My son is hitting puberty and I won’t deny, it’s a challenge for me. I have never been around a boy at this age and stage, which is something I never realized before. I did have a younger brother but I left home when I was 15 years old so I missed this transition, never mind I’d have been having a transition of my own at the time.
There are a lot of things you have to learn at this age and one of them is this: your friends are never going to make you happy. It’s not possible for friends to make you happy, happiness has to be found inside yourself.
Watching my son grapple as he discovers this, it’s apparent to me there are people in their 30′s or 40′s or older, who still seek happiness via association. I hate seeing this but I admit it helps me cope with the strain of watching my son figure out how life works. I am big believer in paying your dues early, or at least on time as opposed to spending your life trying to catch up.
Mercury and Uranus are conjunct in Aries right now, conjunct my son’s descendent, Mercury and Jupiter. It’s seem a good time the lights go on in this realm so he see the big (and liberating) picture.
Where do you think happiness comes from?
19 Responses to “Finding Happiness Inside Yourself”
I think happiness comes from empirical experience.
I think I’m naturally inclined to find happiness within… Jupiter conjunct IC.
Vid is so lucky to have a Mom that is so aware of the energies he’s dealing with.
I’m certain the best place to find happiness is from within. But, today, I’m going to look for it in a bag of oreos and a gallon of milk.
Ha, Josi.
I find it through service to others and taking care of myself and my family and my work. I gain satisfaction from learning from adversity. And art and literature make me happy, too. All the former are interrelated for me, too, I guess.
@Josi:)
@ windsaloft … I’ve been pondering this question asking, “Where is the generosity gene?” If within me I am wondering where my generiosity and = happiness is, I like the way you put it “empirical experience”
Creative juices wide open. Participating in something I love. And no matter how insignificant what I am doing is to others, realizing that I am part of a larger whole.
Where do you think happiness comes from? That is one of the most perplexing questions I believe anyone can ever ask. Personally I believe you must be happy within your own being to be happy at all. That has always been where true the happiness comes from.
I know a good number of people of all ages who will not accept the responsibility to become truly happy within themselves. I am a person who believes your happiness is your responsibility.
Another person can not make you happy but other people in your life and truly make your life unhappy and therefore make it near impossible to fine the happiness within yourself. If a person has never discovered their own happiness and experiences another person who makes them unhappy all the time I believe they may loose their way when looking for their happiness and may never find it. how sad!
“We tend to seek Happiness, when Happiness is actually a choice.”
I have no idea where the quote came from but I love it! I have a piece of wall art that incorporates this line and I have found time and again that it holds true. Happiness IS inside of us and we are all capable of finding it but it IS a choice.
Ah, and Vid has the sun/Saturn signature, too, doesn’t he?
Oooof. The good news is, as you know and have said many times – pay the dues now and you don’t have to pay them later. Sending him some good vibes.
I agree you have to find happiness within yourself, and the up side is that you get to define what that means for you. (Mine involves dance, music, love, and living large and loud.)
daisynymph that quote comes from Rodney White he has it seems several pieces of motivational art very cool
It’s great you have some deep ideas on how a person can generate/choose this within themselves. Not all parents do.
Sometimes the only thing that’s apparent is what doesn’t make us happy.
I think it’s quite difficult to find happiness entirely from within – ie on one’s own. We are so programmed for relationship, in all its forms. I’m even finding it difficult late in life, when I enjoy my own company more than ever.
I find happiness in beauty, most of all – in landscape in all its myriad manifestations, in fine buildings, art and music, in fine literature.
But I do need some harmonious ‘connection’ still – even if it that comes from the dog! In the past I found it very difficult to be happy unless I had a thriving social life.
If other things made you happy, then they control your emotions and this would mean we have no free-will…
Happiness def comes from the inside. BUT people/things/situations which reflect some key aspects of the positive/highest you can definitely also “make” you feel happy. Key negative aspects of the negative you will also “make” you feel the opposite of happy which is ….fear maybe? This is my assessment. Art taught me this. (Venus on Asc)
I’m learning this right now. I was seeing my career coach and I told her, “I have amazing friends, the best partner in the world, and a very loving family… I thought that was enough to make a person happy? Isn’t that what every person wants?”
And she said, “No. If you are not happy with yourself, you’ll never be happy.”
And that’s when I decided that it’s time to take an investment in myself SERIOUSLY. All these planets hitting Aries is killing me!
“Happiness is a choice” . . . I really like that.
Of course, when the big load of tragedy was dumped upon me, it was hard to even remember that happiness existed as I was trying just to survive it all. Perhaps that was part of it all, knowing there was a better state and digging myself out slow but sure.
I think happiness is a 12th house thing. It’s hard to be happy when we have so much going on in our lives: jobs, taxes, responsibilities, mortgages, bills, family, etc. I’ve realized so much of my internal happiness is connected with my 12th house.
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Well versed, Elsa. For parents who are struggling w/this issue reading this post sets the plan in motion to help set life on its course. Nicely written.