Hehe, me again..

I picked the “All of the above” option. Well, it’s actually not ALL of the above – I don’t think all press is good press and I don’t tend to retaliate either, but the rest are all possible options for me. I cracked at the option to “Use them to spread information” because I’m the only person I personally know that might do just that, I think most people won’t consider it, it takes a “criminal mind”

Mars-Mercury conjunction in Cancer in the 8th house, sextile Pluto in th 9th house. Criminal mind

If it’s someone I basically trust, I just let it go and figure that at least they’re thinking about me. I have a double Gemini friend who I love dearly and understand that whatever I tell her will be repeated to everyone she knows. It’s part of her, and I just accept it.

Mars in Leo in the 5th conj Sun, Venus, and Merc, trine Uranus and Jupiter.

it doesn’t really happen to me. people don’t seem to talk about me. or if they do, i don’t ever hear about it.

no, the 8th house thing… i learned from my mother… what kind of 8th house person i didn’t want to be. my best friend has an even more concentrated scorpio stellium and our friendship’s a great example of mutual trust and respect and ability to hold each other’s confidences, etc. it really all depends on choice, i think. how you choose to use your energy. my mother acts out of fear, most of the time. my best friend does not. it makes a big difference.

Oh gosh, I picked all of the above because it really depends on the situation. My friend told me she was discussing our relationship with someone else (in not entirely positive terms) and I told her it made me feel uncomfortable. It’s sort of flattering to have people think you’re interesting enough to talk about, no?

Mars in 4th house Sadge. Yeesh.

mars in Cancer. I rarely hear people talk about me. The few times that it’s gone wrong I’ve distanced myself – severely at first then gradually allow them to regain some of my trust given other indicators of friendship.

I wanna know what they’re saying. I have a first house Capricorn Mars Square Pluto.

If its not very nice the reaction varies by the person. Regardless of the person, if I don’t like the rumor I seek it out and quash it ‘C’mon, XYZ! For petes sake!’ If I like it, I let it live and give off no reaction whatsoever.

If its someone I want to keep around and I don’t like the rumor I confront them and hash it out, and if it is someone I don’t like then I retaliate.

For instance there was this assistant manager once, sexually assaulted my friend at a different retail location and then got transfered to my store (transfered because there were enough sexual harassment complaints, in fact one girl was suing because she’d gotten fired and alleged it was for this reason). I had all the local gossip, but let him come in clean when people asked me what I knew I said that what I knew wasn’t so nice, and was probably just gossip.

But! When he started gunning for me and talking down to me, and talking to the other management about me in a way that was not so flattering. I let everyone know he’d been in the movies! Yep! Carlos our very own Superstar! Back Up Dancer in GLITTER! And I’d get that sucker playing a little bit before his shift on a regular basis. “Hey! Guys! Won’t this be funny!”. And I went to management and expressed my discomfort with working with someone who had sexually harassed my friend. That I thought that maybe some of the negative stuff Carlos was saying about me maybe sprang from the fact I knew why he’d been bounced from his other store. And when a fellow staff member asked why I wasn’t working with Carlos any more I swore them to secrecy and told them, then let the rumor mill do its thing. Ka-Boom.

I don’t trust easily, so if it’s someone I’ve truly trusted, then they’re gone. I’m done with them and they might as well be dead to me.

If it’s someone I don’t trust deeply, but they still manage to betray me, then they get held at arm’s length for a very long time. Possibly forever, unless they find a way to prove they’re sorry and are trustworthy despite the mistake.

Mars in Cancer, 11th house square 8th house Merc & Venus in Aries.

Wyrdling is in my head! It kinda tickles.

1. Don’t do things you wouldn’t want others to know about.
2. Confidences are just that. On the receiving end, keep your mouth shut. Ditto for giving end if you’re not sure the person is 100% worthy.
3. “Kill” those who betray! If you must interact with them, keep it superficial.

I’m a bright lil’ ball of sunshine, yes I am!

Other. I hide and sulk, and then at some random time predetermined by my Mars Opposed Pluto come out with my pick axe and knocks thems skulls together…LOL!! Just kidding..um..only kidding a little.

