A friend’s mother stopped in at her job. After she left, a young girl she works with asked, “Is that your Mom?” She had a lilt in her voice.
“Yes,” my friend answered. ‘That’s my Mom.”
“She seems sweet,” the girl chirped.
“Well she’s not. Be careful. I love her, she’s my mom but she is definitely not sweet…”
What is your mother, not? And where is your Moon, and how is it aspected?
55 Responses to “Your Mother And Your Moon in Your Chart”
My Mom is not very motherly. She’s a lot of fun but she has consistently given me bad advice and wasn’t really good at protecting my sister and me from our stepfather’s abuse. She is sweet, I guess. My Venus squares my Moon in Pisces also (my mother was a pothead for most of my adolescence). I also have a Moon/Pluto opposition.
My mother is not weak. She’s a bit too stubborn and head strong for her own good. Moon in scorpio conjunct pluto. She’s also controlling and has these insane mood swings that drives me crazy. But she is pretty sociable, Moon sextile venus but also saturn. Her and I don’t have a very great relationship at all.
My Mother had her Moon tightly conjunct Pluto in Cancer, Virgo Sun; I have Moon tightly conjunct Pluto in Virgo, Pisces Sun. Her Jupiter in Cancer sat exactly on my ASC. Her Venus in Scorpio is sextile my Virgo stellium and trine my Venus in Pisces. We got along very well, in many ways she was a good friend, and I loved her very much. However, she was extremely manipulative and controlling, which I didn’t fully realize until after she had died.
My stepMom is a Sagittarius Sun, Moon in Pisces one degree off my Sun, Venus in Scorpio trine my Venus in Pisces, Saturn in Aries exactly on my Mercury in Aries. We get along very well, I’m deeply fond of her, I respect her and she’s probably the least manipulative person I know (Mars in Libra).
I have Scorpio moon in the 12th. My mother is a Pisces sun and I have Saturn in Pisces. My mother has Saturn in Gemini which is my sun sign.
We get along surprisingly well given all of that, but to say our relationship is complex and full of undercurrent would be putting it mildly.
My mother is a Gemini, I have Aquarius moon conjunct Venus and Mars and square Saturn. She and I get along extremely well. We have similar interests and the same sense of humor. She’s such an easy-going, selfless, funny person, I can’t imagine anybody could dislike her.
My moon is in Virgo, and the woman with the most influence in my life (my bio mom left when I was 4) has HER moon in Aries. I’ve done a lot of reading this morning — gods bless google! — and wow, now I understand better why our relationship is the way it is!
Thanks for the thread of thought, Elsa. I’m really beginning to understand all this now.
My mother wasn’t motherly. She never taught me the facts of life like tell me to brush my teeth everyday and that sort of thing. No education about life. She has 3 daughters though, and one adopted son, and had lots of other pregnancies that didn’t come to term. I remember she slept alot when i was a kid. We kind of grew up on our own. (My father recently told me he tought because we were girls, we didn’t need a father, just a mother, and somehow he thinks she’s a good mother. maybe compared to his own mother, she is) I have moon in sagitarius conjunct neptune, sextile mars and pluto, square mercury. She’s a sag sun and saturn with moon in pisces (my sun). My other sisters have moon in pisces and cancer.
we all have sun-saturn contacts too. an opposition, a square, and my older sister has saturn in leo and a square sun-saturn.
Everything my Mom is now, she wasn’t when I was a child.
When I was a child, she was mentally ill and suicidal.
She was also very religious and had a litany of rules for behaviour no one could live up to. She was anti-social, and paranoid.
Now that I am an adult, and my Mom is a senior citizen, she is open-minded, not-so-religious , social, and happy as a lark. WTF, eh?
She is an Aries Sun with an Aquarius Moon. She likes to say she’s finally living in her body. I think leaving the church was supremely good for her–she’s a true individual and never had an easy time with groups. And I hate to say it, but after her own mother passed away, it was as if a weight was lifted (HER mother was an Aquarian with her Moon in Cancer and their relationship was in parts toxic/needy). She changed dramatically after her mother’s death.
My Moon is in Capricorn, in the 1st house. Squared Pluto, which is in 9th house/Libra. I used to feel at the mercy of my emotions when I was very young (I was also very confused about religion) and was very much my Mother’s tonic when she was so effed up. I did leave home at 16 though, and I think that saved me from my own spiral into hell. I literally could not separate myself from my Mom emotionally, and she did everything in her power to prevent me from leaving.
