Leaving my ex was both intensely personal and also a function of the dynamic described above. I had just turned 30, and I knew I couldn’t live the rest of my life the way I lived my first 30 years. There were specific things about me, him, and the relationship, but that was the bottom line. My Saturn Return prepared me for something greater than living in service to someone else’s dysfunction.

I’m a Cap, so this occurred pretty close to both Christmas and the New Year.

I wish I could go back over all my ex’s and what time of year I decided to shed them! (I was young!)

Makes me wonder if the stats for dumpings rise pre/during Saturn Returns or Uranus opp?

*thinking back hard on this while the office is radio-silent this time of year*

Okay, can honestly say all my dumpings have been a character concern/issue.

Kiri, sorry to hear of your relationship status. A breakup is hard enough, then add in this time of year. Don’t know him, but that is a jerk think to do and let the door hit HIM on the way out. He’ll be calling come the end of January, mark my words, when things are bleak and he freaks out. And when he does call, he will, please do NOT pick up initially. He doesn’t deserve a pick-up for the first month, or ever, when he comes calling. Just my plug nickel on the matter. I’d share a glass of wine and a laugh with you but this is the interweb, boo.

I once dumped a guy because he wouldn’t put out. I think young me sucked about enough for ten of us. but you know what? SO WHAT? he found the gal he married and they’re hopelessly happy.

Also though — I always sort of put this into the hopper with the fall eclipses. It becomes really obvious somewhere in October that whatever you thought this thing was going to be aint going to be that. There are only two choices available at that point — or so we assess.

Ha! Yep, I paid the price. His very words were “It’s not you, it’s me”. I doubt he realized how true they were.

He had just gone through his second Saturn Return (one from hell, with a retrograde in the middle that stretched it to over a year). He had also just lost his stepfather and is now taking care of his mother, who he has never had a close relationship with. He had a heart attack last fall. He turned 60 this year. I don’t keep track of his life, but we have a lot of common friends so I hear things. He’s depressed. He’s not seeing anyone. Overall, I think he did me a big favor by dumping me.

My life has blossomed while his has shrunk. They say the best revenge is living a good and happy life “without him”. I’m doing that. I still care about him and it makes me sad to see him so unhappy, but he made the choice. You are probably right, Elsa. I may have reminded him he was getting old. Now I remind him of what he could have had if he’d stayed. Funny how the dynamics change.