Mars conj Neptune in Libra in 7th. Desires? What desires? Lol.

Yes, I do.

perhaps I’m weird, and I always fight about my mother with this, but I’ve noticed when I ask for things directly it backfires?

or is that just typical rejection one has to deal with? That it’s numbers until someone gives it to you directly so that there’s no confusion?

I have dressed my desires up as needs and vice versa. Unwittingly at times, but the confusion tends to have people think that everything I ask for in relationship in negotiable and I can do without.

Getting better with this relationship, at deciphering desires from needs and working with my partner so we are both feeling satisfied–and satiated.

succinct and sage advice, thanks Elsa. Some women have a way of attempting to morph into their men..loving everything they love..to start with,so keen to be loved that they mirror, then when the shine wears off, wondering why they are so utterly disillusioned. It’s so sad, observing the crash and burn. If only people took time to get to know each other. Saturn in Libra here.

I’m with mercingemini: if I ask IRL, I do not receive. Plus I might as well draw a target on my chest and hand someone a knife and say, “Stab away!” If I show vulnerability and need, some people actively go after me. Most will run like hell.

And needs are not allowed if they are too big for mere human beings to fulfill. Which they are in my gene pool, and it’s why I choose to go hungry rather than eat people and then still be hungry.

i must conceal my desires from myself because i go after what i want, usually get it, and then get disillusioned with it.

like Dorchid
Doesn’t this make you look desparate? no one wants a seemingly needy person.
I show what I want Waaaay too much and people can read me too easily, find it flattering, use it and then get bored

i think i have no problem getting what i desire. i have a problem staying satisfied – or *anticipating* my desires so that i don’t go through so much trouble for something that isn’t ultimately worth it.

@ D – i think there’s a difference between being needy and being proactive. being needy actually sends the message you DON’T want a partner – you want a PARENT. but being honest about your desires doesn’t have to mean you wear a big sign. it just means you speak and act accordingly – no mixed signals. if a man engages you, don’t just tell him what he wants to hear. it is a charade and it won’t lead to real results.

I agree with Dorchid about not wearing a sign or being needy etc. But honestly… in my experience & the single women around me, if you show you want something serious, men run a mile. Sad but true!
If it were as straight forward as just being up front & “transparent”, then why are so many women concealing the fact??
It’s all so messed up!! =(

Funny how so many replies are that ‘men run a mile’ if you show you want a husband. I guess I have never had a problem with finding men. They are all over the place! And they are far more likely to come after me without my having to go round them up. Could be my chart, could be that I have never had a problem with being alone, do not get lonely easily.

Far better to sort through the huge numbers of XY chromosomes for ones who actually are looking for a relationship. The ones who are not can be annoying. It seems I constantly turn away men who don’t actually read the words on the signs and billboards I posted. I know that we are used to being lied at in advertising, but the only remedy is to state things up front and keep repeating it until it sinks in.