I left the country at 20 for 4 years and it changed everything. Basically, we both relinquished control of everything we tried to control.
I love my Mom and can’t imagine life without her. And I am even happier that we’re both not as effed up and unhappy as we were during my childhood. It’s nothing short of a miracle, and I feel extremely lucky we both embrace change where we once fought it tooth and nail.
My mom, grandmother, father and myself all have moon aquarius.
My mom is often mistaken for mean as hell. She isnt. She’s definetely not a maternal woman, but she does her best, when it suits her. She is very artistic so she usually expresses herself in very unique ways.
We dont really get along too well on a regular basis. We dont agree on a darn thing, but we do love each other in our own way.
I have Aquarius moon in the 2nd house, with a lot of aspects,some of them rather irritating I guess (I‚
One thing my mom is not… is…. let’s see. She is not outwardly possessive. She is also far from stupid.
She has probably taught me the most about myself and how to deal with people around me. And everything she taught me has been extremely important in the way I see the world intellectually. She is *constantly* reading, learning and now philosophizing. And even though technically she would be called a “stay-at-home” mom, she actually traveled often while I was a child and adolescent. Back and forth between a California upper-upper-middle class suburb where me and my sibling was sent to go to school, and the small Midwestern town, where my dad needed help running with his clinic (accounting, taxes, maintaining relations w/ people, counseling my dad.) We all used to live together. Often she and I had fights as I was growing up, mostly about getting me to do my homework assignments! And finish the damned things! But we are actually quite close. And I could discuss with her almost anything quite fervently.
She can always call me out when I am wrong. Or when I need to leash in my terrible worries and temper. She always forces me think about analyzing my relationships clearly and to think about the bigger picture. She questions people’s truths. Which sometimes can be helpful. But, sometimes she gets things wrong too! She can be stubborn about that. We’re sometimes equals in that sense.
Sometimes, on the phone I half-jokingly pout about how I’ve been abandoned! (She’s a double Aquarius.) Hahah.
This lady can be tough! (T-square with a Mars in Sagittarius) And she only recently learned how to let go of doggedly arguing ideas at the dinner table and other places with less open-minded people.
Coincidence?
Her Chiron is conjunct my Moon.
My Gemini Chiron is conjunct her Gemini Moon.
Also, this woman’s Sun and Venus are conjunct in my 10th house, square my self-destructive Sun and Pluto hahaa.
My Moon is in Capricorn conjunct Mars in the 9th.
Also sextile Saturn and Mercury.
wow an unreal amount of people, including myself and a friend of mine have thier moon in thier mother’s sun sign. … crazy
re: 13 (Bashful)
Cancer Moon here.
My mom’s a Cancer Sun.
As were my first two female lovers.
My current and previous lovers are Cancer Asc.
My best friend has Cancer Venus, etc.
Other key players in my life all have some kind of Cancer marker that intersects with my chart in complex and potent ways.
My moon is in Libra at the end of the 4th house.
Conjunct Pluto and Saturn. Square Mars. Yeehaw!
I’m familiar with depression, obssessive behavior and bad temper.
My mom has a Virgo moon. Protective and generous.
Maybe too protective.
We have a “come here/leave me alone” relationship. Sometimes I need to push her away, (not taking her numerous calls, not visiting her) because if I don’t I’m sure she’ll eat me alive.
When we fight it’s always because she’s too critical (my lifestyle, my home, my father). And loves to control everything. As a Sag, I hate that.
However, without her positive influence, I wouldn’t be as independant and responsible. I’d be a restless emotional mess.
And without my optimism, she wouldn’t know how to relax.
It’s my mum’s buffday on monday. Happy Buffday Mum! I have a libra moon, 7th house. She has a scorpio moon, don’t know which house. Her mother wasn’t really a mother, didn’t want kids, tried to abort my mum by drinking gin in a bath and throwing herself down some stairs.
So she is very anxious, especially about us kids, could never give me the space I needed so I had to find ways of getting that space-climbing up trees, on the roof etc when I was a toddler.
My mum’s mercury is square mine and my moon. She doesn’t understand me or my emotions but she does try hard!
She isn’t funny, on purpose. Doesn’t have a sense of humour, thinks when I try and play with her that I’m taking the piss out of her. She overreacts emotionally, all the time, everyone has to feel her emotional pain even if they don’t want to.
I do love her, but she is not easy going or light-hearted.
My mother is not warm and fuzzy, my moon is in Virgo 4th house conjunct Pluto opposition Jupiter. She made homemade yogurt before yogurt was cool (late 60′s)and made sure I knew about diet and exercise, but did not hug much. There are other layers to our relationship, and though I don’t trust her much, I’ve come to terms with her.
