I have changed in many ways, but my basic nature, no.

Part of my sweeping changes has been part of a semi-structured program that encourages living in the moment, minimizing worry about the future, “one day at a time” type stuff. For awhile, I felt like I wasn’t doing the best I could because I was still living somewhat in the future, concerned about goals and plans and such.

Well, accepting myself is also part of my program, and I’ve come to a lot of peace accepting that I am significantly Cap/Virgo, and I am a goal-oriented, plan-making type of gal. I can’t always live one day at a time, because I may just one day at a time myself off the side of my current mountain.

And ya know what? I like being goal-oriented.

I’d say people are open to certain kinds of change. If it’s presented a certain way.

PS – Exalting, this is just what I think. It’s not popular, you are in the majority!

Honestly, after thinking about it, I don’t think I’ve as much changed as corrected, becoming more of who I truly am…when we are very young children we are who we truly are until we learn that’s not ok, so we learn to hide who we truly are.

I’m done with hiding.

I am fixed, way fixed. In some cases this means I tend to be too focused on the past. Case in point I wished everyone the best for 2010 in this year’s greeting card. And this wasn’t the first time I did that!
I agree with Curious, I have not so much changed as corrected and edited tendencies. For the good I hope.

I am twenty-three now, and I am exactly the same person I was when I was three. My character is fuller, richer, and more refined, but it is essentially the same. No one really changes. They may find new ways of directing their energy, but it is still the same energy.

l agree with you again on this. Even if l wished it was different and people can change.
The hard wired stuff will stay hard wired. Maybe the way people deal with it can look different sometimes…confusing!

Have no idea what is hard wired in me, l guess l’m still the same as always and can’t hide it.. at the moment head is foggy, down with a cold and stuff is spinning….:(

@ Elsa ” I realized I DO arrive at a place of peace… right before I pull back into traffic. ”

I’m starting to realize that I may be the person that burns herself down just so she can rebuild and feel the exaltation of rising from the ashes. Your comment in the quote really hit home.

“…any comment on were that puts me?”
Angie

Ahead of me? I don’t want to be offensive either but I always manage.

As I stated, this may only apply to me. I don’t see it that that way but you can see the reaction I get when I state by beliefs – my beliefs are abrasive!

“I really see no change at all in myself” … “I think it is like this for everyone”

yo. it took me soemthing like 40 years to realize that this is it, change isn’t going to happen on anything close to the significant scale which, when i was younger, i was so sure must be possible. what one can expect to achieve is a smoothing of the roughest edges but the shape stays the same.

and the same to you!

there’s an italian phrase akin to the leopard spot one, that i really like, because i find so much truth in it

this is the rough translation:
a wolf will shed its fur but never its vice

@ Elsa, “I don’t want to be offensive either…” I hear ya. “my beliefs are abrasive…” again, I hear ya. Thing is you’ll stand and fight for them. I think that’s what jars people more sometimes, personally I find it admirable (I got cancer: a straight on stand up fight just ain’t in my hard wiring LOL!). As for being “ahead of you?” Doubt it, but I don’t see it as ahead or behind anyway, it’s just where I’m at- most days I’m out here in left field! ;o)

As for the hard wiring, I’ll agree that doesn’t change in people. But my jury is still out on people changing how they direct their energies.
Angie

I’m hardwired to get my back up when someone tries to mother me or tell me they know what I should do. Doesn’t matter who it is or what it is.

For example, I love to read but if someone tells me I HAVE to read. I will simply not read. I want to do things intuitively, not by routine or because it’s good for me (I totally have no Saturnian influence in my chart, can you tell ).

(Virgo Sun in opposition to my Pisces Moon – 4 planets Virgo)

Well Burt Goldman(quantum jumping) says we can make changes to the blueprint, and with all the new neuro research happening i.e. Music and the Brain, Plasticity and the Brain, research on the absolute necessity of natural sounds to the ears, and Heart Math experiments with human resonating frequencies in regards to those of our animal companions and the planet itself…maybe we are destined to re-invent ourselves always being in process. I, for one, am grateful for the effect you have on your community, and your personal process is probably moving you into that place where you can observe it from greater heights with insight into how that (yours) process was so very necessary to help others along their paths to fullfill their process,m your part in the web…’the banging, being jarred around…the awkwardness in your perception, maybe was the ‘freeing’ dynamic for others… verbose, verbose … Maybe we can’t change the hard-wiring, but maybe its just about awareness, of the constellation we create when we come together with intention and heart.