Astrology in real life
This made me go looking at posts tagged “rejection” and I found this from 2008. I was talking to my husband about an old love of mine…
“I have been thinking about him lately and wondering what he came up with. Do you suppose he’s told himself a story about how awful I am? Or do you think he sees it in another light?”
“He’s probably told himself a story,” he replied.
“He may have a whole story constructed by now and then if becomes reality even if it’s not real. Why do people do that?”
“It’s a defense,” he said.
“Oh this way the relationship failed and it’s the other person’s fault. It wasn’t due anything they did. They never did anything wrong.”
“You don’t get anywhere doing that.”
“No you don’t but that’s what people do. That’s what most people do, I’d say. Yeah, it’s always something the other guy did. There is nothing wrong with you.”
I stopped blaming other people for my relationship failures when I was about 24 years old. It was a brutal transition and I didn’t completely transform until I was beyond my Saturn return (28+).
This is probably the largest and most profound impediment to forming successful relationships. It is just impossible to deal with someone (over time) who has no awareness of their flaws, what motivates their actions and their impact on other people. You have to go deep too. He did this so I did this but what I did doesn’t count because he did this does not cut it. I’d go as far as to say the person who says it is all the other person’s fault, lists their partner’s flaws and tries to enlist and convince others it’s all true is very likely the victimizer in the relationship.
You can take this as a Saturn Venus thing. Either you take responsibility in relationship or you are sure to be deprived of one over time. Rejecting people for their flaws when you can’t see your own seems to give the same result.
What do you think prevents success in relationship?
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