Interesting how many Moon/Pluto contacts there are in a lot of posters’ charts here.
I’ve got a Sag moon, Mom has a Pisces moon. Emotionally, we are on completely different wavelengths. I’m the cold and icy bitch, she’s the bleeding heart. Boy, is that fun to have going on all the time.
So I’m sitting in the pick up line at school this afternoon and it dawned on me…my kids have moons, wonder what that looks like. My oldest boy, Scorpio moon, middle daughter Taurus moon and my youngest boy Virgo moon. Is this why siblings can grow up with the same mom, but have completely different experiences? I try to be fair and balanced with my kids, but my daughter challenges everything I say or do head on, so I stand my ground with her while my oldest is constantly hiding things (or trying to) and using evasive techniques and I have to ferret out info from him all the time. Kinda makes you go hmmmmmmmm.
I have Moon in Scorpio trine Sun, trine Mars, square ASC and opposite MC. (and lots of other aspects..)
But um..my Mom’s a really, really strong woman. She’s been through a lot.. and she keeps going no matter what. I admire her for that. She’s kind of tough/cold sometimes but I understand – She’s a Sagittarius Sun, Capricorn Moon, Aquarius ASC. I’m a Cancer, Scorpio Moon, Leo Rising.. so we have our clashing moments ;] lol. She gets mad that I’m too sensitive/emotional and I get annoyed by how cold/clumsy/carefree (sagittarius) she is! But anyway..she’s amazing. I love her sososo much. I don’t know what I’d do without her lol :\
Eighth house Aquarian moon, trine my Mars/Venus/Pluto conjunction, square Uranus. Also square Chiron, but I know jack about Chiron. 
My mother and I have a fabulous relationship now, but I absolutely hated her growing up. She was an alcoholic for most of my “childhood” and we kids were basically left to rear ourselves. As a matter of fact, my mother and I didn’t talk for a couple of years until she “got sober.”
Unfortunately, we don’t have birth info on Mom – her mother is dead and her birth certificate lost. We haven’t gotten a replacement yet.
SaDiablo, you can find out all kinds of info for your Mom if you know the date/place of her birth. Not degrees and houses (although there is a specific term for this type of chart interpretation…working backwards from life events…what’s this called? I should know but don’t but of course the lovely Elsa does).
So you can know in which signs planets are in and go from there.
If you already know this, please excuse my post.
Bashful– I was noticing that too. And if not in their mother’s sun sign then usually in the same type, air or fire or whatever.
mom’s moon is in leo (conjunct my dad’s sun, my saturn, go figure.) (they have a pair of sun moon conjunctions in synastry.)
my moon’s in aquarius (yes, in opposition) and venus is sitting in aries in a mess of aspects.
and, yeah. mom is not sweet. but she’s got quite a force of personality.
My moon is 10 degrees Leo (5th house) squaring my sun at 9 degrees Taurus and Merc at 16 taurus (both in the 2nd house), all of this in square to eight house saturn 18 degrees retrograde and therefore applying. Sun rules sixth, venus is intercepted in my chart and rules no no house, saturn rules 11 and 12, and merc rules 3 and 4. I think the Saturn aspect on the moon is very difficult. I am the oldest and mom has Cap on her 5th house cusp, and saturn approaching the fifth. She “hates babies” and she still talks about how much she ‘hates babies’ without seemingly realizing that, as her baby once, she probably really shouldn’t go around screaming that all the time. Most of the time I experience her as Control Freak Mom (Her moon is in Aries, she rises in mid Virgo). We fought all my life, but now I have been able to set some boundaries with her. Sometimes we do ok and others I still fear taht she is going to run me off from her forever, so that I will no longer be here when she needs me most.
Wow. I’m yet another one whose Moon is in my Mom’s Sun sigh. She was an Aries and had a Gemini Moon. That’s interesting because my sister is a Gemini Sun. She came into the world in very Aries-like fashion: she was born on an elevator in the hospital. She couldn’t wait to get out and meet the world, I suppose! She also left this world in a similar fashion as she had a brain aneurysm.
Well since my last cheery post 4 years ago I started a Pluto transit to my Moon. My mother is not sensitive. And I don’t know why I wrote she was social, she has no friends. I guess back then I was happy for her that she started talking to people in public.
My mom was a Cappie sun/gemini moon. I think she was sag rising. She was as moody as 12 people. It was nuts. We were like night and day.
