Capricorn is highly sensitive to rejection. If someone lets me know they don’t enjoy my company, I exit their life totally and permanently. It’s very easy to get rid of me in your life. Just let me know you don’t want me there and you’ll not have a problem again. This is extreme in my case or so I’ve been told but I really don’t see, “I don’t like you,” to be negotiable. I also appreciate being told such a thing as it saves me time and energy when life is short.
I know my sister thinks my reaction is out of whack. “I don’t think they meant…”
I figure a person means exactly what they say and if you tell me that you don’t want me in your life, I am going to immediately comply and you’ll not have to worry about me banging on your door at a later date.
How do you handle rejection? If someone tells you to go away, do you take them seriously?
39 Responses to “Capricorn And Rejection”
Ceres conjunct Uranus..I’m usually gone before they ever get a chance to reject. And the process I internalize is the same whether I reject you in fear of your rejection or you actually get a chance to tell me to get lost. I disect and process the why’s, what’s, how’s and wallow in it until I feel like I’ve been punished enough and move on. But that all occurs after I’ve physically erased all evidence of the person in my life.
Good approach? No, not really because the bolting has ruined more than one good relationship where the other person didn’t have a clue to my reasoning. But..this is how it has worked for me in the past.
I’m working on it 
Um, yeah. Why waste my energy ? All someone has to do in my case is ignore me for awhile, and I’ll take that as reason enough to vanish. I have been errant with this approach, on only rare occasions. I feel fortunate to have good instincts; in this regard.
Yes, I take them seriously and I respect their feelings. If I found out that someone didn’t like my company I first would be embarressed that I hadn’t picked up that vibe before and I would nerver bother that person again!
I’m with le_soleil, with the Sun and 3 other planets in Capricorn (including Saturn) I see no point in sticking around if I don’t feel someone is putting in the same level of energy into the relationship. Ending a relationship now because lack of attention for me equals lack of respect and Capricorns require respect.
Yes, when some one says they don’t want me around I just leave. People do think this is strange, because I am not fighting to stay. But why should I stay, how big do I need the sign to be.
Capricorn moon here and yes im highly sensitve to rejection. Im gone and its hurts like a muthaF*cker sometimes but im gone if you dont want me. I think im also highly sensitive because I dont open up quickly either and when I do and realize I’ve made an error I do get incredibly hurt. Oh well I have enough jupiter and pluto to transform and bounce back….with TIME!!!
No Cap here, but yeah, I am outta there. And like Lina, I’m a little embarrassed if I haven’t figured it out already.
I don’t feel embarrassed myself. In my experience, most times this happens it’s because the person has had a change in their life. Most common for me, the person has a new lover, wife or husband who doesn’t like me and they want to cut ties and go in the new direction. This has happened throughout my life, since my late teens and early 20′s.
I really don’t take it that personally but I sure grant their wish and I don’t look back. I feel gratitude and relief for the information to a large extent as it’s hard to maintain a relationship with someone who is not interested. They release you and you’re as free as they are basically.
Capricorn is sensitive to rejection, but I honestly think that’s your 7th house Uranus, Elsa. It takes a lot for you to stay around, so if someone you treat as equal so much as hints they don’t want you around, you eject and don’t look back.
The Capricorns I know will cut ties, but they’ll do internal brooding for a short period. Yes, even the ones with Aquarian moons.
I will take the hint and disappear in shame.
Cappy moon & 12th house sun, I just disappear and you won’t have to see me again. With a cancer, 12th house sun, it’s something I usually have an inkling about. If I don’t pick up on that, then I can feel sheepish about it, too. I don’t know why that is, why I feel like I should always be two steps ahead on the “lay of the land” in relationships (friendships, family, social, work, or intimate, etc, etc), but I do. If I’m caught off guard and not aware of the change or the facts that indicate a change is coming, it’s embarrassing to me. That being said, if it happens, then I don’t need much in the way of an explanation, just let me know and I’m gone.
Angie
I feel the way you do Elsa. Problem is, was my daughter who said it….is a complicated, difficult time…
Don’t you guys worry that maybe you’re losing someone who could have been very special? Maybe all they wanted was a bit of reassurance that you really did want them in your life. Instead you confirmed their worse fears and walked right out of it.
Case in point, my brother told me about 20 years ago that he’d like to be left alone with his then fiance. I told him okay and have not contacted him since. He has not contacted me either and I am pretty easy to find, yanno? My assumption is he meant what he said. This was not said during a fit of anger. He wanted to join another family and sever ties with his own which is what he did and entirely his call.
I think I am a pretty demanding person to know.
Leon’s ex-wife also told me her then fiance didn’t like me many, many years ago and I said okay to that too. I mean, sometimes a person has to go down and I don’t mind that it’s me. Boundaries are just something I respect is all and I do think it’s Saturnian. My lack of angst about it may be Uranian… and also Jupitarian. I just don’t care if people want to leave. That’s what doors are for!
As a Capricorn, there’s only ever been a handful of relationships that I’ve ever fought to try to save.
In at least 1 case, it didn’t matter. In the other, the jury is still out, but I feel humiliated that the other person isn’t working anywhere near as hard as me on the relationship.
