Feeding The Moon: How To Date A Woman With A Capricorn Moon by Satori
“You intend no doubt to give me nothing, and are not aware the gift has already been received. Curse me then, and take away the spell. For I am rich; no cheap and ragged beggar but a queen, to rouse the king I need in you.”
–Alice Walker, The Gift
When you date someone you are interacting with their whole chart. Perhaps you were drawn to her mars, her energy, her rising sign or venus, the way she looks or swings her hair, but if you want to get and keep her you’re going to have to feed her moon.
The Capricorn moon is Saturn-ruled and in its detriment. That is to say that Saturn and the moon do not make comfy partners. The moon is all soft edges and Saturn is just the opposite, literally. The signs they rule oppose. Capricorn moon has a conservative heart. Other planetary placements may mask this but ignore it at your own risk.
A Capricorn moon woman needs your respect. She also needs to respect you. Her moon is discerning and whether she chooses to admit it to herself or not, she will know in her heart if you offer only fool’s gold. Tell her the truth. She can take it. She may not like it but she needs your emotional integrity. She has plenty of her own and will not easily settle for someone who disrespects her by offering less than is her due.
There is a good reason for this judgment. Capricorn works hard and ages backward. She has the heart of the little red hen. She planted the seed, weeded the field, reaped the grain, and baked the bread. If you want to share it with her you’d better have showed up and worked alongside. In this context, aging backward means she put her emotional work first and it’s at the end of the timeline that she may relax and enjoy the fruits of her labor. In relationship terms she has had a “right heart” with you and expects the same if you want to share her bread and eventually her hearth.
The moon and Saturn are parental constructs. Capricorn moon women often have experienced restrictions in their upbringing, issues of parenting in their families of origin. Often the mother was restrictive, critical, ineffectual, or absent in some way. Capricorn moons often become adept in parenting themselves and can fall into the role of parenting the partner. Awareness of this will allow you to spot an emerging power differential. Don’t facilitate this by under-functioning or over-functioning. Be a partner, not a son, not a father. Do the right thing and you will earn her respect as an equal. And that right there is a great reason to do the work with a Capricorn moon woman; it will bring out the best in you.
19 Responses to “Feeding The Moon: How To Date A Woman With A Capricorn Moon by Satori”
a briliant description for women with cap/moon, classy and much more from I remember. sweet memories
Loooove the little red hen analogy!!! So true being a capricorn moon in aspect to saturn 
R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!
‘emotional integrity’ … ‘works hard and ages backward’ … “emerging power differential” … there’s gold in those words.
Thank you!! I’ll take my satori any way I can get it. 
I can really relate to this..I have Venus in Capricorn so this does resonate…with Moon in Virgo, they work hand in hand to build structure, integrity and to discern and divide out those that are not serious. I see love as a fine wine that needs to ferment and not to be drunk before it’s time.
That speaks to my Cappy Moon… I don’t want to parent my partner. I’ve already raised three children and trying to parent a grown man feels pretty futile to me. My hubby is very self-sufficient and responsible. He has earned my respect by being an adult and working hard to help build our home and security. He feels like my equal. I cannot say that of former partners… Good points, Satori. Well written and it rings true to my deepest moon-ness… Thanks!
Thanks for the article, Satori. It rings true. I’m a Cap sun married to a Cap moon man. Both of us have Moon square Saturn, too. We have lots of Saturn going on in our household.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I couldn’t have said it better myself. As a matter of fact I think I am going to print this, and maybe at some point hand to some guy and say here is my owner’s manual. There is a line in an old Fleetwood Mac song that says, “Are you strong enough to be my man?”
My last husband was my biggest challenge, he was an alcoholic, mama’s boy, I walked away from that saying that I am never, ever, going to be anyone’s mama again. You just described my whole life, randomly disappearing parents, a cheating father, I always felt like no one ever had “my back” or “stepped up to the plate” for me.
Another thing men don’t get, is once they realize the relationship is going down hill and they want to repair it. I usually end up saying something I can’t. I don’t like you and I don’t respect you, and they always seem to say something like, ‘But do you love me?” They just don’t get it, how can you love someone you don’t like, or respect.
Here you go again, g’friend, I tell people I don’t know what love is, but I know what it ain’t. Well thanks again for the owner’s manual. This from my Cappy moon and venus in the 10th to boot!!
Oh and one more thing, can you tell you got me fired up. That aging backwards things, STRAIGHT UP, I feel like that since my girls have left the the nest and biologically I am done being able to be anyone’s mom ever again. I have re-entered my *second childhood* and it pisses me off when people tell me to grow up and act my age. WTF is that all about, yes I did earn this position in this time of my life. I had to start *parenting* my youngest sister when I was 8 and over the years I had to learn how to parent myself, but now, gigs up.
Thank you for posting this I can’t wait for the reverse aging to start!
Wow, this is perfect. I’m not a Cap moon, but I’m a Cap sun, and my Virgo moon trines Sun and is conj. Saturn. I related so much to this. I think I’m going to show it to my sister, who is a Cap moon.
@daisy – once again, I hear ya. You’re describing my childhood and my last husband! I still have some years to work for that second childhood though. Good to see you’ve gotten there.
“Capricorn moon women often have experienced restrictions in their upbringing, issues of parenting in their families of origin. Often the mother was restrictive, critical, ineffectual, or absent in some way. Capricorn moons often become adept in parenting themselves and can fall into the role of parenting the partner.”
Yep, that’s me. Satori, you really hit the nail on the head here. Loved the little Red Hen analogy too. Thanks for this post.
Thank you, I really enjoyed your insights.
Oh my goodness, This is me to a T. Cap moon for sure. Super responsible, I am 70 and looking forward to retiring and doing my own thing. Thanks so much.
*standing ovation* I’ve not a thing in Cap- but, my Mother is, and this is certainly one of the most brilliant pieces I’ve read. Satori- You ROCK!
have a 10th house moon and can VERY much relate to your descriptions here. it also squares my saturn in the 7th, so it amps up the cappy moonish energy.
excellent advice, i may add.
brilliant – offering fool’s gold, i know that one.
Satori… you’ve outdone yourself with this one!
*Standing Ovation*
Hoorah!
Thanks =)
Satori, thank you for sharing timely insights, knowledge and experience. Moon, Saturn, Neptune in the 10th with Cap rising, here. Just ended a three year relationship this very morning. I’d rather be alone than feel the need to overcompensate due to a lack of emotional integrity, respect or commitment. Hopefully, there will be dear friends to share my bread and hearth. My desire for a deep and meaningful relationship with one man is squelched.
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“Capricorn moon women often have experienced restrictions in their upbringing, issues of parenting in their families of origin. Often the mother was restrictive, critical, ineffectual, or absent in some way. Capricorn moons often become adept in parenting themselves and can fall into the role of parenting the partner.”
Soooooooo true, satori. I love this–the little red hen analogy especially. My Cap Moon is in aspect to Saturn as well. I swear to god if I didn’t have this Moon placement I would have fallen off the edge of the earth by now.
I also have Pluto opposed Venus/Mars in Cardinal on my 10th/4th House axis. I parent both of my parents to some degree and have to work like a demon not to do it to my partner.