Do you have confidence, socially? I used to have a lot of confidence in social situations but have less these days for a myriad of reasons.
This doesn’t stop me from being social. With Mars in Libra, I have a drive to connect with others, but I am very aware of this change.
Are you socially confident? Has the level of your confidence changed over time (for good or ill)? What caused the shift?
12 Responses to “Social Confidence”
PS And people here in my current village didn’t meet me til I was 63… so they see me as ‘old’ (ie, in a way I don’t see myself!)
I don’t feel I’m less socially confident, but I have become more selective about who and where I choose to be social.
When I was very little my Grandmother used to say I could talk the ear off a sow! (can you tell she’s from the farm ?? god love her)
I don’t know if its confidence, but I can talk to anyone (young, old, any race or income bracket) without a problem. Still, I don’t like large parties and gatherings (weddings and receptions) but one on one I can talk to anyone.
I am by no means a social butterfly. At work I have to be outgoing. Otherwise hubby and I are home bodies and like to be left alone.
If asked to speak to a large group of people concerning a topic, I could do it.
If asked to mingle with a bunch of drunks and or backstabbers at a gathering…I can’t do it. I know too much about human nature. People sit in judgement at those types of things and when the 1st person walks away the ones left standing there are already talking bad about her. I don’t like to be the one that walks away 1st or the one left to hear the bullshit. So in that way I might not have confidence.
I like what cArRiE said…
I have Saturn I’m not very confident period.
Uranus in Leo in house 5, opposite Chiron in Aqua in house 11.
Come here, go away, you’re exciting, you’re boring, I don’t know what it would take. I’m suppose to be a toy maker, but all I really want is to be a dentist. Let’s put my 8th house scorpio mars in the mix, making a t-square to this opposition and now I’m singing David Bowie’s Rebel, Rebel.
I was raised by non-social parents and had next to no relatives, so I was limited in the social skills department when younger, which was fine with my Scorpio sun. Intimidated in my early adulthood, but I did develop a circle of friends that I felt very comfortable with. My career required social interaction and public speaking, so I overcame my shyness and I function well in social settings with strangers and/or acquaintances. As I’ve aged, I’ve realized that I don’t prefer to be subjected to those situations, as I don’t see much benefit…I’m not the type to network or to use acquaintances for my personal gain…and I don’t like the type that does that to me. I can chat-up a storm with my Gemini rising and Virgo moon, if I’m at a simple party, wedding reception, wake, etc. I never have felt that I was a people-who-need-people type, but my progressed ascendant is about to enter Leo, so maybe I’ll need people soon!
@daisy SAME HERE – EXACTLY!
Chiron is in Aquarius for me. Being confident in social situations has always been hard. Given up partially at birth, then taken home by my adoptive parents at 3 1/2 months, bullied in school from fourth grade on. Nope, by the time I was hitting 30, I was afraid of people, afraid to talk to people I didn’t know.
Then I became a bartender. That all changed. Now I love to talk to people I don’t know. However, it was different when there was a bar between me and the guests, a feeling that they were walking into “my” space. As a bartender, by the time my weekend came, (not everyone else’s weekend), I’d be depleted, and would need to be alone. In many ways, the last 25 years have been spent as a hermit. Now, it’s time to get out, and push myself to meet people, partake in community. It involves turning off that very harsh internal judge that is always telling me I’m not enough, or too much.
The wife of a friend was telling me the other night that if I want to find a man, I have to become less “heavy” (yup, I has Pluto!). The nice thing about being my age is that honestly, if someone can’t handle me as who I am, I don’t want them in my life like anyway. In the words of the great sage, Popeye the Sailor Man, “I yam what I yam!”.
Used to be a lot more confident. There were some unpleasant events, and now I no longer have the same energy and naivete to bop around the way I used to. 
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It varies amazingly with the company. In some social situation – on the island for example, or in London bohemia – I’m very self-confident, since I know people will probably ‘get me’ and there’s also a history surrounding me or attached to me which fills out the picture with notes from my ‘glory days’
Here in the sticks, even though I’ve lived here now for 16 years and six months, I know from at experience that people don’t get me – the few who have are almost all dead now – and I find that quite inhibiting. It doesn’t help that people here didn’t meet me until I was in my fifties.
With Uranus on my MC in Gemini, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s esp the case in more conventional societies such as this one