I know this is a really common problem. It’s laughably common but not at all funny. Your kid rages… or whatever it is they do. They hit the school system and you have problems, they have problems, their teacher has problems and you get a reality check.
You get a reality check that should immediately be passed on to the 6 year old who is heading into their first Saturn square.
This is for a client…
“…the system tends to want to look the other way or come up with excuses for these kinds of behaviors. That’s fine for them because they have the kid in their class for a year but you are stuck with the result as she ages and her patterns become more ingrained. There’s a chance with this Saturn transit to get her on track. There is authority in the world- and she is NOT it. You are it. The teacher is it…”
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“She likes to be in control and if you let a fit gain her that power, you’re going to see more of it, I’m sorry to say…”
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“It is not a time of “conflict” for her. There is pressure from Saturn to grow up a little and conform. Be aware of others and considerate of them. Don’t scream your head off in class like you’re a baby because you are not a baby when you are going to be 7!”
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“If you look at my videos on the Saturn return, there is one about being 7. This is a critical time in the maturation cycle…”
Has anyone successfully gotten their child on track at this age? How about someone who wishes they would have / could have? What have you seen? What do you know?
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I think I have.
My six year old son just finished Year 1 and his school report was excellent. His teacher said that it was an absolute pleasure to have had him in her class, that he is a very well mannered and sensitive little boy.
I’m really proud of him, especially given the fact that although he is on the autistic spectrum he attends a mainstream school and so has to fit in.
O’my gosh! The best thing I did when my older kids were that age was read the best disipline book that I ever got my hands on!
1-2-3-Magic is the name of the book. It shows you how to create boundries with you kids behavior, and follow through with the punishment. Nothing harsh, simple easy, getten were it hurt punishment so they learn.
LOL,I still use it to this day on all 4 of my kids and my oldest is 21. I ended up with really great kids!
My niece was kicked out of preschool for throwing temper tantrums. And throwing things at people! It was quite stunning, really, considering my family never let their feelings show at all. (The temper came from her mum, or so her mother says.)
She just graduated from high school as a very high achiever. Amazing, wonderful person who’s going to college to be an occupational therapist for the elderly in nursing homes. She has a gift for dealing with the elderly – they just love her.
Even tho I had nothing to do with it, I’m proud to be her auntie.
My mother had me on track; I was a good kid.
Given that kindergarten often begins when kids are 5, and that this affords the same separation and going out in the world experience, do you think we push kids to do that to soon? Or is that perhaps a good warm-up before the main event? 
Ah, Kim. I missed your comment when I posted just now. In my singular opinion, I have always thought pre-school a bit unnecessary (at best). I dont think children have much need to go out into the world and socialize/separate at the preschool age, which I am presume to be anywhere from 2-4/5. In fact, that seems just about opposite what the need to be doing, which is bonding with mom and family, and learning about the greater community through mom/dad. Leaving kids at preschool all day may be pushing for something just a little unnatural, hence the temper tantrums are to be expected. But again, that is just my opinion and I am speaking about a certain phenomenon in which kids are left in a preschool setting for the majority of their days, for the majority of the week. I understand your niece may not have been in such a situation, so I am speaking more generally about something else that I find a little disturbing.
A-Rae, I think different strokes for different folks. I was in 1st grade when I was 5 and thrilled to be there. What is universal is the first Saturn square is where you hit some harsh realities and this holds true, regardless.
For example, in my case – 1st grade was uneventful 5-6 years old. When I hit 3rd grade (I skipped 2nd grade), I had severe (social) problems because I was so far ahead everyone…and young.
They wound up taking me out of class and having me work in the office, 3 hours a day. Yeah, I was a 7 year old authority figure. They actually had me make the calls to the parents to inform them their kid was not in school and verify the absence was excused.
In whatever case, I was introduced to they system, big time. Back then kids got paddled in school and every couple weeks, some kid would be in there for this…ugh.
I posted about this fairly recently. I’ve had to crack down on my 7 yo Scorpio because of whiny, demanding, controlling diva behavior. She has Moon/Saturn conjunct in Cancer.
I spoiled her a bit more than my others because she’s the youngest. (I’m afraid I may have been worse with that if not for the Saturn conjunction.) She doesn’t like that we’re cracking down on her at all, but she’s toned down her antics a lot.
She doesn’t act up in school or in public – she saves the worst for her parents. 
That’s my job!! All day every day i work on improving children’s behaviors to help them properly transition into the school system and have a well adjusted home life… Most of what I do also includes coaching parents that they have the upper hand. Just because their child is the cutest thing in the world to them doesn’t mean they should be entitled to everything they want when they want and ESPECIALLY not when they’re tantrauming!! Even though it’ll quiet them it’s like you said it only reinforces their behavior act out more because they see that crying&screaming gets them exactly what they want…
A-Rae, you may well be right! My niece had a very traumatic birth – her twin died two weeks later – and it may well have been too much exposure too soon for her.
I didn’t even think about that, and I’m SURE her parents didn’t!
At any rate, she has overcome a lot, and turned out terrific!
Some kids NEED school early – I did. My sister started when she was four, coming up five, in a small private primary school.
I was so freaked out being left at home with my Ma – we didn’t get on right from the get-go – I screamed blue murder til I was allowed to go too; I remember those feelings very clearly too. I was a couple of months or so off my fourth birthday! I could read by the time I turned four.
not sure- my 7 yr old soon to be 8 yr old just recently at the last week of school pulled a chunk of his hair out- he is going through serious stress issues that we now need to find him a therapist. I am not sure where it all stems but his behavior is way off so hoping another perspective on how to get a handle on what is bothering him will take place soon. It has been a very difficult road trying to find a doctor for him when everyone I call says their practice is full!! I have been at this for about a month and living in a state with some of the best hospitals in the world you think that this would be easy!!
@Ellen:
Here is a GREAT resource for finding a therapist in your area:
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/
I’m so sorry to hear about your son’s troubles. It can be very scary when your children are experiencing something like this and it is easy to get overwhelmed. I ground myself in those situations by detaching just a little, and reminding myself that even though it is very emotional for me because I am Mom, the reality is that here is this other individual having a problem. My role as the parent is to use my age/experience advantage to guide and teach this little person until they are old enough to do it for themselves. Identify problem, find solution. Thinking along these very simple lines helps me, at least. Good luck, dear!
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I’m assuming I did. Now we will head into their second ones. I have a few years to prepare them. They are good people.
And yes, i Remember this behaviour so well. It would have helped me to know more about astrology at the time… But I have me some strong Saturn, so I think I just did it instinctively.