Gossip used to be a hot topic around here a few years back. (tag – gossip) Not so much lately but this post about Sexual Rumors got my attention. That poor girl.
I don’t like to gossip. It’s a 3rd house thing where my focus is on the 9th. I like big, broad ideas that are published out in the open, not little whispers, tiny lies and what becomes a game of Chinese Whispers aka Telephone.
That said, I am a frequent target of gossipers. My ears are burning all the time and occasionally someone tells me they heard I had three noses, four arms and a tail.
The gossip has little negative effect on me. I often think it works to my benefit but clearly in the case of the gal in the board who has an unearned reputation as a “slut” at her job, it can be incredibly damaging.
Occasionally someone emails me wanting to gossip and I always ignore the post. I don’t even answer because there is no nice, polite way to say, “I don’t like gossip” when someone is trying to start some and as for the gossip itself, I’d never believe a word of it anyway. If it’s true, put it out here, see? Never mind the motive for gossip is almost always skanky.
What are your thoughts on gossip?
28 Responses to “Gossip! Let’s Talk About It!”
I have actually told people off for gossiping. I don’t like it, it hurts peoples feelings and I feel it is bad karma.
I feel strongly about this subject, on how I think it is wrong. But then again we do live in a very gossip type age.
I admire that, sunny. I’d do the same but with a chart like mine, the non-response is probably just as effective.
I also tend to utilize gossipers. Tell them something knowing full well they’ll disseminate it.
When I stumble into it I feel like I’ve stepped in dog shit.
Elsa, I have seen what Gossip has done to people and it has even made my mother leave work over it. So not a fan. Since I was 14 I realised that I had to protect the ones who cannot defend themselves.
I wonder having a 10th house Libra Saturn helps, feeling the need for justice, that happens to conjunct my Pluto and Jupiter.
I have an empty 3rd house and with mercury in aquarius my mind is usually chasing other news. I feel I attract it though…. like lint! Always having to brush it off…keep the filter clean.
There is something kinda creepy about it. Some people seem to really enjoy ripping others to shreds behind their backs.
It’s ridiculous. I’ve been the target of flat out lies more than a few times over the years. Consequently, I don’t associate with people who believe everything gossipers say. If they’re not willing to get the other side’s story and fully believe what a known exaggerator or liar says, that’s not someone I’m taking into my inner circle.
yep, i’ve commented before on the boards about my stance on gossip
i hate it and much like sunnysadge will not tolerate it
my motto is ‘i gossip about the gossipers being gossipers’
—giving everyone within earshot a heads-up to their m.o.
I don’t like gossip at all. I hate it. I have seen lives destroyed because of gossip.
I meet the same thousands of people in my line of work and gossip is common. Even when I tell people I don’t want to know, they insist on telling me.
I swear I think they are just Bored. It just amazes me that people dont think there are consequences to their actions.
Yes, Elsa, I do the same thing–use others to pass on a message that I know the person can’t hear from me.
I have four planets in the 9th house. I’m not interested in gossip or second-hand unverified information. My background is in journalism. Facts only, please. Contrary to what is said about Geminis, I hate triviality, small talk, gossip, etc. My moon, mercury and venus in Gemini tightly square Pluto in the 12th house.
I’m the subject of gossip because I am very private. People seem to like to make up information about me in order to fill in the holes. It used to drive me crazy but now I don’t care.
Don’t like it, and either take it with a grain of salt, or tell someone outright that I don’t want to know. The only time I appreciate being filled in on something, is when I’m being caught up on something that affected me.
I was accused of gossip last week, when I hadn’t told anyone, anything about this person. In turn, they did their damnedest to hurt me (publicly, this time). They invited me to fight publicly, and I didn’t want to – just bringing drama to others.
I was also accused of it in December, but the real person behind it all has since been found.
