Conversations With Ben: On Being an (Aquarian) Individual
Astrology in Real Life…
3 years ago on the Elsa blog…
Ben is a Scorpio with Aquarius rising. He has Uranus conjunct his descendant, exacerbating (enhancing) his Aquarian qualities. He’s got this to say:
“I know why they copy me.”
“Why?”
“Well they admire me, of course. But the thing they admire about me is that I am an individual. So rather than absorb this and go out and be an individual themselves, they go out and try to be me!” He laughed. “How can they be that stupid? Seriously. How can a person be stupid enough to think you can be an individual by copying someone else?”
“I don’t know.”
“Well, Elsa, I’m telling you it makes me insane. IN-SANE. I don’t think there is anything I hate worse than someone who thinks they can be an individual by pretending to be me. Except passive aggressives, maybe. I hate them too but anyway let me say this. Let me get this out.”
“Okay.”
“There is only one of each of us. There is only one me. in this world and no one else is going to get to be him, but me. Not that it’s great to be me, because it’s not. My life is horrible as you know, but it is MY life. So how does a person think they can be me or anything even close to me, when they are not me? They don’t look like me, they don’t feel the things I do, think the things I do. So what is it they are trying to do? What’s wrong with their own life? What is wrong with their own person that they have to try to be me?”
“I don’t know,” I said. “I have no idea.”
“Well either do I, but I think we are put on this earth as individuals and to live any other way… it’s an offense. It’s an offense to the universe to spend your time trying to be anything other than the person you are in your own right. How dare someone even try to mimic another person? The audacity!”
“Well, I agree with you.”
“If you don’t like yourself? If you aren’t happy with who you are? If you’re boring or if you bore yourself? Then go and do something about! Go make yourself into something you do like. But you can’t become individual by copying someone else. Wearing what I wear and saying what I say is not going to help you.” He stopped to sigh. “Anyway, Elsa, enough. I’m sorry but this is a pet peeve of mine. It is probably the biggest pet peeve I have. And if as many people tried to copy you as they do me, you would probably understand it. For once I would like to do or say something and not see other people doing and saying it a week later. For just once. Because they way it is, it’s as if I have to live in a world of my own clones!”
I laughed.
“I only wish it were funny. What it is, is disturbing. Whatever I wear, they wear. Whatever I eat, they want to eat it. Whatever I say, they say. I swear it’s enough to make a person mad. What’s Benjamin doing? What’s Benjamin thinking? Let me go find out so I can see what I am going to do and think tomorrow. Gah. I hate that. But I won’t say it anymore. I don’t mean to rant like this but sometimes you just want to say how much you hate something. It’s either that or explode.”
Do you have a pet peeve?

14 Responses to “Conversations With Ben: On Being an (Aquarian) Individual”
being copied.
people who manage to work their way into every area of your life, not realising that you might have been keeping some of those spaces as places to take a break from them. pictures that are hanging crookedly.
but i think the big one is when people misspell other people’s names. like using a “Y” instead of an “I”, or the wrong form of Geoff/Jeff, Allan/Alen. someone’s name is who they are, and spelling it wrong seems like a kind of disrespect somehow. same thing for calling a “Kimberly” Kim or “Susan” Suzie, when they prefer the long forms.
wow…ben is a bit similar to me. My ascendant is in
Aquarius also, I’m a Taurus, and my Uranus and Midheaven in Sagittarius trine my descendant. I often find that people make gold mines out of ideas I have thought of long before I felt ripped off.
silverfoot you wouldn’t believe how many times this happens to me. I even have trophies and certificates from school with my name wrong, which i think is a real rip-off!
I am an often copied individual, with nearly everything in my chart aspecting Uranus, but it almost never bothers me, if I like it, do it, think it, why shouldn’t they too? Venus trine Uranus. I like sharing my individuality…
my pet peeve:
sunglasses on babies, especially on, but not limited to, pro life billboards.
Babies in jean or ear ring’s.
Tattoo’s , god do I hate tattoo’s, yuk, like branded sheep.
A good job for the future would be someone who removes tattoo’s , they are going to be so , so buzy.
People that offer to help but then never take action on their words, or people that ask if you need help and you tell them how they can help you and that’s the last you hear from them.
“I don’t think there is anything I hate worse than someone who thinks they can be an individual by pretending to be me”
EW. my SWF at work did this constantly. The best (worst?) was when I took pity on our boss, who’s a bit infantile and his wife went out of town. He was barely eating so I brought him smoothies for breakfast. (Not brown-nosing, Taurus just hates hungry people)
So…guess who starts bringing in smoothies for the boss? I didn’t care and hoped she would start bringing him lunch too but I guess she was waiting for my lead.
Karen & Janet wouldn’t like my house
my 16 month old is constantly in jeans (and has been since age 6 mos.), they just hold up better than pants in other materials. Unless you mean tiny babies, then yeah I agree.
Sunglasses, it depends I figure if it’s bright enough out that I wear sunglasses so does the baby.
Last summer she cried when we took her outside and finally figured out the brightness was bothering her.
My pet peeves mostly people who talk on their phones while driving, or people who constantly texts or check their phones while with others.
My biggest pet peeve is being told what to do. I have so much Aries and Sagittarius in my chart I need to feel free and not controlled.
PEOPLE WHO DON’T USE THEIR SIGNAL LIGHT!!!
i always get stuck behind them.. blagh
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yeah, people who spit on the sidewalk. Those people should be spanked.