Great video Elsa–thank you

I like your last statement…my father says something similar (about the void, but he uses a different word for it). Very sound advice.

Gosh, I just emailed my friend that I have to stop attracting Scorpios… This is what I needed to hear and how to stop my cycle.

Thank you.

thank you elsa.

you are so strong and sturdy that sometimes it seems daunting to take your advice, cause it’s easy to doubt i have the same strength,

but when you talk about the trials and tribulations you have overcome, and are still so strong and sturdy in my minds eye—i have better faith that i can do it, too

And here’s the punchline or the update to this…

Of all things, I later found / realized I was far more suited to Scorpio with Aquarius rising, which is basically the same chart upside down.

As one example, my lifelong friend, Ben is a Scorpio with a Leo rising as was the AMF, my last bf before I got with my husband. Much, MUCH better situations and I’d have never found this out had I kept going, going, going.

Matter of fact, I was headed straight for my own demise with that combo, LOL. Whew!

Yes. I keep attracting/am attracted to Taurus. Man after man after man. Taurus Sun, Taurus Moon, Taurus Mars… since I was 12, maybe even younger. I have finally, in the past few months, realized that it’s not funny, or exciting, or coincidental anymore… it’s painful. Perhaps it was the Cardinal Grand Cross that brought me to this. I can now step into my new life, with new people.

Thank you, Elsa, for bringing this kind of addiction to light.

When I read this:

“I think you meant that the universe will always fill a void .. But what if you want a relationship, just not badly enough?? because you feel burned, or unwilling to give up your space, independence or not sure you’re ready or it just doesn’t seem so attractive (because of all the work) at the moment.. but what if you know you want to eventually be in a good relationship.. is there a moment when things start to gain momentum/change/manifest.. or is that a willed state of being (willing/wishing it into being)”

You clearly aren’t willing to get in the game… so no game.

As to when your feelings change, who knows. One day you wake up lonely and say wtf?

Thank you, Del. It’s supremely challenging for me to make vids these days but I am always glad when I manage.

Thanks for that Elsa!
I’ll take it from someone who’s learned the hard way
Just say “No!”

Too true, lol!!!!!!

Now that’s just low. I was on a *banana diet* at the time.

you know, I used to luuuuuvre Aquarian men– (Suns). I was burned by every last one. Just thought of this now…yes I indeed swear them off, and this was before astrology was even that important to me.

LOL.

Omg. I’ve tried to comment back to you about four times but I cam’t stop laughing. Jaysus soldier you’re relieved.

What about those of us who don’t have legions of boyfriends to dissect? I went from a 10 year relationship into an 11 year relationship.

Wow Awesome Video Elsa. I always looove your videos. My pattern is either my relatioships dont get off the ground because neither admits feelings or I dont let on my feelings in a direct way. So I must stop this and well admit admit admit and put it on the line! Got it. And I know exactly who to use it on

Ah, yeah. The Sadge man addiction – very common, how lucky for them, LOL.

I always thought it was my Leo addiction which was the problem, even though two of my biggest disssasters were Aquarius suns… but in the last couple of months since I’ve been on these boards, and pulling up charts, I’ve realised it’s even more to do with the combination of Leo and Aquarius in all their charts which is the critical mix which poisons me

And it turns out they almost all have this combination – but while I’m dazzled by the compulsive attraction given off by their Leo I’m then poleaxed by the emotional detachment and/or absence of their Aquarius.

Sadly it’s a bit late in my life to learn this lesson… but I advise anyone young enough to profit from Elsa’s advice to pay attention here!

Elsa, that was THE ABSOLUTE perfect reply. I had me a good little chuckle.

siddiyas – I’d not know where to start without a chart.

If you ask your question on the boards here, along with your chart: http://boards.elsaelsa.com/
People are sure to weigh in

@Morgan u answered my question thank u.
My father was a Gemini and he was unavailable and unemotional I seem to be attracted to men that have gemini somewhere in their chart. So i suppose the isolation, loneliness and anger I feel is probably me trying to heal those psychological destructive addictions. Never considered that this addiction could be the childhood pain I felt from my father.

I remembered waiting on my dad to pick me up. He said he was coming to get me and never did. I looked outside the window for him for hours. He never showed up and not knowing this would affect me later in my adult life. I noticed men who aren’t available for me emotionally I’m drawn to them. I actually relate that to love. I need to heal this shit and move on.

Thanks again Morgan and Elsa for posting this thread.

Elsa,

I’m a woman Scorpio with a Leo rising, and after watching this video clip, I am very grateful you were so kind and awesome in the reading we had a little over a year ago! So, thank you!

BTW, it’s due time for another reading…lots of changes. I’m dead set on clearing this destructive relationship pattern. I think I found my trap door. We’ll see…

Speak to you in a couple of weeks.

