i really don’t know. i have had one serious relationship aside from the one i am currently in, and when we broke up i fled the continent.
all i have left of the ex is some photos with him in it, and i won’t get rid of them because we travelled alot together.
he was actually a nice man. just a drunk.

For me the energy can be altered. You can make your reality whatever you want, so no I dont discard of items.

Yes! Get rid of it all or, at least, get it out of my sight and put into a box (one never knows, there may be a reconciliaton haha).
No Pisces, but stelium in Scorpio.

usually by the time I end a relationship things have gotten so bad that I WANT OUT and seeing his stuff really doesn’t faze me much. It takes a lot, but once I let go I’m gone…

I don’t change my sheets or my appearance but all the sentimental trinkets I’ve ended up keeping over the time (ticket stubs, small gifts, etc.) get put into a box and hidden away. I can’t quite make myself dump them because they are, after all, memories of happy times and even though the relationship has gone sour, the positive energy and happiness attached to those objects remains for me.

To anyone with Venus in Scorpio–if you divorced, would it be hard to continue to live in the same house you shared with your ex if you had other options? Would it mean you are expecting them to come back–or you just really like the house?

Ah, my friend has Libra rising…could be the reason. Thanks!

I probably wouldn’t wear the exact combination of outfit again, but I would wear all the pieces in other outfits.

After a breakup I purge piece by piece and it can take quite a while. I find I like to hold on to the stuff and I’m not exactly sure why because I definitely have trouble wearing/using it (generally I hide it there’s an entire box of uselessness in my closet) . . venus in the 12th. Keeping my old lovers in a secret box heheheh.

I’d never wear it again, but I wouldn’t throw it out either. Wearing something like that (or even having it around) would make me feel like I was reliving the whole thing over and over again. I like to put stuff like this away in a secret box and keep it out of sight. Inanimate objects, anything belonging to the other person, can have this ‘lingering’ energy about them that I find very disturbing. I can’t be around it at all, can’t concentrate, but can’t let go of it either, hence the boxing up and storing away. Supersensitive to energy – Pisces Mercury, Neptune conjunct Moon.

On an odd note, I’m uncomfortable leaving my energy lingering around others as well. Usually, I gather up all the bits and pieces of my ‘self’ and take it with me. I disappear

I do have Pisces and Scorpio, but you know what? I’m JUST NOW learning to do this. I had vacation last week and that was my “new moon” project..to go through my house and gather up anything that reminded me of a past romantic relationship. You..would..not..believe..the amount of stuff I found. Everything from picture frames to personal letters and I thought, good grief, no wonder these corpses keep showing up they are all over my subconscious!
Imagine a Libra relationship addict that hasn’t DARED throw anything that may have been a mere remnant of a relationship memory away FOR OVER 19 YEARS (at least).
The relief and freedom I have felt from this purge have been sooo liberating. Crazy..

and..for your poll question, this Pisces would never remember what the heck she wore that day anyhow

Only one time did I purge. The boyfriend and I had a very deep bond – as I look back, I know he was the one I loved deeply. When we stopped seeing each other, I was desolate, and couldn’t deal with looking at things he gave me. Too painful. I burned most of it. Almost cut my hair off as well. I grieved deeply, even though I knew it was for the best.
In hindsight, I wish I’d taken everything over to a friend’s, and left it there for a couple of years.
Libra stellium, but Scorp rising.

No way. My earth grand trine likes continuity too much. I’m getting divorced and have no problem living in the house I owned with my ex with all the objects of my past intact. Purging would feel like a denial of my history. Then again, I was ready to move on, so the breakup didn’t scar me a lot psychologically. I could see wanting to burn his shit if I felt like I was burned by him.

It depends on what the item is and what I experienced. I like to “reclaim” places where bad things happened or I was with someone who is no longer in my life if I really love that place. If I don’t, I’ll stay away.

Same with items of clothing. I have certain items that I love and am not willing to part with. There’s one particular item that I wore on a very bad day and I am superstitious about wearing it again. I have debated on giving it away because the memory cannot be erased from my mind.

My Sun is in Scorpio but that’s the only planet I have in it. No Pisces.

I stopped wearing certain items of clothing or scents after a breakup with a particular beau but I ended up wearing them again. I love the scent of lilac too much to give it up. I just gave it a rest to let me lick my wounds without making them worse.

I wait for a year or two before I think about wearing it again. Other things I purge. Other things I stow away for years and I only revisit them after like 5 years.

Stephanie: “No way. My earth grand trine likes continuity too much… Purging would feel like a denial of my history”

This is pretty well how I feel too, and I’ve got two grand trines in Earth (Asc, Sun/Venus and Moon). I’m a terrible hoarder for sentimental reasons – things which a part of my history stay with me for ever: I believe in the ancient Roman idea of ‘lares et penates’ – the Household Gods!

I have got rid of a few items of clothing when the occasion was spectacularly negative and destructive of an important relationship, but not very often. I’m more likely to keep clothing associated with important moments in my romantic life.

As for photos, on the rare occasions I’ve destroyed them I’ve always regretted it