A reader asks…
“Why do guys mention other women while in a relationship? I know this guy and he keeps mentioning other women. Oh this one fancies me, must phone her etc. I thought he liked me but am beginning to think the opposite…”
Two things that come to my mind. First he’s probably insecure. Anyone confident about their desirability has no need to broadcast this sort of thing. Feeling they are attractive, they assume this is apparent to others so there is no need to point it out over and over.
The other thing that stands out is the fact he tells you he’s going to call them. That’s a distancing mechanism. He is not committed to you. Feeling insecure, he is making you feel insecure as well.
As to whether he likes you, a better question to ask, is do you like him? Because he sounds like a flake to me. It would be one thing if he were, 21 but when you’re nearing 40, so he must be of similar age and acting like this at this stage of life is telling.
Personally, I have Venus in Leo and if a man said this kind of thing to me, I’d hand him the phone and walk away, never to return.
How would you feel if your partner prattled on about others? And what would you do?