It hit me today, I am cordial to everyone…except maybe my husband. I realized that regardless of what you do to me, I will always be cordial. If I can’t manage to be cordial to you, I’ll not speak to you at all.
I am not recommending this or anything. I just noticed how reliable I am in this regard. I am always going to be polite and if this becomes impossible, I use gmail filters and never look your way again.
I am sure this is rooted in the old adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I don’t think whoever said that meant you should ignore people off the planet but I’m an extremist in many ways so no surprise. I also just don’t like strife. I don’t want to have it out with you, probably because I know just how dangerous I am, even if you don’t.
I don’t know why my husband is the exception but this has always been the case and he’s well aware of it.
I also yelled at, Annalisa, recently. I felt bad about it. It’s certainly wasn’t normal and she recognized it as such and let it go. I am grateful because she was not at all punitive. The thing is, while I had no justification for yelling, I think it was better than the alternative. Because I was at a point that day where I was not going to be cordial.
Do your manners have definition like this?
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Sounds familiar,
It’s venting when you blast the person that loves you unconditionally. Kids will do the same after school. They sat still, they took crap from mean spirited peers all day, then they come home and cause minor explosions. Mom’s usually take that hit. I say that you have a sturdy man, and he can take all of your guns. You both know it. Sometimes it is misplaced anger. Projecting to another target…
I try not to blast, but it’s not one of my stronger suits.
I am being forced to avoid conflict now. I have a quick, showy temper (Mars Leo), but it dissipates quickly and I don’t want to ever argue again because I feel bad for getting angry (Venus ASC Aquarius, Pisces Moon).
I physically get sick if I get upset now. Having been in abusive relationships, my body has had enough. It’s like I’m allergic to the adrenaline. I am physically exhausted still a day later.
Less Aries Sun Trine Leo Mars – more Venus ASC Aquarius for me now.
True, Pixie but for the record, my husband YELLS TOO. It is hard to say who is worst to listen to. We both scare the shit out of people and I mean, they run! We cleared a dance floor once. People were terrified but for us it’s nothin’. Well, it’s not nothing in the moment but in the scheme, it’s nothing.
This is what my Saturn in Libra + politeness yhread was about.
This is the way I grew up, and for the most part, I still live it, only I’m going to allow myself to get angry now – to actually show the anger – if it’s bothering me enough. I was extremely nice as a kid, and argued a bit with family, but even then, it wasn’t normal. I think I’m acting in ways right now, that I should have been acting in my teens, if not a bit younger. I lived by “just because they do that to you, doesn’t mean that you have to do it back.” except that I didn’t manage to ignore them either, so it still affected me. that’s what I meant last night, when I said that you don’t seem to let certain things get to you for long, but I do, and did.
I told my husband about this post and he said he definitively knows how dangerous I am. I just can’t afford to actually get pissed off. 
Manners are small morals
OMG – this is totally me- my husband says all the time that I take everything out on him- well yeah since he is the only one here to!
Maybe its because when he asks me over and over again I can’t take it- its so frustrating to repeat – I am not good at repeating to anyone but to him- awful- I hate it!!
I grew up with that saying – it was known as “Thumper’s Rule” because the rabbit in Bambi famously says it, “If you can’t say anything nice …”
So my Mom would just say “Remember Thumper’s Rule!” whenever we’d start saying mean things to each other.
I could have written this. Seriously. Right down to the ignoring part. *grins*
Mars-Venus-Pluto conjunct in Libra, so, like Elsa told me once, “the doily is going to get spoiled.” 
Mars is in its detriment in Libra so the energy is not expressing itself well. For a Sadge, it’s like, so what do you really think?
I don’t like to raise my voice or not be polite at others too much.. even when I’m mad. When I argue, that’s when I can raise my voice and get too into the discussion but when I’m mad, I can clam up. It’s like when I get too mad, I feel like I’m shaking.. almost not in control of myself so I shut up. I will eventually talk but I’ll try to give my thoughts calmly on why I’m angry.
The only Libra that I have is Pluto and my Mars is in Pisces.
My view is very much do unto others as you would be done by, and I believe very strongly that if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything.
This has made life difficult for me. I always see the best in people and give the benefit of the doubt in nearly every circumstance. But it means that people take the mick, somewhat.
The mars influence is significant though – I have mars in leo, so when pushed, I snap back. This is normally so surprising to people that they take enormous offence, thus making the situation worse. It’s tough.
There’s a Sufi quote I like:
Before you criticize, pass your world through three sieves:
Are they true?
Are they kind?
Are they necessary?
Violet Hour Muse that is awesome. Thankyou for that Im going to use that and keep it mind when I need it. I feel the same Elsa and I attribute it to my Libra in Mercury. Im always cordial and I try my very best not to blast becauseI have a packed 8th house and a Pluto conjunct Venus, Sun and Saturn and well I can hurt you like you wont believe and I dont like hurting. If it gets to the point I can be polite to you I will not respond to you and disengage. And I have filtered people ( I dont like doing it but sometimes it has to be done) On that note I have always believe if you dont have something nice to say dont say it at all which I learnt from my mother who is a Libra lol. I have blasted people and those people are usually my family because we all vent off each other and know each but thats a different energy …kinda of
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Manners..
I have Mars in Libra, but I’m not always cordial. It’s conj Uranus so it does tend to be a bit more off balance than your typical Mars Libra–not to mention impulsive. My first instinct is to be nice, of course. And my Virgo Venus sextiles my Scorp Mercury..so I even say nice things if I think it will serve you. But, when I’m mad and not in the mood to control it (that conj trines saturn) forget it..and I know it.
I think manners are very important. However, there comes a point with me where they completely go out the window. It’s more tempered now with age but once upon a time..sheesh..not good