On another note, I vote wyrdling posts a link to her/his blog…and if s/he doesn’t have one, then get on that asap because your insights are fab-u.

Speaking of betrayal, that’s been happening to me a lot lately. That is something I cannot tolerate, especially if a family member is doing it. If it was a friend I would never befriend them again. I would lose all respect for them. I live by my principles (Mars in 9th house).

I said ‘drop em completely’ It might take awhile, esp. since I’ve had to do this with inlaws and at least one spouse. But life’s too short to put up with that. Also, I have a Scorp bother and a Scorp sister and they are very good at keeping secrets but also with giving it to you straight… to your face.. and not behind your back.

Me too Caroline – Mars in Gemini in the 5th/6th houses. I chose ‘confront them’ though, not ‘all of the above’. I want to know WHY and if I don’t like the answer then they will understand the true meaning of a tongue lashing. They also will no longer be a friend after that and will certainly not get any ‘endoresements’ from me in the future if someone asks. I definitely do not feel that all press is good press. People make their minds up about you based on the stupidest shit sometimes and you never know when you may need a good impression to pave your way in the future!

I said ‘other’. I’ve been the recipient of this in a big way, so I know exactly how I respond. I would rather cut my tongue out than confront them because the bottom line for me is to not allow them to think for one second that I care.

I spent almost 9 years stuck on an Island while a certain number of women (mostly) stabbed be in the back. I went about my life, I didn’t avoid them, and I held my head high. For the most part, people ‘considered’ the source and those that really knew me stuck by me.

I said distance myself, though I realized after reading others’ comments that I was assuming it wasn’t a close friend. I’ve never had a close friend do this (hey I define ‘close’ strictly, I’m a virgo), but such a person I would ask why. Mars in cancer h6.

I simply call them on it. My mother disclosed confidential information to a family member which created a fisure between the two of us, meaning myself and the other family member. To this day, they and I have never disclosed to each other that this happened but I am pretty certain that is why they never contact me. I called my mother on it and of course she denied ever having said anything the first time. But later on admitted she had “and what in the harm is that. So and so is very understanding”. UGH!

Mars in Pisces in the 4th, and I’ve only ever mentioned anything that has been out there for a while.

I have no interest in stabbing anyone in the back, or creating trouble. I accidentally embarrassed someone earlier this year, and was mortified (I didn’t even say anything about him, it was just my reaction). He deliberately tried to humiliate me a day later. I couldn’t believe he thought I’d done it on purpose. I’ve vented here, but I haven’t spilled what I know about him – I’ve only mentioned the one thing (and that wasn’t even so private), and I didn’t put a name or a face to it.

My mother tells people things, and I’ve had to specifically ask her to not talk about certain things. But she wouldn’t intentionally hurt me, just as I wouldn’t hurt anyone else. I usually say to most people, “Maybe you shouldn’t tell me.” when it comes to things being brought up, and I used to be as quiet about most things online, as I have been offline.

I feel guilty when I read things like this, because I used to keep so much to myself, and I don’t spread gossip; I’ve said several things here, based on my being anonymous, and I don’t know how anonymous I a, now- but those weren’t state secrets, they were already out there, and I didn’t say anything juicy or to score points. With the certain person threatening to commit suicide on me in february, I vented here, because I culdn’t tell anyone else, and I was scared, and tired- just plain overwhelmed. At the same time, when I remember that, I feel sad for him. He was more unstable than he ever let on, and he expected me to hold to certain rules he wouldn’t hold himself to. There is no way I would deliberately crush him or betray him- funny, when he accused me of that (what I mentioned above), we were arguing after he’d told me that my feelings didn’t matter. everybody else’s did, but that I didn’t personally matter.

there was another comment there… (sorry).

Meant to add that I confront, or let it happen, and watch to see who believes what.

There are always ways you can turn it to your advantage

Mars in Pisces in the 3rd.

all it hurts my feelings. I get maaaad and paralysed by madness.bb==> yeah, that.