Saturn In Synastry: Relationship Glue by Satori
“I’ve always kept clear of my father’s stuff ever since I got out on my own. And now he’s pulling me back in. He knew I wanted this boat and he used it and he got me working for him, which I swore I would never do. I feel ashamed because I had a price. He named it and now I know that about myself.”
–Patricia, Joe vs. the Volcano
Over the last few weeks I’ve noted people on the boards talking about Saturn aspects in relationship, the good, the bad. I’ve brought up that I think Saturn contacts in synastry are essential for longevity. I couldn’t come up with a concise explanation, though, which always irks me. I just found one in a song, Sixteen Tons, made famous by Tennessee Ernie Ford. I pulled one Pluto line out for my last blog, and in doing so I realized that while it has a Plutonian flavor, it’s a totally Saturnian song.
“Some people say a man is made out of mud
A poor man’s made out of muscle and blood
Muscle and blood, skin and bones…
A mind that’s weak and a back that’s strong.”
“You load sixteen tons, and what do you get?
Another day older and deeper in debt
St. Peter, don’t you call me, ’cause I can’t go
I owe my soul to the company store.”
It’s about work that never ends. That’s why Saturn contacts in synastry are like glue. That contact acts like a job to do, a job that never ends. You’re working on the relationship. To some that seems like a burden, to others it’s commitment.
Do you have Saturn contacts in synastry? Is it work? How do you feel about work?
18 Responses to “Saturn In Synastry: Relationship Glue by Satori”
I natally have mars conjunct saturn square sun. so of course saturn is inevitable for me. i’ve got 4 planets + ascendant in capricorn so obviously I can’t escape.
my saturn is exactly conjunct my friends sun. and his saturn is conjunct my descendant, square my moon and opposed my jupiter. fun right. classic 11 year age difference, he’s older. so serious from the very beginning. both of us are very saturnine natally so…ya know how it goes. this in combo with the double whammy moon opposed pluto…very powerful combination that we felt from the beginning we needed to be good stewards of.
Yes, his Saturn on top of my sun: 30 years of being ground into dust.
my s.n was conjunct ex’s Saturn. He didn’t want to make it work though..
My husband’s Saturn conjuncts my Venus. Most literature describes this as a negative and repressive. I do not see it at all, in fact, it’s very supportive.
Yes, it’s daily work to keep our communication and our lives in harmony but it’s work we both WANT to do to.
I have Saturn inconjunct venus natally and my husband is 16 years my senior and we are both amazed that we don’t feel our age difference.
Both my long term relationships (5 years or more) have been to men whose Saturn in Cancer trines my NN/Venus/Uranus in Scorpio and opposes my Capricorn Moon. I don’t think that’s a coincidence. They’ve had what it takes to “anchor” that energy down. With SO, my Leo Saturn trining all of his Aries Stellium (including Moon and Sun), but also loosely squaring his Venus. It did take time for me to start appreciating his very practical Taurus Venus, coming from a long relationship with a flashy Leo Venus (not conjunct my Saturn). But now I think Taurus Venus is “the keeper” of the zodiac, they give their best in long, committed relationships they feel secure in.
ThankYou Satori !!!
Great Post !!!
Blessings !!!
Satori – I love that you’re trying to tackle this sticky question…and that you put up the post about mars/Saturn in synastry.
Candela, thanks for the words of wisdom about Venus Taurus! New guy in my life has Venus/Taurus 
Ooooh Good Luck Mahchi, so hopes it works out for you, it’s time
Oh Satori!! Thanks so much for doing these posts on synastry!!! I’m learning so much from them and from everyone’s responses.
My saturn on his sun and his saturn conjunct my south node. A strong sense of fate and karma in our relationship and any sense of heaviness is alieviated by my Jupiter in Aries conjunct his Venus in Aries. We each have heavy family burdens that been been made easier with our relationship.
I once worked with a writer whose sun was conjunct my saturn. We got through the edit of his book very quickly. Lots of professional respect there too so I think Saturn-Sun conjunctions are a good aspect as long as there is there is some strong Jupiter, Venus and moon aspects to keep the relationship warm, loving, enduring.
Yikes. That should be “as there are*” not “as there is”. I need to edit myself before I post.
Work is a duty to me – in general, things I MUST do, I resent doing. But then, I feel guilty if I *don’t* do them.
Work has little to do with who I am and what I like (saturn square the nodes, opposition to the 6th house, square the nodes).
love saturn, his glue and maturity hand 
It’s fascinating, at first l was scared by it all but now l feel it does matures what it touches and it’s fine.
l’ve learned a lot by Saturns ‘hand’ and the people around me, it made it worthwhile being together.
You might have to adjust and understand the dynamics but l am sure you can deal with the ‘problems’ when you get to understand what causes them and if you really want to.
Saturn does help to stay together it makes you responsible for one another and makes it harder to loose eachother. l have some saturn connections with all my close friends.
l just feel you can work with everything as long as you are motivated!(ok l guess you need easy, fun aspects too, that helps )
There are diferent strategies needed for diferent types of problems.
saturn
sextile moon
conjunct mercury
sextile venus
saturn
conjunct moon
opposing mercury
@Luna; I’m experiencing that very placement. I can imagine being ground into dust is no fun, but were you able to recoup anything from it for yourself? Like a phoenix?
@Sam- I second that! Double hi-five to Satori!
Me and the bf both have our Suns trining each others Saturns. His is Sun in Aquarius trining my Saturn in Cancer 5.12 and My Sun in Leo trining his Saturn in Aries -4.07. I wonder how this plays out?
Also…his Saturn in Aries conjuncts my Mars in Aries 7.30 and his Saturn in Aries conjuncts my Chiron in Aries 0.32.
What are the aspects which represents the “glue” to the relationship?
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Yes – with the Man. My Saturn and Mars which are closely conjunct in Cancer, trine his Saturn in Scorpio and his Mars in Pisces. But I’ve always felt over all those years that I was the one doing the ‘work’! On the other hand it’s always ‘work’ for him to keep any relationship going – his romantic proclivity is constant change as per his Gem Venus and Aqua Moon
We have a hell of a lot of trines in our synastry chart inc from my Venus, and from my Moon to his Mars
- but there is a square Moon / Moon, argh