“Look at this composite chart between me and this dude.”

“I’m not at my computer.”

“Oh… … …”

“Dammit, ok, hold on…”

I am reticent to get up and check out the chart between my dear friend and the young man she affectionately refers to as “this dude.” I am not busy, I’m not that tired, it’s just… we’ve done this a thousand times.  And out of that thousand (conservative estimate) times, only one has resulted in what could be considered an actual relationship.  So please excuse me if a point one percent return on investment doesn’t sound appealing to me. But she’s my friend (I mean that in the archaic sense of someone I spend time with in real life and whose company I value as opposed to the manager of an avatar that is networked with an avatar that I manage.) So, I do it.

“Do you see it?”

“Uh-huh.”

“Isn’t that cool?”

“I guess, I’m not really into composites.”

The composite chart contains a grand air trine.  Woopdie-freaking-doo.  This is what she wanted me to see. I take my glasses off and rub my eyes.  I ask her to tell me more about “this dude.” Because that’s what this is really about.  She wants an audience for her obsession.  Again, she’s my friend, so I oblige.

She met him a week ago.  There was drinking involved.  He’s cute but short…blah, blah, blah.  He’s not really talking to her right now…

“WHAT!?”

I put the “what” in there as a rhetorical device because I actually know exactly what she is going to say, but you dear reader maybe weren’t expecting her to say that he isn’t talking to her so,… “WHAT?! HOW CAN THIS BE?!”

She suddenly got mealy mouthed and said that maybe she might have texted him too much.  She thinks he might not be into texting because he sent her an angry text that said “Stop F#*%ing Txtng Me!!!11″

I saw this coming a mile away because she has repeatedly alienated guys with her oblivious overtexting. She wants to know if I think it will work out. At the risk of sounding like I spend to much time on the internet…facepalm!

She’s got Retrograde Venus and Retrograde Mercury in the 12th house.  Nobody freak out now.  I’m not saying that people with these placements are doomed to have bad relationships or poor communication skills.  Simmer down now! What I’m saying is that for her, this manifests as facing the wall, as far as communicating with her potential suitors is concerned.

Anything in the 12th house has the potential to be a real blind spot if you aren’t looking for it.  It’s where planets go to get away (be ignored.)  Add retrograde motion which tends to turn the attention inward and what do you get… well if you’re not careful, it’s the wall.

See, her Venus and Mercury are concerned with operating in her parameters according to her fantasy construct of “reality” and will happily do this unless consciously trained to interact with the outside.  In the 12th house, they are mostly unsupervised so they don’t get the training that they need if she wants to play well with others. P.S. They’re in Scorpio so this is where the obsessive vibe comes in.

These placements are actually a boon for her professionally.  She’s an imaginative designer who mostly works alone late at night.  And really there’s nothing wrong with obsessing over a guy you just met for the fun of it.  Its when you forget that its fantasy and make yourself vulnerable to hurt over something that was never really anything to begin with that you need to check yourself.

Also for those of you are equally oblivious, here’s a little tip brought to you by Saturn in Libra:

Text once.
Wait for a reply.
THEN text back.
Do NOT send more than 8 texts in a row to someone who has yet to respond.  It’s bad form.

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