As much as I love my mother, I grew up watching her do this. It actually can make me ill physically. I simply don’t get it, and it pains me to hear her criticize people, just because they aren’t like her. (She’s got her Sun in Capricorn)

The root is our projections/judgements. Whatever a person dislike in another is the exact same thing they dislike about themselves.

The mirror of someone else always shows you something about yourself you can learn or need to learn.

I don’t think I explained myself very well so I took another shot at this:
http://www.elsaelsa.com/astrology/2012/10/08/never-mind-the-polarization-look-at-the-continuum/

I think it is a Saturn thing.

THAT IS MY STORY,I AM A CAP AND I FACE THAT FEELING EVERY DAY.

No not when I meet someone it becomes that a way after a while (pathology). It’s not necessarily about mirroring me it’s about that lack of respect for the fact that I’m different than them and not accepting those differences or someone who keeps making sweeping generalisations and that is where my incensed dislike comes from.

I can’t expect everyone to be as open minded as myself or as accepting of what is different. However my open mindedness will only go so far. I can understand why someone feels the way they do and listen to it about a situation or person or whatever but there comes a time when that feeling has to fall and the open minded feeling or thought has to begin. Limit me, you limit yourself and so the cycle begins until there’s nothing left to limit and it comes to an end. Limit yourself, limit others and so the misery begins of realising that all that limitation has lost some people who couldn’t take being limited anymore. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy almost but just not of the self, if I make sense.

It is a control thing. It’s like a mother telling their child they can’t be something because they weren’t something or didn’t do something. It’s like a friend telling another friend that their way of living isn’t right and to expect the worst instead of hoping for the best (jaded, maybe but at least they can push for it). It’s like a spouse telling their spouse they can’t go back to school because of kids or their level of education. All for the fear that they’ll leave them behind, be more successful or just be better than them because they think that their exchanging of energy is on that level when it started but after a while it isn’t. It’s that common interest thing… we share the same blood, house, resources, time, music etc and become blinded by thinking that we’re the same but are in fact very different. Its like someone saying ‘I wouldn’t do that, I would…’ failing to take into account that everyone does things differently and react differently. We’re a family therefore we should all behave and think the same, no!

I’m going to stop writing now, cause I’ve written an essay and I sound so psychological, that it’s even spooking myself. Lol.

It’s good you recognize that, AddyB.