My ascendant is in Capricorn and I always take seriously a rejection. However I noticed two things in my life. First when dating women sometimes it is a handicap, because many women tend to say “no” and mean “yes”. Number two I find Sagittarius people very irritating because they never say to you clearly “no”, they want that you understand their answer from their behavior, while I demand honest and straight answer.
I have a cappy moon and venus, but I also have pisces, and neptune in libra in the 7th. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and try to see the good in them. I know boundaries are negotiable so for me to balance this energy I have found what works for me is that when they say *good bye* I ask them is this negotiable or is this your final answer, followed by “be-careful what you ask for cause you just might get it” when they answer with “My final answer” I am gone. Many have come back and asked to re-negotiate, but I don’t I took their final answer seriously.
Ive got Capricorn on the 5th, intensifies it ?… so dont joke about it.
it’s the respectful thing to do. for both parties.
If someone says that they don’t like me, I’m glad to hear it and bow out.
If a family member tried to cut ties with me to suit another person, and this is something that has nearly happened with me, my response is, “If this is what you need to do to keep so-and-so’s love, that is your decision.” And then I still mail a birthday card every year, because f*ck it–I don’t mind being a boundary-thwarting a-hole to prove unconditional love.
Yes, the relationship between lovers/spouses is special and needs to be respected. But it’s been my experience that people who ask that of their lovers isolate them from the outside world in other ways too, and that is dangerous and should be fought.
My ex is cap sun in 6th and he won’t leave me the hell alone. I have got to be missing something? Where would I look in the chart fir some clue as to why?
Welcome, Learningtoground. He may be following through on a commitment? You can post the chart on the boards and ask there. More will see your question and you’re likely to get good advice.
Thanks Elsa will do
If someone doesn’t want me around it’s impolite for me to stay.
Plus who wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you??
I take it seriously. But how much it hurts depends on how much I liked the person in the first place. If it’s someone I just got to know then my hurt will go away….FAST!! If it’s someone I knew for decades then it’ll take me a few weeks or even months to truly get over them.
what music4am said. exactly.
Hell yes, I am outta there like yesterday’s news. It would never occur to me to fight about it, even if I’m sad about it. It’s a question of self-respect for me. I don’t want to be around anyone who doesn’t want me around.
My energy is not for the weak lol I hear ya elsa ~ down the road .
From my understanding (correct me if I’m wrong), you have a Scorpio Moon, and I’ve noticed Cancer and Scorpio Moons and Lunar people in general can be pretty sensitive even if they do their best not to show it.
Tricky, if you’re talking to me, no I don’t have a Scorpio Moon. I have a leaving moon, lol!
Ah, okay, I must of confused moon signs with perhaps some other people who blog here, or who you talk about.
I was thinking of a possible lunar issue and not simply a Cap one, since despite the fact my chart is low on water and has no planets in Capricorn, my Moon does have a lot of aspects, and I can only blame so much on Pluto-not that it’s entirely blameless. I can identify with some of Cancerean sensitivity, but little else than that.
I have a leaving moon, lol!
Mine is void of course, but I suspect we’re talking about two different things. 
“the person has a new lover, wife or husband who doesn’t like me and they want to cut ties and go in the new direction.” This has happened more than once both to me and my sister . I would love to say that I accepted the new reality and moved on. But the truth is both of us were hurt. To suddenly lose a very good friend and confidant of years, well, it sucked.
Otherwise, agree. Most times, it’s like OK, I have no problem letting you go, equal respect required…
If someone doesn’t want me around, doesn’t like me, well… I will not beg them to stay. I take it seriously when someone says that although if it’s a relationship of any length I’d also like to know why.
The only Cap I have is Saturn, but it squares Venus, so I’m sensitive to rejection. But my Gemini moon is a blessing in cases like that. It allows me to move on after a mourning period.
what music said. The exceptions, my daughters and my sister. We have serious history, and new dude will just have to suck it up (besides, I know they’re possibly temporary and I’m forever permanent)
“Don’t you guys worry that maybe you’re losing someone who could have been very special?”
No. Their specialness is not determined by whether or not they had a relationship with me. I will think of them as special even as I honour their desire and leave them be. I honour their wishes BECAUSE I think they’re special.
Plus, I was taught not to beg at the table for scraps.
As the infamous Duckie said – I’m off like a dirty shirt….Cap Moon near MC, I do take it personally, but you won’t see it [I think....]. Reminds me of something one of my son’s friend said the other day, which is my saying of the week – if my presence is of no value to you, my absence shouldn’t matter….
Yes. Immediately. If I’m mad I may wreak a little havoc first though just to burn the bridge down.
My ex-boyfriend has seven planets in Capricorn and I could not get him away from me even with a ten foot pole. He’s still trying to cling for dear life and I’m trying not to be a complete bitch to him by simply saying GET THE F— AWAY! but he doesn’t seem to understand what “no longer in a relationship together means”.
Kashmiri, that’s twice in two days you’ve said something that tickled me to no end.
Caps value their own energy and time, so I think this stems partly from a sense of “if it’s not going to work, move on.”
For me being a Cap Sun/Mercury but also Venus/Saturn/Pluto in Scorpio, I’ve learned about both sides. Sometimes hanging in there isn’t a waste of time.
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