My Mother is NOT spiritual, able to give and receive love without being codependent, wrong..ever, open, appreciative or her self worth or talents, flexible, tolerant or patient. She IS very judgemental. She also DOES NOT bounce.
I have Pisces moon in the first.
Trine Sun and Mercury
Sextile Jupiter
Square Neptune and MC
Mom is a first house Taurus moon sextile Merc, square saturn and pluto, opposing Chiron and trine MC.
I’ve been focusing on her chart a lot lately. I think where Jupiter pulls me up emotionally..Pluto pushes her down. She, my dad, and Ox all three share the Taurus moon with aspect to pluto (parents square, ox is trine).
My mother’s planets form hard angles to my personal planets and her Saturn hits my fifth house. I feel inhibited, not free to be myself, when I’m with her. Her moon in early Pisces squares or opposes six planets plus Chiron in my chart. We are not close although I do love her in my own way. Our relationship is cold/a little formal though. I was not emotionally nurtured growing up. My moon is in Gemini. My sister’s moon in Libra conjuncts our mother’s sun and her Saturn in Pisces conjuncts mom’s moon so I see now why those two are very close. My sister calls mom 2 or 3 times a day and sees her every week. I have no idea what they talk about. I have to force myself to call my mother once a week and sometimes, I have to hand the phone over to my husband after just a minute or two.
My Mother was a Sun Capricorn, I’m a Moon Capricorn. She died when I was 4, so I really can’t tell how she was. I know she was pretty strict with me, she wouldn’t give me candies and wouldn’t have given me Barbie dolls later on.
SO also has inherited his Mom’s Sun sign as his Sun and Moon sign. The one thing he has in common with his Mom is that he has to be moving and doing things.
Oh, I didn’t answer the question. What is my mother NOT? She’s a social creature, very hard-working and loved by many people, but she is NOT intelligent. This bothers my Gemini moon very much as it makes it impossible for me to connect with her on any level.
With a mother like mine, one does not need enemies.
She disappeared from my life when I was 3 years of age (Neptune conjunct Midheaven) and then returned to my life when I was about 30 and had obtained a graduate degree and employment in a high profile field.
She then proceeded to undermine (or rather attempted to) the relationships I had with my other relatives, some of whom had raised me. It saddens me to this day that the last years I had with certain relatives were unnecessarily troubled by her BS. And the “stories” this woman told as to why she “had” to abandon her children!
Moon in Virgo conjunct Pluto on the cusp of 7/8 houses.
My mother was not an adult.
Me: Moon in Scorpio in the tenth square Mars from the 8th.
Her moon was in Aries; she was a Gemini with a massive locomotive pattern running from the top of the 12th to the end of the first.
I’m pretty conflicted about my mom. People used to say they “loved her” but she was furious, controlling and borrified by me. The most insane things used to come out of her mouth when she was talking to me, or anywhere near me and my son. She was (verbally) abusive to my kid.
Once, when she was dying, I gently tried to suggest that she start talking to hospice. She said: you just can’t wait for me to be an invalid, can you?
She hated doing housework and would throw fits at other people to get them to clean up after her ( specially me) — but she loved to be social, had tons of elderly friends, hated being stuck anywhere, needed to be out, out there in the world. She was self-employed for most of her life. She hated to be fenced in; hated other people to get the attention, and the very last thing she truly ever wanted to be was a mom.
Mom is not the “good girl” that she wants people to think. She is fiercely independent, though I can see how it often conflicts with how she wants others to see her.
My moon (one of my strongest chart planets) is:
Cancer, 4th house
Sextile with both Venus in Taurus and Saturn in Virgo
Trined with Uranus
Opp. My midheaven
Squaring Pluto (which explains the hold my mother has on me)
We are actually quite similar except I just have a louder, cockier personality (Aries sun and ascendant).
my mom’s sun is Taurus- my moon is Taurus- my mother is like this discription… to everyone else she seems great- but for me not.
She basically is only there for my sister and her son- since she is incapable of taking care of him. My kids call a family friend grandma- her excuse is that I have a great husband so I don’t need her- well guess what- I am so done with her- I have no use for any sort of relationship at all- and I am not going to start at 44!
I have a Pisces moon & my mom & son have moon in Aries. I have NO idea what this means or if it has an impact on them but they are extremely close. However, I know the woman my son calls Grandma is NOT the same woman who raised me! She’s really just an old woman who was kinda mean when she was younger & now is trying to get into heaven!
Ditto on the my moon in my mom’s sun front. We’re Cappies.