I look forward to it, DharmicDrummer.

(((Elsa)))) Such a great video! Addiction indeed.

This gave me so much hope, and so much strength. Just knowing that what I’m going through now others have gone through before, and hearing how you’ve survived through it, it really is like a family here. It’s like advice I would have loved to hear from my mother/aunt/sister etc etc.

Thank you for always trying to make these videos and posts even if it’s hard. I, for one, am supremely grateful for them.

many many thanks!!
mia

eg I have a taurus north node too…I’m currently mingling with an aquarius woman…but Gosh I had been attracting capricorn women so long, and they are no good for my moon in pisces and saturn in scorpio. They are so cold…I know I probably am too though because I have a stellium in capricorn.

Elsa…It’s very interesting that you attracted the same type of individuals. Did you know their charts before hand? I’m thinking obviously not, but maybe I’m wrong.

Great as always!

different package same type of person under it all.

Thank you Elsa! Great video and a perfect timing!!

Yes I have noticed a pattern coming over and over again. They are not excactly the same signs, but they all have heavy cardinal (Aries,Capricorn,Cancer). now i know why

@siddiyas
I always used to think that the sorry from a “hurter” would help to heal but I have had some sorries ..what it led me to understand was that it made it no better knowing that someone was sorry or not, the hurt was still there. The sorry had to come from myself to myself for allowing these things to happen to me through lack of self love. Or accepting that sometimes we make mistakes and allow people to hurt us and then punish ourselves by seeking their apology, instead of forgiving ourselves our mistakes.

Thank you, Elemis.

Hi Everyone,
My Aries friend waited 20 years before going to a dating site and straight away attracted her old nemesis–in this case a non-drinker, evasive, architect, deceiver, pretending not married, sexy European man. Happened to be a Neptune man.
Her past was divorce from the husband she stole from another… architect, alcoholic,sexy European, cheated on her. Admittedly she’s not into affirmations and positive thinking but she knew to wait to let past influences go away. But 20 years! Wow!
I attract ADD diabetics myself (smile) My ex commented about my new boyfriend…”Do you advertise for them?” There’s always a Jupiter effect in EVERY relationship also an ADD Jupiter son. My sun squares Jup.

Great video Elsa. I totally agree we keep attracting the same types over and over again, until one day we wake up and say stop and create some space. Take time out, make a void. At which time, more often than not, if we are concentrating on attracting something new, and doing things in new ways, it comes. This is definitely true and has been my experience.
Only thing I noticed, like you said you stopped with Leo rising to Aquarian, like upside down chart, we seem to attract the total opposite to us. What we lacked or decided we didn’t want in former relationship becomes the major thing we do want and find in the new one. This is strange….

Hi Everyone
What a great and timely (Full Moon = release) video, Elsa!
This is what I needed to hear at this exact moment, as I try to purge my overwhelming desire for unavailable men. It took me decades to realize that I was attracted only to men who were unavailable (physically and/or emotionally). All my life, I had crushes on boys/men who were “about to divorce,” did not want a relationship, or just plain ignored me. This carried onto my workplace, where I would have inappropriate crushes on co-workers who were already involved with someone else.
Siddyas I totally understand where you are coming from. My father is a Gemini and an alcoholic. He was not in my life my first two years of life, he favoured my sister and we just never connected emotionally. So while I avoided men with addictions or bad tempers, I ended up with men who were similar to my father in terms of the neglect I felt and therefore, my emotional needs were never fulfilled.
So during this full moon, I wish everyone who is also suffering from his/her own love addictions to just STOP, and enter the void.

You are amazing, Elsa, a late blooming butterfly of honesty, truth, and happiness! I think the principle of quitting cold turkey applies to most patterns of behavior that can be identified by a person as usually having toxic outcomes.

So funny to hear you say that “all your relationships were disasters”. I said this recently to a friend and they were taken aback, saying that not all their relationships were perfect but they weren’t disasters!
Also, I quit cold-turkey on bartenders having learned my lesson. Next lesson? Quitting men who don’t appreciate/value me and who really would rather be somewhere else.

I’ve had three loves in my life. The first had a cap AC. The second, my ex husband, had a cap sun. And the third, a cap moon. While I’m a virgo sun with a virgo stellium (merc, uranus, pluto), I think my libra AC, mars/venus in leo and aries moon don’t mesh well with capricorns. After identifying this pattern, I stayed away from capricorns and in that time (3 years),I have had no relationships whatsoever! Sigh….so I’m not sure how to attract something different.

Morgan raised something I hadn’t thought about before – her stepfather’s influence. So I dug up my dad’s birth certificate and found that my dad’s DC was capricorn.