Absolutely i have a policy, i will not chase a man either. I say f#!& him before i chase.

The first sentence of the last paragraph is the kicker. “People rarely value that which is handed to them”.

Anything that comes easy is taken for granted, no exceptions! Believe it or not, this post has helped me make a very important decision. Thank you so much Elsa.

I chased a man once but then I took a wrong turn at Albuquerque.

l have some yang in my chart and l would go for what l want, no chasing on my part and l don’t like to be chased either. l did it when l was in puberty and my brain wasn’t fully developed
If someone is genuinely interested there is no need for chasing.
@Caroline yes venus in aries, it’s fine there are men that like women with initiative so no need to worry about that or to try to change anything about yourself.

I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to courting. My dad was my insight into this and since he didn’t provide insight unless he knew he was on target..I listened.

No, I don’t chase. Tried it once in about the 5th grade and was like..um..this is for the birds. i don’t expect to be chased either. Should be a mutual reception..you know?

I’m very yin myself and would seriously prefer to be chased.

But sometimes, if I like someone, I like having the liberty to get what I want.

My Mars and Venus are squaring each other (Leo and Taurus, respectively), which explains this.

So ok… hold on, the thing you said about not valuing something that is handed to you… so that doesn’t work the opposite direction? A woman should be dissatisfied with a man if he comes to her? Maybe I’m being obtuse, or just Aquarian…lol why SHOULD it really matter who comes to whom? There are certainly plenty of men out there who chased the woman they are with and STILL turn their heads at that other woman walking down the street, yes?
Ok… someone fill me in, I see what you are saying in the big picture of “how things are” in the world… lol, but.. really, it makes no sense.

I don’t, if they don’t like me right off the bat, I don’t think I could change their mind anyway. I rarely like anyone, but usually I’ll just sit back and watch them for a few weeks anyway to see if (a) it’s mutual (usually no), and (b) are they worth it (almost always, no).

Plus, well, I got socialized to be “womanly” like everyone else on this topic. If you chase him, he’ll HATE you, stuff like that.

I don’t chase men anymore. They don’t seem too interested in chasing me either. At least when I was younger and chasing there were some men in my life, but I do prefer it that way. Ultimately, chasing always ended in humiliation for me.

I’ll throw out bait if I’m interested. If he’s interested I’m happy to play tag. If not, other fish in the pond.

I am an aggressive, outspoken woman. I don’t think it’s fair to present myself otherwise – but I also don’t have to run him down and hit him over the head.

I used to chase them. My aunt, who was from the old school, said I was “too aggressive” with guys. Sun/Mars in the 5th.

After some humiliating rejections, I decided to cool my jets and let them show interest first. It paid off.

It was very hard for me to tone down my natural hunting instinct, but I was able to weed out half-hearted suitors.

Nope, I don’t chase. I let him start the chase. BUT, then it usually all goes to hell because my Mars in Aries kicks into gear. If I see him coming and it interests me, I’ll run up to meet him. And I’ve finally come to realize that THAT works about as well as starting the chase myself…meaning = it doesn’t.

So I’m learning to keep my Mars on a very tight leash, because I believe it IS true that men should (and need) to be the pursuers. (Now if I could just teach my Aries Mars some patience….)

I’ve never chased men {{{shudder}}}

With all my Cap and some Virgo, it really offends my sense of what is ‘proper’, in the true meaning of the word. I wouldn’t want the kind of man who’d respond to being chased, anyway (no Cancer Suns for me thanks!). Men will often screw what is offered them but they won’t respect you for throwing yourself at them. I’ve seen it over and over, but young women these days don’t seem to understand that. I very rarely even phone a man.

I know how to register ‘interest’ without being in the least forward. I’m happy to put myself in a man’s way to that purpose. But it has to be subtle, and he has to think he’s the one making the running

yes, like Blessed Place. my aries venus fishes with my live pisces bait.

Hi Tina, I hope I don’t start a war, but I have always felt I was the shiny object, the attractive thing, bait if you will, and then the man comes and gets it, campaigns for it.

All I can tell you is if he doesn’t, there will be no hook up because I am the woman… and consequently have the power.,

You’re welcome, Tina. Thank you.

P.S. I’ve let men know I’ve been interested, but never, ever have I chased a penis. And I never will.

I met a nice fellow at a party. After talking we kissed, swapped phone numbers, then I went on my way home. (by myself) The next evening I rang him and invited him over to mine for dinner. He arrived, we ate and talked then he went home. Much later he confessed he loved me ringing him first. He confessed he was shy, not sure how long to leave it before ringing me etc. Not sure this is exactly chasing him, but showing initiative!

Wow how times have changed. I came up in the time of the sexual revolution – the ’60s and ’70s – and I checked in with my husband just now to see if I was off base. He said he was with me – no need for any chase or games and it doesn’t matter who makes the first move etc.

Did I read something wrong? Maybe it’s my Jupiter,
Venus, Mars, Pluto and Sun conjunct in Leo in the 8th?

There’s the matter too of male pride. We women have taken over so many of the traditional roles and functions of men – esp financially. We boss them at work, we buy our own houses, we raise kids on our own.

Are we to take over their ‘courting and hunting’ role as well? I think it’s a big mistake. Nature doesn’t change that fast, no matter what the feminists in the media tell us

SaD. I agree. Only way I ever got any dates. I also agree with Elsa, no value to something handed to you. Makes for a difficult path forward

well you do not need to; you have a Scorpio man!

I’d actually love to hear more about the folks who don’t have men chasing them…. My challenge is that the one’s who chase are often doing it in such a way I don’t think they know who I am at all. Or sadly, others are single for a while…like me… and think we should go for it…but I feel like the vibe is off. Between all my pisces and my venus in capricorn – I feel like I can pick up how things might unravel. I don’t have a sense of timing or scope though. One of my other pisces friends thinks its a self fulfilling prophecy, but I think I’m just right…. and my intuition is really strong. The challenge is that no one’s perfect… so I tend to give people a shot… because the thing I can’t do is predict how much their flaws will mess with the relationship. And until recently… I hadn’t been meeting nice single men who didn’t bore me to pieces.

Cool! I also think unfortunately, that geography plays into this problem. I’m on a few free dating sites now, and the guys from NYC seem a million times more interesting and accomplished than the Philadelphia crowd. And we’re talking a mere ninety minutes apart. My friends that ended up here for work think Philly is very insular and cliquey. Its a shame, and doesn’t make a lot of sense… we have a ton of great colleges, decent museums, etc. My favorite guy is from the midwest.

Nice Post! I have never chased a man so far in my whole life. But If you are asking about my preference in courting I would say that any man who cannot chase me is not worth me.