Astrology Meets Tarot!
In broken relationships, I find it much easier to deal with hateful messages than innocuous ones. That sounds counter-intuitive. But being told you’re the cause of all worldly woes isn’t confusing. "Rot in Hell!" doesn’t require follow-up questions.
Venom-spewing also removes the sense of "owing" a response. Politely-worded criticism or even otherwise neutral communications are much harder, because it triggers old feelings and the urge to respond. I always ask myself of this urge, "What is my goal here?" That’s the best guidepost I’ve found.
The Three of Swords is associated with Saturn in Libra. "The Heartbreak card" shows up to reference losses. Those swords cut, and the hurt rains down around the wound. When I see this card, I first move to acknowledge the suffering. Whether or not a situation appears to be a loss from the outside, it’s felt that way. Threes being the Tarot number of creativity and birth, it warrants attention that we see this card specifically when a situation has taken on a life of it’s own.
Using the Saturn in Libra association, my advice centers on balance (Libra) and boundaries (Saturn). Weigh out your needs and responsibilities. Saturn would also urge you to define your goals clearly, so you can know which decisions advance them. Libra cannot force others to be nice, but Saturn can cut off those who are not. Take responsibility (Saturn) for your part in continuing these partnerships (Libra).
The email diatribe outlining my perceived faults? Better off ignoring than getting sucked into defending. It’s unlikely anything I’d want to say would be heard, so what’s the point? If they keep coming, I can block (Saturn).
Less egregious hostility is trickier, but my best bet is to ask, "What’s the goal here?" That answer—civil interaction, possibly "someday" reconnection, being left in peace—whatever it is, gives indications as to how to proceed. The point is to face the reality (Saturn) of the partnership (Libra) as it is, accepting the losses you’ve had as real so you can more effectively make sure your role remains consistent with your goals.
How do you deal with difficult communications?
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