I’ve always been the target of gossip, indeed malicious gossip destroyed my life in London, to the point I had to leave the city. It was unfounded too, but people went round saying loudly – so I could hear it – “No smoke without fire”. In my experience those are four of the stupidest words in the language
At the same time I’m fascinated by people and my Virgo likes to ‘research’ so I find it hard to stop myself listening to human interest stories, ie gossip. I do my very best always to keep an open mind however, and never to believe let alone repeat stuff which is just ‘gossip’ and may well be malicious
I have a third house venus so I love conversation and word play, however, venus is also conjunct the south node so–been there, done that.
I gave up gossip a long time ago.
I like your analogy, Elsa:
“It’s a 3rd house thing where my focus is on the 9th. I like big, broad ideas that are published out in the open, not little whispers, tiny lies…”
Why does it sound like the third house is being trashed, and the ninth house is being held in high esteem? Maybe it’s just my skewed take.
turtle, I did not mean it that way. This post is on gossip and I think what I wrote is valid. The 9th house has a shadow like everything else – for example, I am a pontificating asshole. 
It’s just that fact is off-topic and if I try to cover every little the thing the writing becomes – ugh.
Okay….well I guess my third house stellium Gemini is having some self-esteem issues.
Sometimes it’s just what happens when one sets up an “argument,” you know? Binary oppositions. House 3 vs House 9. Generalizations etc used to make a point. Just saying, I do similar things pretty often when I write– Doesn’t mean House 3 is “bad” or anything!
This made me think of who would be a great gossiper, say of of those people you would want to say something to so that it would go forth and multiply. I think I know!!
And speaking of 3 and 9, that’s where I have my Neptune/Saturn opp!
Gossip disturbs me. If someone talks about me, I don’t want to know. It acts like a poison.
Where I come from, gossip is even thought of as (I know it’s an exxaggeration but to make a point) killing a person, you kill their reputation and that’s often all a man (or woman) has.
Gossip also always involves at least three: the teller, the listener, the person it’s about. It drags everyone through the mud, ESPECIALLY the teller.
This has me wondering about posting places like this blog, or the boards. I didn’t say much at all, even online, in the past, but I’ve vented quite a bit recently, and in the past, have posted things that were personal to me (like at 43T), but nobody would know what (or who) I’m talking about. It drove my mother nuts when I wouldn’t confide in her – I’ve kept so much to myself, not wanting to set someone up to be judged, and it finally comes out when I no longer believe that I’m going to be knowing the person. I’ve also asked her more than once, not to repeat anything – either because it’s embarrassing, or I just don’t want things out there about someone else.
So, would things like boards and blogs count? I have Moon/Venus in Gemini, and don’t like gossip. I’ve been the target of it, and I know how much it can hurt.
Oops, I landed in the trash.
I’m reading a book about shame right now, with the focus on women, and how it affects them, the various things they feel shame about/around.
I have saturn in my 3rd house, i do not entertain heresay,its always open to the perception of those passing it on and very rarely accurate, never respecful…
ive been the target of gossip, harmless though. recently at work a girl said she had seen me crying after speaking to my supervisor. i had just gone off to the bathroom after having a perfectly normal conversation with him, and arrived back to the training room where everyone ran up to me asking if i was okay. i was completely bewildered, and amazed at how quickly this got around. ive always felt this guilty pleasure out of gossip, never made it a habit. but recently ive really made it a point not to say anything about anyone i wouldnt say right in front of them, because well, im not a pussy! lol.
oh no, my comment was deleted. anyway saturn going through my 3rd right now, and ive actually made a point of not saying anything about anyone that i wouldnt say right front of them. dunno why, just felt right, and the astrology just fits. now that i know that 3rd house rules gossip that is.. i agree with hipen, its never accurate. you realize this after gossip is spread about you, ive gossiped here and there as a guilty pleasure, i can appreciate the hilarity of it when it gets back to me, but lose all respect for the teller.
in my experience gossipers tend to be vicious. i always end up hurt by spending time near them. so i avoid it.
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