Comments on: Resolving Commitment-Phobia

By: Barb

Barb — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 15:30:39 +0000

HUGE commitment phobe here!!! I’m 50, and still single. As for Uranus aspects – I’ve got Uranus rising, Sun trine Uranus, Mercury trine Uranus and Mars inconjunct Uranus. Yep. Hilarious huh. On top of that, I’ve got Venus square Saturn. So, scared of commitment, and feeling unworthy of it anyway. Yes, its been quite a ride, but I’ve learned a lot through years of therapy. I now use EFT and Ho’oponopono a lot, and I’ve come a long way. I feel ready to make a commitment when the right man shows up…and if he doesn’t, then I can be perfectly happy on my own.

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 22:51:29 +0000

I stay but I don’t commit. I’ve been working to resolve this. Seeing the bigger picture. Understanding that here is just as good as there. Knowing I need space at home but attachment in other ways. Meditation.

By: Gabrielle

Gabrielle — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 22:27:54 +0000

Another pearler post here!
Yep another c-phobic here; Aqu Sun, Saturn in Saggi, but my Asc in Taurus seems to have sorted this for me too.

I feed my moon (Leo), feed my Sun with loads of freedom/independence, consciously juggle my Saggi with wisdom based projects/work and have a conscious dialogue with myself on needs/wants/desire.

It took 2 marriages, a lot of astrology delving/understanding and a heap of selfmastery/honesty to sort this one.

Now I love the energy it brings into my life ie enthusiasm, variety, fun-seeker. We both benefit and that’s a win/win.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 22:26:40 +0000

I have a Capricorn Venus but my Venus is square to Uranus in Leo. I have been married and though when I was younger never saw myself as ever being married, after I committed I went through the honeymoon period. After the same problems were there as before we got married after a while, I became very disillusioned; not with marriage but with ours. I tried everything – therapy, marriage counseling…nothing helped. So I left. What to do? I would love to be in a committed relationship…but it does not seem in the stars for me. I would rather be alone than start something new and feel trapped. So I know this now before getting into anything else right now. With Uranus in Aries in my 5th house, I don’t think it’s the time since Venus is in RX either.

By: von

von — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 19:38:09 +0000

I have an 11th house Sun AND Venus, Mercury, Chiron and MC in Aquarius AND Uranus sextile Jupiter, opposite a 9th house Moon.
I was married for 20 years… I’ve been divorced for over 12 years and don’t seem to be able to commit to anyone these days. However, I believe “I don’t want to be in a relationship” actually translates to “I don’t want to be in a relationship with you”. If I found The One I would be able to commit again, I’m sure.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 18:31:31 +0000

Uranus in the 7th here, too. I’d be *shocked* if i ever got married. I would just be waiting for it to end. Expecting it. So, i never really invest myself. Lol.

By: denise

denise — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 16:55:47 +0000

I have Libra rising and Neptune in the first house so while I think I really want to partner up… there is my Mar Aquarius that always has one foot out the door.
@Elsa…The fact that you were able to get back and commit to your true love gives me hope.

By: 6:32am

6:32am — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 20:36:33 +0000

I can relate to this 100%. I also have Uranus in the 7th house, and Mars in the 1st (Gemini) opposite Uranus in the 7th (Sagittarius) and Gemini rising, Jupiter in Aquarius and the 9th house. Makes relationships very difficult!

I have Venus conjunct Mercury in Aries (11th house) and my sun AND moon in Taurus and the 12th house. Whilst I crave inner security and spirituality, the kind of security that comes with the 12th house is very personal and private, and I’m very reluctant to truly ‘open up’ to anyone and share myself 100%. With Venus in Aries I am more fond of the chase and I get bored easily once routine sets in.. and yes since I have been seeing someone for awhile now I do get sudden changes of heart that scare me.

He travels alot, and I think I am more worried about my own feelings changing suddenly than I am about his, although at the beginning it seemed I was more worried about him having a change of heart.. before I had a look in the mirror! For me to remain ‘stimulated’ I think I would need a couple of casual no-strings relationships on the go and one ‘serious’ one with someone who is away infrequently because often the distance keeps me interested.

Still a work in progress I think.

By: Maelle

Maelle — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 15:04:55 +0000

A few years ago I got attracted to the most anti-commitment-person on this Universe: Aqua Sun + Moon, Sag Asc, Venus/Uranus square, Saturn in Libra. Until I came to see the exact same “qualities” inside of me: Sun/Uranus, Mars in Aqua, Venus/Uranus, NN in Aqua.

By: Les

Les — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 13:13:12 +0000

Yeah, I have Aquarius on the DC and Uranus conjunct Moon on the AC! But I also have Venus-Pluto conjoined, which wants a close relationship. Saturn on the 5th cusp, which is scared and serious when it comes to love. Lots of contradictions, which has made things difficult. Over the last 10 years or so (I’m 51), I attracted a string of men I got involved with who left after 3-9 months, and it was painful.

I’m finally with someone – met 1 1/2 years ago when Saturn was transiting my Sun – who lets me be who I am and who is very steadily attached to me, while I’ve gone through lots of fears and thought I’d have to jump, but I’ve stuck with it. It’s been a slow, careful process for me. He has Venus sextile Saturn in his chart, and we have some Saturn synastry plus other good synastry. Plus he has Scorp Moon – they do glom on! He is eccentric enough for my Leo Moon-Uranus, plus letting me be myself.