aware of your health, body, bad drivers, buffets, choice of amazing food, clothing, traveling, research, sex, voting, and much more.
I don’t know….hard choice lol. As long as there’s good, no, great food, then I don’t mind either way.
If I had to chose? I’d be a kid!
Yeah, but I tell myself that it’s all in my head and that I have to. That the world and being an adult isn’t as bad and scary as it seems. I’ll always have a youthful element in me though no matter how old I get. I’m a Monkey with Leo and alot of Cancer. Forever young.
And I have the “fairytale” belief. You know I run into my future lover one day and we’ll just have that instant connection and it’s pretty much us and against the world after that. This belief has produced the concept in me that I’ll find love some day soon so I’m always on the look out for whoever this person will be.
i really don’t know if not growing up is so allowed right now. Tinkerbell might have a chance since she/he it does not live on the ground at all.
notch, I am with you. I think a bunch of folks are ’bout ready to hit by a truck with these delusions.
Yes there is a (very large) part of me that does not want to grow up. 5th House Sun inconjunct Saggie Neptune; Jupiter in Gemini opposed Neptune, as well. I do grown up things but I am a child at heart. Always and forever.
I dream almost everything into being and I think others do, too. I think reality is a kind of trance. When the dream flops, I move on to the next dream. I think other people (like my partner) fear they will be crushed by a dream falling apart. I so rarely am. If I am it is not for long. I dream up something else. There is no limit to my imagination: Neptune opp Jupiter.
12th House Neptune: dreamworld is as valid of a dimension than any other.
I probably have a lot of this delusion because I’ve been a late bloomer and still believe the best is yet to come.
My beef is with young people (I’m defining young as anyone in their 20′s) who are in such a hurry to grow up before they really know who they are or what they can do.
I have nieces who married at 19, bought houses at 22 and had a babies at 23. Then at 29 they all seem to get divorced.
Youth is wasted on the young. They ought to be out exploring the world and taking risks because failure will never be so easily overcome at a later age.
Come to think of it – maybe that is what they were trying to do by getting married so young.
Everyone matures at their own rate. There isn’t a blueprint or one size fits all.
The best artists seem to preserve the best of childhood in their works, I think,
My little triple sag says she never wants to grow up, totally a peter pan thing!
Angie
Sag Stellium. I’m a kid trapped in an Adult body. I still rollerblade. Its something I love and I plan on doing it until I can’t anymore
I know a male someone with this complex who is a wonderful kindergarten teacher
I have Peter Pan thoughts. However, I am quite earthy, so I know better than to take them seriously. The thoughts are basically daydreams to make dealing with my boring real life better. I wish I could make them happen, but it’s highly unlikely and I have no clue as to how to make my desires come true anyway. And I’m aware of that. It would take an act of god and all that, but…well, reality sucks, so I daydream like everyone else.
I have a lot of Sadge influence myself and there are actually no stories that I can relate to more than Peter Pan! I watched the film literally every day when I was a kid 
I saw Cathy Rigby perform the part last year (she was age 59!) I relate to all of the characters though, including Wendy. I do want to grow up, but there’s always that place in my heart for adventures and wishful thinking. <3 Sadge moon in the 5th. Jupiter in Aries in the 9th.
my Sag 7th house tends to turn grown men into Peter Pan
aaaand Pisces tends to make excuses for them.
Some days I try to use my Saturn to put a clamp on it, but it doesn’t work…
I guess I’m Tinkerbell, Gem rising too
I have very little of this. I need more, actually, for the reasons Firecat stated. Sometimes it’s a good thing.
But, on the whole, I think “growing up” is a great thing. It’s the only way to grow. And I like to grow.
I’m more of a Wendy type, attracting Peter Pans because I am grounded and future-oriented. And they help me enjoy the moment because otherwise I’m too uptight.
I have a couple big dreams I entertain stubbornly. I don’t think I have any delusions about their likelihood though. I hedge my bets…
I agree with Kash. I love following my dreams. I’ll dream something while fantasizing or in my sleep and next thing you know I’m determined to make this dream happen and I don’t stop until I do. 9H stellium sextile Jupiter. Jupiter trine Neptune. And Mars in Taurus. I’m very persistent!
I totally and completely struggle to relate to this one. I think I might be married to someone with this, but I chalk that up to his Jupiter beliefs. That and things really do work in his favor if he waits. Not to say he doesn’t work but his waiting means that it arrives at the right time for his needs.
Me, cynical, work, more cynical. I maybe need to develop a willingness to wait for the future to be better in some way?
I love to believe that most possibilities will still be there at any age, but am still realistic enough to be practical about things like retirement.
OTOH, my teenaged daughter is a Cancer/Gemini cusper, and she says Peter Pan is her imaginary lover!
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With an Aries Sun in the 5th house, my inner child will never grow up.