Never Mind The Polarization – Look At The Continuum
Ask the collective.
My angle on the post Disliking People Because They Are Not Like You was less psychological and more Jupitarian. I may not have expressed myself very well.
Exposing yourself to people who act and think and believe differently than you do, expands your perspective. With Jupiter in Gemini, this is a great time to talk to as many people as you can.
What I observe is that many reject people when they see them handle things differently than they would, which leaves you a really tiny space to live in.
In reality, there are not two sides. There is a continuum. I think most people would agree with this and if you do agree with it, then you must realize there are ends of that continuum.
I think people like my husband and I might be seen as existing towards one end of the continuum. I don’t agree with that, but it’s irrelevant. If you really want to grow, you’ll want to associate with, and strive to understand people who are very different than you. Living this way seems best to me, but I admit I raised with these values.
Do you reject people who are dissimilar to you?
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Sometimes.
There are people out there living lives and making choices that I want absolutely nothing to do with, and I don’t feel bad about keeping as far away from them as possible.
Am I limiting myself? Probably. I definitely think so; knowing what they know / how their brains work would very possibly help me in certain situations. However, these people that I’m talking about I don’t respect. I think they lack integrity. And I don’t want to infect myself by association.
“Do you reject people who are dissimilar to you?” — I tend to seek them out. Although there are people who I feel very irritated around (specifically those display a passive aggressive/passive/victim character. My Aries tends to get very irritated by that type of energy) But I like people who tend to make me feel out of my element (uranus/venus/moon aspects)
eta: That type of passive aggressive/passive/victim energy is something that I also have seen in myself sometimes early on and highly disliked. I tend to think that I dislike it in others so much because I dislike it in myself so much. I think We all have things we deeply don’t like about ourselves (although most times we’re not cognizant of this) and when we see these qualities reflected externally in others we react negatively towards them. The origination I think stems in us though.
No, I don’t. My chart ruler Jupiter is in Gemini and it is favourably aspected (also part of a yod with 11th House Uranus and Venus-Mars). I have cast a wide net in more ways than one since I was a little girl. I’ve had some extreme life events and circumstances as a result but I have always been interested in how others live their lives, especially because I grew up in an isolated environment.
i just had to come back and say that the orange and the apple are so friggin’ cute. lol. what a pic
Nope…my chart rmy first houseulers is also jupiter in gemini in though.
I like different sorts of people and love to talk to people from different cultures even slightly different cultures (take Northerners compared to Southerners). I love the mom’s group I’m in, we have women from all sorts of places. Argentina, Slovakia, China, Thailand to name a few. In fact the only people I really don’t like to talk to are the ones who dislike others because they don’t think like them.
Here’s my take on this…
Seems to me that if you are a seeker and a free-thinker, you are apt to cast a wide net in order to take in lots of ideas and perspectives because you’re naturally curious and need the intellectual stimulation. I would count myself as one of those seekers and free-thinkers. I love diversity. Nevertheless, if during my seeking I come upon someone who presents ideas as “right” or “the truth” – well, I wouldn’t say I reject them, but I would say I back up and get the hell away. I’m not looking to be converted, but to be informed and to expand my thinking — not to shrink my thinking to a single way of viewing things. Now, having said that, I do enjoy and often prefer to hang out with “like-minded” folk because we tend to talk a similar language. With them, I can learn more — go deeper — into subjects I like the most – like astrology, art, psychology, community support, etc.
I accept and talk to anyone who shows up in my life. If they are negative or disrespectful (towards anyone), I tend to weed them out fast, but I figure there is a reason why people enter your life – even for just a few minutes standing in the grocery line. The people in my office were amazed that I knew the names/families/lives of the cleaning people, the guy who ran the deli downstairs and every woman on our floor. This world is a lot smaller than you think and we’re all brothers and sisters of humanity.
“I figure there is a reason why people enter your life – even for just a few minutes standing in the grocery line.”
TOO funny…given that I loathe the expression ‘everything happens for a reason’, your comment reminds me I have my own variation of it, kiriecat, and it extends to people, lol. I hope I am recalling this correctly but when I began studying Buddhism I remember reading something somewhere, along the lines of ‘some people you meet, serve as an example of you of how not to be, and you should have compassion for them.’
I’m paraphrasing here, but you catch the drift, I hope. I try to be grateful for those who are visible in their shadow-carrying. It isn’t at all easy.
i have jupiter in gemini. and have sometimes been told i have oo _open_ a mind…
and in a way perhaps sometimes that’s true…
Elsa thank you for this post – I realised I am open minded until I’m not. Aqua Sun/Saturn in 9th. I love diversity too, in fact I attract it. Where I come unstuck is when people have expectations of me which don’t blend well with my own values – then I’m off on the ether again.
Gosh do you know how to rack up some great posts.
Amen Sister.
@Gabrielle, you’re welcome. Today I met with an old lady to help her make birthday cards for the woman’s club.
http://boards.elsaelsa.com/topic/dying-art
She says she is going to leave the Catholic church (after 81 years) if Romney is elected. She also told me about being a child during WW2.
This was a great day, my time well spent. 
Do you reject people who are dissimilar to you?
Nope. Not me. My problem is having a bit more discretion with folks. I just think people, in all their many varieties, are endlessly fascinating.
I think having Jupiter in Gemini (3rd house) and Saturn in Sagittarius (10th house) creates a contradiction in me. I want to be open-minded and learn whatever I can, but I want to be discerning at the same time because I want to feel like what I am learning helps me move forward (not astray). I have found myself being closed-minded when I feel like someone is spouting nonsense. Otherwise, I can be open-minded.
Coming here is definitely teaching me how to say my piece while letting others say their piece as well. I applied that lesson at a conference today, and it worked out beautifully.
I hope that by demonstrating how I’ve broken down my own limiting beliefs, how I feel comfortable with negative topics that are sometimes necessary to mention and how I’m striving to break down my psychological barriers, I could encourage people to evaluate their belief system regularly.
I’ve no idea but I love people from other cultures. I see myself more clearly when reflected back from relating to them. They always do things differently, sometimes I want to learn how to do things their way, sometimes I am thrilled I don’t have to. 
I meant to say “I’ve no idea the astrology of this” gah.
I have Jupiter in Libra, 2nd house, I can’t tolerate people who are not in my principal, don’t know why 
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seems astrology attracks the open-minded, for the most part
(jup at home in 9th and ‘i possess’ a sag moon)
cant tolerate the cookie cutter mentality beyond the necessary, though i do get why this type finds it comforting.
wonder who i will meet today..!
x
No, I don’t reject those that are dissimilar to myself. Given that the majority of people in my life are dissimlar or not like me, that’s a good thing, or I’d be awefully lonely all the time. I like different, as long as there is respect on a two way basis,
Angie
Why is she going to leave the Catholic church if Romney is elected? Is it so she can join the Mormon one? /confused
Piya, no. I wasn’t sure either. She and her husband and super, super-duper liberals. They are liberal to very end of the continuum. But I did ask her “Why would you do that?” She is active in the church and has been all her life.
She said she believed in separation of church and state and mentioned “women’s health and bodies” without elaborating. She was not at all aggressive when she spoke. She looked in agony, almost mourning. She said she knew of a “congregational church” and had some friends that went there and this is where she was headed.
I really didn’t probe this. It was not a debate. It was one person talking to another, and she was really pained to tell me this. She is my elder so I just listened.
Anyway, she said that the Catholic Church was telling people to vote for Romney and if he won, she would hold the church responsible and that would be it for her.
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nope. with a sag moon I seek out those with different perspectives. my life has been so rich because of this.