You can credit astrology or grand design or whatever you like. For some reason, we tend to draw people who somehow fit with us. Even if we’re irritated by someone, if we examine the situation, we’re likely to realize our run-in with a person has relevance on some level. And then there are the anomalies…
I can only think of a few times in my life where I have really felt that someone wanted to pull me into some dynamic that is just not my gig, this life. It’s as if they’re trying to cast me a blonde or something. I’m not a blonde! I am so sure of this, I’m stunned when I am miscast and I’ll elaborate.
There are a few things I am just not going to play. One of them is a battered woman. If a man hits me, he’s going to be in for a shock. I don’t care how many times he’s run his game, I am not going down this road.
I am also not going to play the long-suffering woman with a philandering husband. I feel very strongly, these scripts are not for me and sure enough, I have avoided men who run them as I just don’t fit in this kind of puzzle.
Normally, people find matches. They become two sides of an equation or three points of a triangle or whatever. But occasionally there is some kind of cosmic accident and next thing I know, someone’s trying to put a blonde wig on me so they can act in some movie that is common in their life but does not concern mine.
I respond by exiting the relationship, immediately in most cases. “I’m not the droid you’re looking for.” But an experience like this is unnerving. I feel responsible. I feel I must have gone off my path at some point or I’d not be off my path, yes? And I have to be off my path or I’d not be running into situations or people where I can’t sync up.
Most the people who read this blog are aware that people recreate situations in their lives in order to work on and resolve trouble spots. Have you ever had an experience where someone has invited you to play a part you know is not for you? What happened and how did you handle it? What do you think about this general?