Astrology Today: November 29, 2011 – No Time To Cling
My eye on the sky.
The Moon in Aquarius aspects Jupiter while it trines the Sun in Sagittarius so this is no time to cling. I have news for you insecure, clingy types. You’ll be a lot less troubled in your relationships if you can learn to let people move freely in the world.
This is because people like me (and there are legions of us) will only come around if we know the door will be left open. If you held us down or tried to tie us to a short leash the last time we saw or spoke or spent time with you, we’re likely to avoid you like the plague in the future. This has the effect of exacerbating your problem and feelings of insecurity so if you can acquire this skill you’ll suffer less.
Are you clinger, a leaver or both?
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23 Responses to “Astrology Today: November 29, 2011 – No Time To Cling”
…I’m both. Venus in Scorpio clings very quietly….. and my Moon in Sag is quite capable of bolting like a bat out of hell. Depends on the relationship. But if the person even gives off the slightest hint that they want to bolt first, I will more than oblige….hmph. Takes me about 5 seconds to get over it. Thank goodness for that Sag Moon. Sometimes I project my clinginess onto my mate and partner with a super clinger so I can bolt. I’m all screwed up..lol
Door’s open, light’s on, tea’s in the fridge, key’s in the usual spot. The regulars know they are welcome if they wanna come by.
I got stuff to do, ya know? zoom zoom zoom
I also have both. My Cancer planets are clingy. My moon/Uranus opposition is a push/pull between clinging and bolting, and my Aries South Node has one foot out the door. It’s a mess.
@Burned Bridge…Well put. My Venus in Scorpio does cling very quietly but my Gemini moon and Aquarius Mars always leave the door open for a quick exit. It’s not easy.
Both here, too. I keep forgetting that i have scorpio in the seventh house-as well as libra. And then there’s the moon in aqua conjunct mars. I can hold on tight, REAL tight,….i’m usually the insecure one though, keeping it all to myself…..then i bolt. Detach. Pine-pine-pine like CRAZY from myself inflicted wound. Sad songs ‘n all. Poor me. Lol. 
waaaaaaaaaa…..:) I use to think that each man was, the ‘one’.
Venus in Aquarius. Enough said
lol Me too jtgirl40.
Though I am an 8th house Sun, Saturn in the 7th and a tight Pluto/Uranus conjunction to my Ascendant so I’m a bit like BurnedBridge.
My 7th house is Aquarius, left insecurity behind a long time ago. My Sadge moon and ascendant will bolt. Lol. Freedom and liberty for all! The more freedom for my loved ones, the better for all of us!
Both. My Scorpio and Cap want control but my Sag stellium (including my moon) want to run.
An I-need-space and You’re-breathing-down-my-neck leaver. If someone can’t take the time to manage their insecurities like an adult or bring up a discussion, I’m out of there. There’s a bit of room because I can understand and respect insecurity and clinginess, but I’d appreciate the person at least actively manage it and be aware there are other people in the room.
Pisces/Taurus/Scorp clings, but Sag and Cap manage it. Uranus in 7th will leave immediately if necessary, but willing to be friends.
I’m a leaver. I feel other peoples cling and be insecure. Eeek, cringing!! I use to find it cute until it became clear that I’m my own person. Mars Aquarius understands that if I give individuality and allow a person to be with freedom then that should be returned. Explain that and they cling more. Eeek!
definitely leaver, or leavee! i don’t cling. i used to think this was due to my virgo/sag planets, and i still think they play a role, but i think i’ve underestimated my cap rising pride. i was recently talking to a friend who’s been maintaining contact with someone who dumped him, to no good effect for him really. i was trying to explain the power of distance, yadayadayada, he didn’t get it. meanwhile i realized part of why it bugged me – i was like have you no pride, man?! stop undervaluing yourself!!
Clinger who’s had to learn to drop it. I still get that panic feeling sometimes but much less now. I hate being restricted myself so …
I like the door wide open for when I come back from my travels..haven’t met too many guys who can deal, so I leave. But when I come back I usually knock on their doors, most of the time they are closed. Good thing I have a skeleton key!
My girlfriend just broke up with a guy she met on a dating site. They only dated 10 weeks, and were not attached at the hip. She was honest and told him she does not want to pursue the relationship any further. He’s freaking out, and saying she owes him a personal meeting and all that. She doesn’t “owe” him anything.
She’s a Pisces Sun with an Aries Moon – she’s not feeling it, she said her piece, and she’s done. She has Mercury Saturn Aquarius 7th – she knows what she wants in a relationship, is very vocal and honest about it, and means what she says.
He’s a Capricorn Sun with a Sagittarius Moon – he wants to know why she’s “giving up” and wants to continue the relationship. His Saturn conjuncts her Sun in the 7th. He wants a stable relationship, but in this case, she feels he’s being pushy, and she feels smothered.
I am a born clinger who has been trying to reform for the last decade. I just tell myself that everyone will leave and there’s nothing I can do about it. You can’t keep people, they are always free to go. The best you can do is enjoy them while they still choose to be around you. (Plus my mom and grandmother are/were clingers, so it’s not like I like being clung to either.)
You do realize that the reason clingers cling is because everyone left though, right? One of my exes cited “Men Are From Mars” and was all “Men will come back after they’ve gone to the mancave for awhile.” I was all, “Uh, I’ve had enough experiences where the man did NOT come back, so I can’t fucking believe that you will.” (And sure enough…)
I’m a recovering clinger. Likely a lifetime work-in-progress.
Made my greatest strides with the realization that at its base, I tend to perceive being left as some critical personal failing on my part.
“Wait! I’ll do better! Really. Just tell me what isn’t working and I’ll fix it I promise!”
Well, heck. That isn’t always a practical or realistic solution…
To be fair, in relationships (of every sort) I’m easy-peasy with space, distance, separation, distraction and the like. [see you around! bring back good stories!] It’s the *being left* (rejected) issue that triggers my most limpet-like qualities.
I’m a silent clinger. Taurus Sun in the 2nd, Pluto conjunct Moon in 6th/Virgo, and square my Venus/Mars conjunction in 3rd/Gemini. Although, with my Aries Asc and Progressed Venus in 2nd/Leo if I’ve exhausted all avenues and realized he’ll never value me, I cut all ties and don’t look back.
I am a leaver- Aries sun, Sag rising, Taurus moon and Gemini in the 7th house= independent all the way- infact if you cling on me I am out of here!!
I’m a clinger. Taurus sun, Pisces moon, Aries venus. Elsa is right in that there are HOARDS of INEEDFREEDOM people, and those types just aren’t right for me. The situation resolved itself nicely when I met another natural clinger, and we have the perfect amount of togetherness and aloneness.
A recovering leaver (Sadge moon, first house stellium conjunct Uranus, Venus Aries). But also a deep bonder (1st house Pluto, 8th house Venus) who feels extra safe and cozy with clingers (Taurus Sun).
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I’m a leaver! Uranus just about aspects everything in my chart, and though these tend to be trines rather than squares, they still affect me a great deal! Wish I wasn’t such a bolt-and-dash type of a person, though.