Funny thing is a I don’t see her as a Cap figure. Yes, indeed, she sucked at the nurturing thing, but wasn’t authoritative at all. In fact, I ran all over her.
My mother is not fun. My moon is in Aquarius. Hmm. That doesn’t seem to compute to me.
My Mom has about the same sun/moon aspect that I have. Her’s sun is conjunct uranus at 29 degrees gemini and her moon & jupiter are conjunct at 16/23 sadge (making her sun/moon not quite in opposition like mine, but very close). Her venus & merc are at conjunct on my sun and her vertex is on my NN. We are here together is all I can tell you and I feel very lucky to have a close bond with her. She worked very hard to be as good a mother as she could be. Given what she had to work with, she did an amazing job. Sitting here looking at our charts and what she had to work with in her chart, I’m even more amazed. So Thanks Mom!
Angie
My natal Moon is in Virgo in my 10th house. My mother’s is in Scorpio in my 12th. There are times when I did feel she neglected mothering me in the way I expected. But as I grow older I see that it’s not her fault and I have more compassion for her. She is definately hot and cold and not what I would call “sweet” though she can be. Lots of sadness in her teen years left her feeling neglected by the early death of her mother, who she adored. She has also blindsided me, unintentionally sometimes and other times not.
But again I think she saw it as her duty and wanted to protect me, but ended up making me trust her less. Now I really don’t share that much. Shame.
Wow that sounds just like my girls. Both my daughters think I was a mean mother. The oldest daughter is a Cancer and her sister is an Aquarius. My natal Moon in Taurus in the 3rd house opposing my Sun. I always felt like my mother though I should be a carbon copy of her in every way. I am not but even my siblings and children could see my mom thought this. Everyone but my mother thought this was weird. It has always confounded me because I am a Scorpio and my mother was a Capricorn.
My moon is in Pisces/6th house. My mother is extremely hard on me about working and she loves to drink and just kind of vacillated in and out of my childhood like a dream as I was raised mostly by my grandparents. Her moon is in in 3rd house Sag and communication is incredibly important to her, but with Virgo rising and Leo sun she becomes this all powerful intimidating being, constantly firing off questions and reducing even the bravest warriors to tiny piles of ash and cinder.
my mother is not…
- humble (moon-mars in leo)
- consistent (moon sesquiquadrate neptune)
Hi – My bestselling book says it all- Not Your Mother’s Diet-I have a 22 degree Virgo moon in my 6th house sextile my Jupiter in my 7th square my mercury 22 Gemini & square 22 degrees Gemini Uranus WOW -hot temper in my day to get my codependent mother to give me space. My moon has an aspect of redemption and realization at my Pluto 11 degrees Leo conjunct Saturn 4 degrees in my 4th house. I realized and endured loving my mom most of my life. I have learned so many deep lessons over the past 64 years that I apply now in helping others to become more conscious. I now am a leading eating disorder expert in private practice. I grew up in Washington State but I live in Florida and that is giving myself nurturing space.
The astrology is different – my mom was a Libra and I don’t know her time of birth so I don’t know her moon – and she lived her life as a housewife, but everything else you said Eva, sounds like we both had very similar, crazy ass moms.
My mother is not here. I miss her, and love that I grew to know her over the last few years of her life and to understand and like her. She seemed a bit out of control when I was younger, ethereal, not domesticated a lot of the time, and none too keen on clingy kids, which, given a bit of encouragement, would have been me. Parent child relationships fascinate me, and having the privilege of being a grandmother now, means I get the chance to study this even more. Today my daughter asked me to be with her as she tackled a sensitive school issue for her son. She was proud of my support,and that makes me feel like a success story. Moons? My mums was Gemini, daughter’s is Pisces (my Sun sign, although her asc is Gemini) and mine is Aries, the sign of my mum’s ruler planet Venus, which is perhaps why mum was a tomboy and not a domestic goddess. I love being cosy and domestic, and cuddly.
thanks Elsa..I meant to say that I was given that same brass Moon ashtray shown in your pic as a gift years ago..which stirred me to post!
I don’t know my mothers natal aspects. However she’s a sun Virgo, moon Leo
I am a Sun Sadge, moon Aqua opposition Leo Uranus. My mother is INSANE!!!
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My Mother, her mother, myself, and my oldest daughter all have moon in Aquarius. You would think we would all get along together, but such was not the case. My moon is fairly well aspected, but Mother’s was opp. Mars, I always experienced her as mean as a snake and mad as a hatter.