Venus is currently squaring Neptune and I this aspect in my natal chart. I wrote about this in 2002, on my original blog. See if you recognize yourself…
Venus in aspect with Neptune (also applies to Venus in Pisces, or Venus in the 12th) gives dreamy ethereal heavenly love. I write from experience!
Venus Neptune fantasizes love and is able to temporarily create heaven on earth in relationship. There is an abundance of faith and an aversion to reality in love. They do not see their love, or the beloved as something / someone down to earth or REAL. Rather, what they are involved in is otherworldly, specially blessed, heavenly and so forth. Their love is ethereal and dreamy and pure and hoo-boy is it ever FETCHING.
Venus Neptune tantalizes…
Come hither and all your pain and sins will be washed away.
They mean it, and they deliver the goods too.
Bring me your tired, your poor…
For awhile.
This can only be held up so long and then the veil drops. It is inevitable that this occurs because it is smoke and mirrors and delusion and self delusion and really really really great UN-real love.
Everyone knows someone like this? They dial you up and they have just met the be all end all man/woman of their dreams. You have heard this before, but you listen and they go on and on about this new nirvana they live in. How after all their struggles in love, all the sacrifices they have made – they cannot believe it, but their sweet reward in on the scene in the form of Mr/s X, who they plan to live with in bliss forever. They have done it, they have found the holy grail, the key to heaven, a holy relationship, something others could not possibly understand and they are drunk with love. They worship the beloved and project superhuman qualities onto them. They build them up, pump them up while simultaneously ignoring and erasing away any sign that the beloved is a flawed human being.
You shake your head because you KNOW that this person will be gone in a few weeks and sure enough, here is the next phone call.
“That ()(*&*^%^ stole my money/cheated on me/was married…” etc. etc.
Recognize this?
27 Responses to “Venus Square Neptune – Delusion In Love”
I tend to do this or I used to, I either have a opposition or square can’t recall now, but when i get to know people somehow I see them as perfect creatures & think what a wonderful amazing person she/he is I see them only through colored glasses & when the reality heats me later on & discover they are just regular humans & due to the very high expectations at first they soon become the very bad kind of human !
I have had this experience in the past. I do no recommend this.
Can I spell disillusionment? Why yes, I can.
Eeek, I have Venus sq. Neptune. I admit when I was younger thinking every new boyfriend I had was the best thing since sliced bread. My last boyfriend, who happens to be my husband, has been my best thing since sliced bread for 11 years now 
I remember asking you, Elsa, a long time ago if the reverse can also be true: Seeing with murky-colored glasses instead of rose-colored glasses. I think it took a long time for me to really see how GREAT my husband is.
Story of my life!
Wow Elsa. Even the way you wrote that…it’s like the you took the words of emails I get from a Cancer friend with Virgo Rising. He talks JUST LIKE that about his “beloved”, his “angel” and his “blissful” morning with her as he messages her feet to slowly awaken her. Wow!! I do wonder how long this will last. But I wish him lots of happiniess anyway!
I haven’t read the article yet (about to) but just have to say…. I LOVE that Barbie! She is sooo pretty!
Ooooh. Yeah… Venus in Pisces here, and I would like that Barbie. Dreamy and sparkle-y. Thanks for the reminder (warning!) I can actually feel I am doing it again, and it does feel better than facing reality. More optimistic, you know?
Only once.
I have Scorpio and a Virgo Venus.
I really did know in the back of my mind what bullshit it all was but I let myself be addicted anyway for years.
Heh. I had a reading from you way back when before I knew more about astrology, Elsa, and you told me Neptune was on my descendant. Boy oh boy, did I learn about that…
lol I used to do this… spent a decade doing it. Saturn in Libra seems to have changed all the games of love for me… Still single, but all the wiser
Venus in Pisces and Venus square Neptune. Gosh, I sure hope my husband is the bees knees like I think he is. 
i’m glad mine is a trine!!! but, yes. although with saturn involved i rarely got close enough for the illusion to break. i preferred daydreaming from a distance.
real love is a b#tch, is what. a darn good thing, too, but climbing down from the clouds into the dirt is hard :/
I have Scorpio Neptune in the 7th trine both Pisces Sun and Aquarius Venus… I definitely do the ‘saviour/victim’ (bring me your poor etc) thing but I think my Capricorn Moon helps me be a little more down to earth than the Neptune/Venus aspects pushes me towards. I have a friend with Pisces Venus and she is soooo far out of touch with reality in relationships that I just shake my head.
Venus in Cancer trine Neptune in Scorpio. I’ve washed away so much pain and sin there should be a statue of me in the Vatican .
Oh yeah. Very familiar. Put it up on a pedestal.
Venus in Virgo in the 9th, aspect to Neptune
Um, I was married to it for 12 years. It was a whirlwind in the beginning, then a long slow disillusionment, then I was abruptly dropped for a replacement fantasy. My Venus Saturn thought we were building a life together. It only slowly creeped up on me that that was not his understanding of how love worked.
Neptune in scorpio 7th house…i have tried to cure myself of idealising love/men and living in fantasy land. Cappy venus has helped stay real and grounded.
Can Venus square Neptune play out as being delusional about money situations?
Elsa, when you mention alternative placements that could have similar experiences, I get that. I’m not quite sure I understand why Virgos and Virgo risings would exhibit such behavior, though.
Ebony, Vigor risings have Neptune ruling the 7th and with Virgos, I am thinking in terms of a solar chart, plus I have seen this pay out for decades.
Thanks so much, Elsa. I was confused.
Oh no! It is even worse for me than I thought than. Venus Square Neptune AND Neptune conjunct Moon AND Virgo Sun – I am completely cursed!!! Wah!!! (neptune conjunct asc too)
I can tell you why Virgos would do this – because they want perfection and when that veil drops and they realize the person is just a mortal and not perfect, they just can’t stand it.
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