I have a friend who is struggling in a new environment. It’s no fun but I think he will be fine longer term. He tends to get off to a rocky start and has a struggle but invariably people grow to love him.
I have a similar experience. I grow on people, often against their will. I’m thinking this is a function of the water signs and houses. You know. Shut the door all you want, we’re going to seep in anyway and once we do you get used to us.
Do you grow on people?
35 Responses to “People Who Grow On You..”
No, either you love me or hate me. No in betweens
Always. I get alot of projections for good or bad (pisces asc)and so it takes a while for people to really get to know me. Even took me a long time to get to know me. I can be painfully reserved which people take how they want, so i think people are just grateful that someone comes out at all. I like people like that myself, layered people. Most of my friends i haven’t clicked with straight away and we’re tight as. Other people who i have, tend not to last so long.
Hi guys,
I’m starting to feel awkward posting my opinion without having to introduce myself, since you guys seem to be a tight bunch. So, hi everyone! My name is Elena, I’m from Macedonia, currently finishing my MFA in Graphic Design, and am currently suffering from astrology fever. Virgo Sun, Moon and Venus, Asc in Gemini. It’s very nice to be here among you!
Cheers.
About making friends…I usually need and instant spark, approachable chatty people always have a green light! Sharing quirky stories of embarrassment and jokes a must.Women friends are Sags and Gemini, men…Gemini and Aquarius. In all instances it was love at first chatting.-)
I don’t know. I always know when people don’t like me right off the bat…but there are a few people that I am not sure of and find out later they like me/don’t like me.
Sometimes. Depends on the person. Generally it seems more like other people grow on me than the other way around.
I grow on people, I think, but I don’t have water signs much. I have air signs. Does it work the same for wind as for water?
Becca, don’t you have a packed 12th house?
Also Moon in Aquarius, so a total of six planets in air signs. The only water I’ve got is Neptune and the Midheaven in Scorpio.
ditto to MahEggo’s answer…I know right away when they DON’T like me…but there are often ones I’m not sure of & don’t find out one way or another until later…
Hmmm… Not exactly. It’s more like they realize I’m likable after I’ve gotten comfortable to let my guard down around them. Until then, they sometimes find me too cold and/or abrasive to get near, I think. *shrug* I’m not bothered by it though… I’m very Aries with a very cardinal chart. *lol*
“Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it” –Lao Tzu
I just assume everyone does like me to begin with. 
Most of the time, I think they do, although I know I can sometimes be intense and this bothers some. But I think I project enough of “me” out there that the folks that wouldn’t like me tend to stay away…
hm, over a year later and Becca has definitely grown on me! I always look for her comments and blog posts.
Wow, thanks, Satori. I’m honored.
And over a year later I’ve finally noticed Elsa’s reference to water houses as well as water signs. I’m slow, but I get there.
yup, I just keep liking you better and better.
I just noticed the water signs thing too.
I like Becca too! She is an unique entity, totally distinctive and forthright, my favorite kind of people!!
Well *somebody* needs to be polite around here and welcome Elena…
Hi, Elena!
(chuckle) My bad. Sorry that welcome came a year too late, Elena!
I draw strong responses from others… You either love me or hate me. I don’t think I grow on anyone if they don’t like me to begin with… I suppose it could happen.
God I hope so.
There was a woman who started working in my department early on. Very upfront, in your face, knew a lot, and would let you know it. One day I was talking to my manager, and just, honestly, bitching about this woman. My manager,( who I hadn’t really gotten along with until one day, we had a huge row, and then everything was good afterwards) got quiet and then said, “well, actually, she kind of reminds me of you….”. Point was taken, albeit somewhat painfully, and that woman and I became friends.
In signs, I have some water, but lots of fire. Get lots of projections, most of them far off the mark, but like Z, most of the time, the ones with the immediate click don’t work out, while the friendships that take longer to develop, do.
I think I definitely grow on people… I find that I’m almost always at first glance found as weird or kooky or I don’t know what they get of me actually.. Can’t really see it (Pisces MC and Neptune opp. ASC.. and just a lot of Pisces in general) but after a while I get the “You’re actually cool!”… Always found it bizarre how I’m being portrayed at first and how minds change over time and my personality didn’t change!! Like I want to understand what changed their minds… well as long as the end result is positive, it’s good enough I guess!
Nope I am a right away or not at all person.
Thankfully it usually works out.
The girl who ended up being my bridesmaid told me afterwards that she had wanted to leave where we both worked when she first met me because I was so intimidating. I had no idea. Pisces me??? Intimidating?? To be honest, I thought SHE was a little intimidating (she is a Sadge Sun). Must have been my Aries Ascendant because I’m the least intimidating person I know LOL. We are still in contact 30 years later so we must’ve grown on each other.
I have no idear. You’d have to ask the people. Hahaha! Mold grows on things, so I guess it’s not impossible I might grow on people… :S
I’ve grown on people.
I have a Scorpio ascendant, conjunct Uranus, trine Mars.
When I was little, I didn’t need to grow on people. I’d had no real experiences that left me doubting myself or others, I loved everyone, and they loved me. Shame that utter confidence in myself disappeared.
I also have an Aries Sun, and Neptune trine my Midheaven.
Several people have said that they see me as more Pisces (and occasionally Scorpio). That Pisces Mars aspects more than my ascendant and rules my Sun.
I tend to get a strong reaction one way or another from people, but if I’m around someone who didn’t like me at first long enough I’ve found that I usually grow on them at least up to a neutral/civil point.
yep. i’ve got water, and i definitely grow on people.
i don’t think i make much of a first impression. but give me enough time…
I usually grow on folks however people don’t usually grow on me. Unless I have to work with someone whom I am not popular with I do my best to make it as pleasant as I can.
pretty much.
definitely. usually it takes time as pisces/cancer rising i’m quite reserved. also, with mars-in-leo and pluto-close-to-ic/opposing-sun – i easily attract confrontations. so a lot of times it’s people either love me or they hate me – but even those i’d fights with, later admit it was ok.
otoh, i’ve learned even those people who consider themselves “enemies”… all of them taught me some essential lessons. & i’m grateful for that.
Yes, but I don’t think it’s an one way street. Basicly, people have told me the initial vibe I send is friendly but distant. I’m a Sun/Pluto, and also a Capricorn Moon, with deep trust issues. When I was younger, I would often put people in test, and obviously, most would have failed. Nowadays I see that I’m a part of this process. My own actions can help me to gain people’s trust and respect.
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That’s really interesting!
I don’t know. Maybe a little because I’m usually shy at first and it’s really hard to get to know me.