My husband is a double Virgo; I sometimes refer to him as “Captain Virgo” because he wears his Virgo like an Alpha geek. I usually like folks who have their Sun and Moon in the same sign, because they  tend to act consistently with their feelings. What you see is what you get, and I appreciate that. That’s true of him. Since we’re talking double Virgo, I’ve also seen him adjust his emotional responses when they don’t stack up logically. I think this is a very nifty trick, and am working on learning it from him.

Today’s Tarot is Judgment, number XX of the major arcana, associated with Pluto. Don’t let this lovely angel distract you. Judgment is about exactly what it sounds like: judgment day. It’s time to reap the fruits of your choices. But I prefer the Esoteric Christian version of what the day means, where the sheep (attuned and transforming) progress forward and the goats (straggling and denying) get left behind, living with the consequences of their choices. This is consistent with my perception of Pluto work. Quick learners have it easier with Pluto.

Now, my husband and I have always had a good relationship. High connection, limited strife. We feed and support one another naturally, bringing out the best in each other. We’ve got a solid bond. But you cannot be married to the same person for over twenty years without any discord. It’s just not going to happen in this life. As we grew up together over the years, increased maturity made disharmony less frequent. But a couple of years ago, we had a noticeable turning point, courtesy that Virgo moon.

While I’m FAR from perfect (and smart enough to admit it), there is one thing you can rely on about me: my intention is always good. I love fully, and try to act always in a loving, helpful way. I fall short, but that’s my intention. My husband knows this better than anyone. Somewhere along the way, he made a decision to factor this in to our interaction fully. In other words, when I annoy him, he reasons himself out of becoming angry. Knowing I’d never intentionally irritate him, he instead takes responsibility for managing it, and lets his irritation diffuse instead of pointing it at me.

“Oh, you poor thing,” he may say to himself. “Dixie wants to hug you when you’re busy. I feel so sorry for you, having this woman bothering you,  hugging and kissing you all the time, when you’re just trying to concentrate. That’s soooooo awful…” The logic isn’t there, so he can let it go very quickly. For my part, I’ve learned that not everybody is me—shock!—and others can greatly benefit from space when they’re feeling frustrated, instead of my natural approach to attack a rift immediately.  I find disconnection disturbing, but have found when I’m not hit directly with anger, it doesn’t feel personal anymore. I’m much better at tolerating the space until the sense of connection rolls back in. Between the two of us, we’ve been able to accommodate the other’s needs better. Our interactions have gotten even better as result.

Judgment always encourages taking a balanced accounting. Taking responsibility for your own happiness, understanding the connection between choices and consequences, and being willing to work around your own weak points helps transform the situation into something more rewarding. The trick to working with Judgment is being even-handed and completely honest in your assessments  of self and other. You get out what you put in.  For my Virgo moon man, that seems to translate into him consciously assigning highest value to what he considers most important, and setting aside stray emotional reactions to the rest as so much (illogical) noise.

Anybody else love a Virgo moon? How do you see it play?

Shadowscapes Tarot by Stephanie Pui-Mun Law

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