Is A Relationship That Begins When Venus Is Retrograde Doomed?
Venus retrograde in Scorpio – Oct 8th 2010 – November 18th, 2010
This is a common question. People want to know if a relationship is doomed if it begins during a period where Venus is retrograde. A lot of astrologers say this is the case but I have seen no evidence of this. If a healthy baby can be born with Venus retrograde, then why not a relationship?
There are successful people with Venus retrograde in their chart. They are successful in life and successful in love so if we can get a flesh and blood baby, high functioning with Venus retrograde in the chart, surely it does not doom LOVE.
Other astrologers stop short of saying you’re doomed. Instead they tell you the outcome of the thing won’t be known until Venus turns direct and goes beyond the point where it turned retrograde.
This is confounding to me because you aren’t going to know the outcome of a relationship with someone you just met within 3 months anyway.
Keep in mind that were dealing with energy here, which by it’s nature has endless ways it might express. That right there puts a big dent in these hard and fast rules that have no basis. For you all know, you invite you new prospect over for dinner and the cake you bake, falls. Right there’s your Venus (sugar) retrograde. If he’s smart enough to eat the fallen cake and tell you it’s delicious, you just might marry him, so there.
Look at that woman in the painting. Think she’s not going to get what she wants because a planet is Rx? Come on.
I wonder how many masterpieces have been painted or sculpted with Venus retrograde? Countless no doubt and when you consider things like this, the answer is pretty clear.
Q – Are relationships that begin with Venus retrograde, doomed?
A – No.
What do you know about Venus retrograde?
pictured – Ingres, Grande Odalisque, 1814
16 Responses to “Is A Relationship That Begins When Venus Is Retrograde Doomed?”
Yeah, I didn’t title that picture. Knew it was wrong but didn’t know what was write. Will fix… 
Love this! A much better perspective than the barrage of doom and gloom out there on Venus Rx.
i have venus retrograde. may be why i have diabetes. *shrug*
but i do fine with relationships. if a little oddball and quirky in some ways. i like the way i’m drawn.
I did fall for someone during a Venus retrograde, only to have him completely turn around and reject and ignore me for no apparent reason about two months later. That was not fun, and I’m still slightly wounded by it. So… I felt like after Venus went direct, he changed his mind and decided he didn’t want me anymore. Kind of like a Mercury Retrograde, you want to return the purchase you made.
So, I am still wary during Venus Retrogrades because of that little sting in the past.
Petra, it is possible that might be the norm for you but when you put a wide lens on this… well it’s just like Mercury Rx. I bought this computer with Mercury Rx and had a hell of a time setting it up but since – Vroooooooooooom!
i have natal venus rx (and for what it’s worth, mercury rx too).
i’m 27 and feel like i’ve had at least 3 “love of my life” intense relationships thus far.
i think my venus rx manifests as being a late bloomer, or feeling like things don’t come easy in the relationship department. i’ve been boy-crazy since i was 5 but had to wait till i was 14 to feel like boys actually liked me.
the upside has been that because i don’t take it for granted, i work extra hard on my relationships and on my personal happiness. i don’t think venus rx is an actual handicap – i just think it’s a time delay that affects one’s character. it forces one to not take it for granted. all the venus rx women i know are the types who hate makeup and are very adamant about a guy “taking me as i am”.
Well my daughter planned a wedding in April of 2009 when Venus was retro. I told her it was asking for trouble, but she had to go with it. The marriage lasted only 17 months. Maybe if the marriage or baby makes it to the progression day, turn around, the energy shifts and can move forward…maybe?
I was reading another astrologer recently who also said she didn’t have much truck with this idea. Apparently the other thing you’re not supposed to do is invest money or make important purchases, but she said that two antique dealers she knew always found their best bargains during Venus rx.
So maybe it’s that thing that doesn’t look like it’s worth anything much might turn out to be something really valuable?
No, a relationship is not necessarily doomed. My friend got hired for a new job when Mercury was retrograde. We were interested to see what would transpire. What happened was that the terms of her employment changed, but she still continued to work there. I think starting a relationship under Venus retrograde is much the same. Some aspect of the initial relationship will change, something ‘Venusian,’. Maybe what you like to do together will change, or how you relate will change, or what you thought you first valued about someone may not be what you end up valuing, or whatever. Someone I know refers to it as a ‘false start.’ An aspect of it gets re-worked.
Or, it dies.
I’ve been wondering this too. I started dating a guy a couple of weeks ago…very, very beginning stages, so who knows what will happen. But, this is still the shadow period of Venus Rx, so I wonder if it can still affect it? I have Venus Rx in Gemini in my progressed chart, so…maybe it can work out better for me due to this?
Both of my two recent relationships have begun under a venus retrograde… Looks like this last one might be ending as we enter another V.R. I must also note that it’s possibly ending due to venusian issues.
i found my last two apartments during venus retrogrades and they were awesome + way cheap.
Elsa,
This new Moon lands in my 5th house/Libra!
I met someone a year ago (was Venus retrograde Oct. of 09?). We felt a karmic bond. Danced around romance. In April this year he ran from commitment. He’s very wounded from end of his marriage. He separates love from passion to protect himself.
We each feel a loss w/out the other. Friendship and chemistry alive. We communicate well.
Will this retrograde help us to see that we can “be”, or that we never can be?
I have Venus natally in Virgo, conjunct Mars. He has natal Venus in Gemini.
treasure your writing, thank you
Welcome, janie. I would not judge something like that without the whole chart. You’re welcome to post your question and the charts on the boards here:
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There is an advice section and someone will probably weigh in.
i was born with venus in aries retrogade….going back fast!! and a venus ruled chart…whether or not i’ve been successful in love would depend on a perspective…my relationships haven’t lasted but returning (as friends) is a constant theme.
in general, my whole life has been a journey of circles always taking me back to the people and places i’ve loved most…i’ve moved back to the same place in 4 different countries over the course of 20+ working years …. always good for the rerun…..
as for meeting someone during venus rx that i don’t know. at the moment i have someone on the line, happens to be my first male friend age 4…(true)….we had memorable first play date then when i broke his bunk bed after playing ‘tarzan and jane’ and swinging about…(he’s an aries and with my venus there…only natural) ….. so long story short 45 years later he is in brazil and i’m in the middle east and we’re still thinking about next episode….or last episode in ’65 and thay may be venus rx! : )
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Thanks for this post, Elsa! I am just beginning a relationship I hope will prosper, so it’s good to hear.
“If he’s smart enough to eat the fallen cake and tell you it’s delicious, you just might marry him, so there.” LOL!
Oh, and the painting is by Ingres, not Renoir.